Is there someting wrong with me? Why cant I ???

My boyfriend and I have been trying to have a baby for the past few months and our efforts have come up empty.  I am beginning to get frustrated and even jealous of the woman around me who are able to get pregnant.  The girl that he was with before me got pregnant the first time that they had sex, and he and I have been trying for over six months.  Am I doing something wrong?  Why cant I get pregnant… I am beginning to become distressed and hopless… I just want to cry and cry and cry…

[njeosys]

It takes a normal, healthy woman at least 6 months to become pregnant if they are trying actively every month. You have a 25% chance of becoming pregnant each month. That's pretty low if you think about it.

What kinds of methods are you using to determine when you are fertile/ovulating?

[blueskye20]

ive been traking my periods and using the ovulation calculator systems.  I havent talked to my doctor yet but i am going to soon if i still have problems.  My cycle is a little off, though, so i believe that could have some kind of effect on it.  They have been 12/27, 11/29, 10/30, 10/3 and 9/7 so far.  I am just anxious and feel upset, the more i hear about the people around me concieving the more i wonder why i cant and they can so easily....

[MOM23ANGELS]

I know exactly how you feel hon... When I first started trying ot have a baby with my husband, i was so jealous because other woman around me were pregnant and I wasn't.. But I stopped worrying about it, and 3 months later I was pregnant.... Don't think about it.. Just let your lovemaking happen on it's own..... Eventually, you will have your baby!:-)

[njeosys]

Well, let me offer you some other solutions to knowing when you ovulate. Calculators are fine for a woman with regular periods, who ovulate regularly. But if you're off or have irregular periods than they are just guessing! You need to know when you ovulate and I can tell you how you can know for sure.

Do you notice any vaginal discharge mid-way through your cycles? This cervical mucous is the key to helping unlock the mysteries of your fertility! If you don't believe me, then you can google "cervical mucous and fertility" or something like that.

What you need to know is that men are ALWAYS fertile (even ones who say they are sterile... they aren't sterile unless they've had a vasectomy and even then that is not fool-proof). Women are nearly always infertile! We are fertile during about a 24 hour window each cycle. That is ovulation.

The cervix is locked up tight. Sperm cannot get through! But when you are about to ovulate, the cervix begins to thin and open, which causes you to have cervical discharge. The vagina is a hostile, acidic environment that kills sperm quickly, so the CM (cervical mucous) helps keep the sperm alive and get to their destination: the egg.

The mucous can be yellowish, creamy, sticky, tacky, cloudy, white, etc during this time. Remember this... sperm can live in the vagina for 3-5 days, so when you start seeing the CM, begin having sex every other day.

When you see CLEAR (like raw egg whites) and stretchy CM, you are ovulating. Morning sex is best. Have sex that day for sure!

I got pregnant the first try, having sex only once, using this method. I had just had a m/c, so that may have led to my being extra fertile, too.

Try this method, see what it does for you, sweetheart! Don't rely on predictions, get to know your body!

[breeziebabyyy]

Me and my husband have been trying for over a year and can't get pregnant.. don't know what's wrong

[blueskye20]

thank y ou for the advice.  I knew about this but its just really confusing to me. Just this morning one of my girlfriends recomended an ovulation predictor thats kind of like a pregnancy test, she said it shows you exactly when you are ovulating.  Does that really work?

[kris777]

My best friend tried for 1 1/2 years to get pregnant and we both are now.............you can't give up and stressing over it can make things worse.  The very month my friend quit taking ovulation kits and checking her temperature daily she got pregnant:)  Good luck and try to relax.

[jiggs209]

try http://mymonthlycycles.com

[njeosys]

The ovulation kits are very confusing to use and they cost money. Here, let me simplify all the info I just gave you.

1). Every time you use the restroom, check for CM on the toilet tissue (sometimes you can feel it when you wipe... you'll feel slimy/wet). When you're infertile you'll feel dry and won't see CM at all.

2). Take note of what you see (either mentally or use a calendar with your own secret codes). You can write something like WCM (for white cervical mucous). Or OV (when you see the clear, stretchy CM). Keeping track of your fertility is something doc's love because if you notice anything different, they can usually use that info to pinpoint what may be going on.

3). Just start having sex every other day when you see the CM!

It really is simple. Just look for CM and then start having sex. If you aren't noticing any CM then that might be an underlying issue with why you haven't been able to conceive and you should ask your doc about ovulex or other natural pills that will help you have more CM (remember, it helps the sperm to survive).