I'm sooo scared. What do u think?

What do I do?
I got preg on bc didn't know untill 4 months along. & he doesn't want a baby I dont either but we already had an abortion last year. I have a two yr old & he has 2 kids. I told him I'm not getting another abortion. He went from stressed to happily naming or unborn son & now stressed again. I understand but he told me hes not going to have anything to give our baby because hes taking care of his two kids. So I ask him are u saying u can't help me? He says ya then I say wow so I'm doing this on my own now? He gets mad & says thats y I said abortion I told u I have financial problems. & just goes off. Hes putting me through up & down emotions I know it's gonna be hard but we have to do it. I even said we can do adoption & he said no. so what am I supposed to do?

I'm tired of being stressed about this. He told me he would help me now hes crying about not being able to. Do I have to set up child support or what? He really hurt me today by the way he came at me.
I'm scared I'm going to be a single mom of two now.

[jrobertson20]

So sorry you have to go through this.  He should be supportive of you and not putting you on this emotional roller coaster.  I know it's stressful now and life is stressful but when that baby gets here he will just become part of everyday life.  A baby is a blessing and whatever you decide I hope things work out well for you.  Good luck.

[ProudMommie21]

Thank u :( I just don't know what to tell him or what to do.

[MamaBear0612]

I'd probably wait to see how he reacts as you get further along, and when the baby gets here. But if he really doesn't contribute anything financially, then yes, I'd go the legal route and put him on child support. Your child deserves that, you didn't make her by yourself, so she's his responsibility too.

[20mommy20]

Adoption opened n closed are always a option. If u know u can't afford it or neither one of u can see keeping the baby. Open u can still be a part of the child's life and closed would leave u out completely. Jus something to think over. Ur man sounds like a loser though he's Ur support n who says what he's said to u. Is be putting more thought into ditching him. At Ur lowest point is when Ur partner is supposed to be Ur support. He sounds very immature and selfish. When he says that it should be a dicussion not oh ya Ur on Ur own babe. Good luck.

[ProudMommie21]

Yea as much as I would hate giving up the son I've always wanted it might just be best to. But he doesn't want that.

He just is so stressed over being able to provide. But I and my fam will help hes not alone like I told him before. He says I don't understand but I do but there is nothing I can do not many options. Or relationship is on the rocks & the waves are crashing against us harder and harder I love him but he need to get it together. I can't do this by myself again with a 2 yrold & newborn idk but I cry every other day because other day we have this same discussion.
Haven't even told my fam we're telling them this sunday at church but we have no plan on what we will do.after the bby is here.

[20mommy20]

Aww dear, sounds really tricky. I mean it can work single moms do it a couple can for sure and remember u always have Ur family. It's great they are supporting u and don't do anything u will regret. There's wic and looks of programs to help if u need it. I wish I had an answer. This isn't something u should be going through its the son u always wanted as u say and u should be thrilled and enjoying it and so should he and even if hes nervous he's the man its his job to make sure Ur at ease.

[20mommy20]

And I do have a very supporting husband but he's not here , he's been deployed for both my pregnancys. I've even delivered alone n will do that again this time. Proof that support goes a long way. I'm in a new place and have a 3yr old and Jus the support makes my pregnancy where I can enjoy it. Look at all the plus sides n not all the bad. Decided what u really want. If u want this baby and have decided that I wouldn't waste a second more sweating Ur guy. Hell either come around or u can do it on Ur own. I have all the faith in the world u can. I Jus would hate for u to make a choice based off how he feels. Your body Ur baby Ur feelings matter so much more than his.

[codibear]

Im on my way to a single mommy of two, and tho its hard. I swear its worth it.  I would of liked the guy to stay, but im not getting beat my whole life. I left, , my mom and dad, and brother r with me, and sum friends. As long as u have support, ur fine sweets. Youll b fine. Goid luck an if u need to chat im here...

[ProudMommie21]

Thank you guys so much I've been so down & feeling I need him to be here for us but I did it once I can do it again by myself. I just hate to disappoint my fam by having a bby without a man. School & work is at a holt soon & things will be twice as hard especially since I have no car hard to find one for 900 but I have to I need some independence.