I'm having a miscarriage :'(

[SweetKisses]

Well....I posted on here a couple days ago about finding out I was pregnant. Which was confirmed by the doctor (blood test) and 2 hpt both positive.

And today after my very first doctor's appt. I came home and started having cramps....i went to the bathroom and there was a huge blood clot. I just fell on the floor crying...I've been bleeding ever since and having the worst cramps of my life. I really wanted this baby. The doctor told me that it was very early in the pregnancy and 50% miscarry this early on. My fiance was like..that 50% wont be us don't worry.   Im so disapointed in myself.

I just can't stop crying and I have so much work to do that is due tomorrow and all I want to do is cry. This was the first time I was ever pregnant and I miscarry. What's wrong with me? I just feel so terrible.


:'(    I really wanted this baby.

[MelliMel18]

I am so sorry for your loss, and know how you feel. I miscarried at 8 weeks, and that is how it started for me two . I was cramping from the day i found out i was preggo, to the time i miscarried. I just knew something was wrong. I know this is hard, trust me i know. But NOTHING is wrong with you.  m/c's are so common, and happens to most women. Take this time to heal, and take care of yourself, and it is ok to grieve. I still greive now, i lost the baby in sept 07.  My supposed due date is in about a month, and that will be the hardest for me. Just think that there may hve been something worng with the baby, and this is gods way of taking care of it.  Better now then if you were like 30 weeks, or even later. its ok.  Take care of yourself, and just heal. I would start trying to conceive when you are ready.  Preferably wait until you get your first period. It takes time. It has been 7 month since my m/c and still no luck. I think my body is still healing.

[natemomma27]

ive been there twice within 8 months of each other...the last miscarriage being in Feb 08...dont blame yourself. for whatever reason the baby wasnt able to survive and is now with the angles. im here if you need some one to talk to!

[sweetangel7]

Sorry to hear of your bad news...I had a mc in December...with no cramping...I went in for an u/s at 8weeks because I had a tiny spec of pink when I wiped and it put me into a panick and when I went in they told me I was probably going to mc...I waited 3 more weeks and didn't mc however the baby wasn't developing so I knew it was over...this was my first baby too...i was so devastated the day we got the news I cried for like 2 1/2 days nonstop and I went back to work on Monday (had the mc news on a friday) and cried all my way to work...I still cry about it to this day...and it is okay.  You can message me if you need someone to talk to.

[110279hld]

I had my 4th m/c in the beginning of March, but I have 2 beautiful, healthy baby girls (4 and 11 mos)  It is just something that happens and it sucks and it never gets any easier, but there is hope and life after a m/c.  Good luck.  It will def. take time to heal, but you will be okay!

[JoyRenee]

I don't want to give false hope, but some women do bleed heavily during pregnancy, even with clots. I wouldn't give up hope until you get your HCG levels checked multiple times, or possibly an ultrasound. *HUGS* We're here for you!!!

[mary345]

i just want to say that i had very heavy bleeding early on with all of my pregnancies i even passed very large clots and thought for sure i had m/c. dr even thought i had when i told him on the phone what had happen and when i went in to see the dr i was still pregnant and it turned out to be a subchorionic bleed which healed itself this is my fourth pregnancy and i have had very large subchorionic bleeds with three of them and they all turned out fine i have a 3 year old and 14 month old and am 29 wks pregnant now. my first pregnancy ended in a m/c but i had no symptoms i went in for an u/s to confirm dates and the baby had stopped growing at 10 wks and no hearbeat found i had no bleeding or cramping with that one. so just b/c you have bleeding and cramping does not always mean a m/c

[Gina209]

I am so sorry hun....it's not your fault, please don't blame yourself. I M/C in November and it was my first baby as well. It was so heart breaking...I thought how great, we just got Married and now were Pregnant! I didn't M/C until my 13th week but I started bleeding first than I went to the hospital where they convinced me everything was fine, come to go to an U/S the next day to find out I was indeed M/C...than the Cramps camep. It was horrible...I'm still scarred til this day and prolly will be forever. I blamed myself too...but you just have to realize everything happens for a reason and it's not your fault...when woman M/C this early its because something was wrong or abnormal with the fetus...I am truly sorry, we're here for you during this difficult time...if you need anything just ask...lots of hugs...

[alaysha]

When I first got pregnant I ended up bleeding a little bit and cramping and went on to miscarry. I couldn't understand why I of all people lost my baby and started to think that something was wrong with me and that I couldn't carry a baby. Well 6 weeks after my miscarriage I got pregnant again... about a week after my positive I started bleeding worse than a period with clots and it was bright red. I was told that I was have another miscarriage. However my situation was the same as mary345 and I too had a subchorionic hematoma which was causing the bleeding (and cramping since my body was trying to get rid of the clots) my daughter will be 4 months old next month and she is as healthy as can be. Don't loose faith it is possible that everything can be okay. In pregnancy whenever you bled they give it a 50-50 chance. Like Joy said you should speak to your doctor and get your levels checked and maybe an ultrasound to see if indeed you are miscarrying or what the reason for the bleeding is.

[SweetKisses]

Thanks for the support - this is indeed the hardest thing i've ever dealt with. I have never heard of the hematoma bleeding before...I will ask about it today. I'm going back to the doctor today, so hopefully they will do a blood test and check the levels. But I don't want to get my hopes up just yet....so I will let ya'll know what goes on.

[SweetKisses]

oh yeah I was just thinking about this...last night I was in terrible pain, i mean I had the worst cramps of my life i felt like i was in labor, i had to take a hot shower at 3 am just to kind of relieve it for a while. But I was only bleeding when I went pee...and it wasn't normal period blood it was just clots. So hopefully the bleeding will stop today...i hope.

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

I'm so sorry I know the feeling oh to well when I was 20 I too had my first Mc my fiancee at the time (now my hubby) never even thought about a MC we just knew our baby would be fine....no such luck I too MC'd very early and was devistated...but time heals the pain and I went on to get pregnant again......same thing another MC thinking I was doomed for life to never had children I am now 22 and 5 months pregnant with two healthy babies......Gods time is best and I believe these two are my miracles....

[loismwallace]

I agree with Joy.......Until a Dr confirms that that's what's going on, I wouldn't get so down. Bleeding can occur. You also mentioned something about only bleeding when you pee. Is it possible you have a bad UTI?

[natemomma27]

it may not apply to you depending on ur symptoms...when i was pregnant with my 2nd son i had bleeding and terrible back pain and blood when i urinated and thought for sure it was a m/c i went to the doctor and the baby was fine...a few days later it really hurt to pee and went to the ER where they found i had a kidney infection and kidney stones. that was causing the back pain and the bleeding...just giving you some hope that it may be ok until anything is confirmed try to relax

[ccw59]

You are in my thoughts & prayers.  Don't give up hope yet.  I just went through 2 miscarriages (Nov & last week) so I understand your pain!  But you might not be having one & if you are just know that we are all here for you!! This site has really helped me.

[Nadia77]

i am sorry if you have miscarried. I hope all goes with fine with you.

[depressed748]

I am so sorry to hear about this. I will pray for you and just keep the faith. Even if it doesnt turn out the way you want because I do understand how you feel about wanting a baby badly. It will happen in due time. Good luck and I hope that it goes well