Is it dumb for me to feel this way?!

[Arizonagirl]

Hi i am 24 now, and will be turning 25 soon. Im having the baby blues. I was thinking today about if i were to have a child now that means, he/she will be 5 by the time i am 30-31 years old. Is this to soon/ to late? The rest of my family had kids when they were WAY to young. I was also thinking, will i be to old. My Husband is going to be 27 this year. We both dont mind if we wait longer. We both have good jobs. We just bought a house. Im not sure if you need any more info. But if you do please ask!  Thank you for any advice you can give! :)

[Crysi]

I know with me personally I want a baby anywhere from now till 22 (my first) because I want to be young with my children, to be able to play with them, and have a close relationship with them. I want lots of kids tho, so I also need time to have them all LoL.

It's all about what you want in life, and how you feel about growing with your children.

[martikadragoon]

My original goal was to wait til I was 25... Well I'm 21 and pg. with my first, so I've decided I want all of mine by the time I'm 30. (total of 3)

[eel81]

this is clearly your decision, if you and your husband feel you want to wait then wait. you just bought a house so you have a responsability there first. you dont want to fall behind as having a baby is expensive. if you feel like you want to wait then wait. i had my first at 18 and loved it because i knew i could grow up with him. but everyone is different, 25 is not a young age to be having kids, i am ready to have my 4th at the age of 26.

[Riot_Queen]

I'm 18 and ended up pregnant with my first.
As long as you ain't in your mid-late 30's... it's not too late.

I wasn't too happy about it being THIS soon... but I just think on the brightside... by the time my baby's all grown up, we'll still be young enough to go do fun things that we didn't in our 20's.

[sweetangel7]

It is a huge personal decision...and age doesn't necessarily make you closer with your child...my mom is older than my husbands parents and although my mom had me when she was 27 we are way closer than my husband and his parents and they had him when they were like 23.  How recently did you buy the house?  We bought a house a little over a year ago and it was important to me that we were in the house for a year before we started ttc because I wanted to make sure that we could really handle all that being homeowners brings into your life!  Good luck!

[richeygirl]

I understand but you & ur husband should talk about it. I never even thought abt having kids until I was 26 & now that I'm 27 I'm ready to get started I don't want to wait to much longer bc, I want at least three but I want to have all of them before I'm 35. I'm just ready to be a mom now, & if you are truly ready maybe you & ur husband should get started.

[pmperez]

Well Im 33 and this is will be my first Im ready now, I think  I wouldve been a good mother when I was younger but I feel like I will do a better job now, Im done partying and stuff like that, we make pretty good money so all the things that you would want to do with your child we can do now, besides I wouldve been a single mother, I dont really want that. Although I have plenty of singl mom friends doing a good job of it.

[JoyRenee]

I know plenty of women in their late 20's and early 30's who waited to have children and they seem to be VERY patient with their children and have a lot of wisdom. They usually only have one or two. As for being tired or feeling as though you won't have enough energy, so long as you stay fit and healthy, you'll keep up!!!

Personally, I think now is a wonderful time to start trying. It might take awhile, or you might get pregnant real fast, but you have a house, you're in love, and you seem to really desire a child. I say TRY and if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. And if it does happen, you will NOT regret it!!!

[precious03]

I don't think you sound stupid for feeling this way!!  I think you sound responsible!!!  I can't tell you what a good age is to start having kids because it depends on the person!!  I would say that you sound ready!!  Good luck, and let us know what you decide!!

[Arizonagirl]

I wanted to thank everyone for your replies. Im still making my decision.  We just bought our house 2 months ago. And i am thinking of waiting a few more months. Just to see how everything goes. And then decide weather its time. I also just joined a gym, to have plenty of energy!  lol

Also:

Does anyone know of a good insurance that covers pregnacy?!
I heard Aflac was? And have been reading up on it. Does anyone have this insurance? How do you feel about it?
I just want to cover all ends before actually getting pg!! :)

PS thanks again for everyones help.

[michelle148]

Im 26 and will be 27 when my baby is born. My doctor told me that 25-30 is a nice age to have your first but i personally think it is entirely up to you and how you and your partner feels about it. A friend of mine is 37 and has just had her first child and she didnt have any complications and no problems so age dosent really matter that much i think your still young and have a good ten years left in you yet but do it when you fell ready and by the sounds of it you do as you have started planning pregnancy insurance so you are obviously looking into it with great though and intention. Good luck.