help plz

Ok. So when im prego i smoke pot here and there a few times a month. Not the best thing butcfar from the worst. I dont drink at all ever its not my thimg. But my husband wants to drink everyday and smokes pcp. Its safe to say hea got an addiction. He doesnt do it everyday. Maybe once a week. But if i let him smoke it daily he would. I dont want to raise our children around that. Its an aweful lifestyle. I just dont know how to get thru to him. I dont want to leave him hes very good to me. I love him and i know he loves me. But he thinks about it everyday. Wants it all the time. He understands but refuses to stop. Im looking for advice on what to do how to help how to cope how to g  et       thru this.

[aly_e]

Omg!!! I meant when im not pregnang. WHEN IM NOT PREGNANT!! my babys health is far more important than my self indilgence.

[momabear86]

It's one of these things if he doesn't want to stop he isn't. Ask him from now on to go outside as it really isn't good for your new born also may cause problems if your midwife smells it

[aly_e]

He doesnt do it around me
But it really is a big deal for me. Howcam i just supposed to b ok

[Mom2bejuly18]

Tell him if he wants to be in you and your child life then he needs to quit. If he doesnt then leave!  

[aly_e]

Its  not that simple. But after last night i think im gonna b raising my kids alone. Never thot this would b me
Im unglued n my pieces r everywhere. I cant believe he got me pg and im bringing an innocent life n2 this. Im not that strong of a woman.

[momabear86]

It's unfair to say he got you pregnant when your just as responsible. Kicking him out may give him the push to stop smoking.

[joolschic]

Does he work and able to support you and babes?? If he's fair to u and not abusive. and if he's kind to you id say he's not the worst....but you and you only can decide. my hubby drives me mad sometimes but if I don't dwell on it the problem seems to disappear....good luck. btw lol at your first post bout smoking while prego :-) funny

[aly_e]

Joolschic. Thank u 4 that. He does take good care of his family. He works hard everyday and is kind and i tot him to be loving. Hes never been physical. Butvhis drug of choice is hard for to look past. Maybe thats the right yhing to do. But i just feel like tons of ppl go thruvlife drug free n love their life. I dont plan on smoking pot anymore bc i want to lead by example for my son and my daughter. I knoe i cant make hin do anything tho its just i want him to be healthy n whole.

[Spiket77]

Will he get some help for the PCP addiction? I think that might be the best course of action. If he is a good person with an addiction...then he needs to be given the chance to get rid of his addiction. You are already making sacrifices as a pregnant woman. I think that it is more natural for women to make sacrifices as soon as they know they are pregnant. It is more difficult for men. I don't think it really registers for them till the baby comes. And still...it can take some time for some men to start putting the baby before their own needs.  That is just my opinion. So...approach him about getting some help and make sure he understands you are uncomfortable with him using PCP. If you say everything out loud, then you have done all you can. at least you will know that you tried. Best of luck to you!

[2_little_angels]

I know what he's going through and what your going through, I was addicted to cannabis for 6 years its so hard to get off it when you love the buzz it gives you. I got pregnant at 22 and was still smoking cut down to 1 a night, back then I thought this was normal at the time anyway I had a healthy baby boy u carried on smoking until I got pregnant with my second 2 and 4months later then being pregnant with my second I stopped I got put off I grew up I thought what am I doing, I got with a man who hated it and I loved him and he helped me stop I regret I didn't do it sooner but I was hanging around the wrong sort of ppl and I thought it was normal!! I look back and think shame on me for being so foolish I've woken up from a dream, Ive been off weed and cigarettes for exactly 3 years and am expecting my 3rd child. What I'm trying to say is maybe you both need change. Move away from ppl selling it Make your selfs HATE it that is the only way, he will never stop if he enjoyes it and Omg the amount of money you save!! If he doesn't want to stop is move on without him he's only going to be taking the babies money or your money to carry on his habbit, if you love your drugs or drink u don't care about yourself or anyone else and nothing else matteres! Be wise gurl if I can do it alone with 3 kids I'm sure you ll be fine...

[2_little_angels]

I know what he's going through and what your going through, I was addicted to cannabis for 6 years its so hard to get off it when you love the buzz it gives you. I got pregnant at 22 and was still smoking cut down to 1 a night, back then I thought this was normal at the time anyway I had a healthy baby boy u carried on smoking until I got pregnant with my second 2 and 4months later then being pregnant with my second I stopped I got put off I grew up I thought what am I doing, I got with a man who hated it and I loved him and he helped me stop I regret I didn't do it sooner but I was hanging around the wrong sort of ppl and I thought it was normal!! I look back and think shame on me for being so foolish I've woken up from a dream, Ive been off weed and cigarettes for exactly 3 years and am expecting my 3rd child. What I'm trying to say is maybe you both need change. Move away from ppl selling it Make your selfs HATE it that is the only way, he will never stop if he enjoyes it and Omg the amount of money you save!! If he doesn't want to stop is move on without him he's only going to be taking the babies money or your money to carry on his habbit, if you love your drugs or drink u don't care about yourself or anyone else and nothing else matteres! Be wise gurl if I can do it alone with 3 kids I'm sure you ll be fine...

[2_little_angels]

I know what he's going through and what your going through, I was addicted to cannabis for 6 years its so hard to get off it when you love the buzz it gives you. I got pregnant at 22 and was still smoking cut down to 1 a night, back then I thought this was normal at the time anyway I had a healthy baby boy u carried on smoking until I got pregnant with my second 2 and 4months later then being pregnant with my second I stopped I got put off I grew up I thought what am I doing, I got with a man who hated it and I loved him and he helped me stop I regret I didn't do it sooner but I was hanging around the wrong sort of ppl and I thought it was normal!! I look back and think shame on me for being so foolish I've woken up from a dream, Ive been off weed and cigarettes for exactly 3 years and am expecting my 3rd child. What I'm trying to say is maybe you both need change. Move away from ppl selling it Make your selfs HATE it that is the only way, he will never stop if he enjoyes it and Omg the amount of money you save!! If he doesn't want to stop is move on without him he's only going to be taking the babies money or your money to carry on his habbit, if you love your drugs or drink u don't care about yourself or anyone else and nothing else matteres! Be wise gurl if I can do it alone with 3 kids I'm sure you ll be fine...

[joolschic]

Strange thing.....Ive never done drugs but my brother has spent the last 10 years wasting his life doing drugs and it used to drive me crazy watching him waste his life away.....then a few months ago I pulled myself aside and said ' ok he's not hurting anybody he's doing nothing wrong only to himself' and I just accepted it....guess what he's now totally drug and acohol free and he's never been happier. he's even doing yoga now. but the only thing is. is he's not gettin on too well with his girlfriend now because they're on different levels now....lol maybe she needs to get pregnant :-) hope this helps a little

[aly_e]

Lol maybe so. But ive left it alone and he uses more often when i say nothing. If it was weed it would b diferent. At least its an herb. Every othet drug is man made full of chemicals that eat ur brain.. I just wish he wouldng do it. I dont want to take care of a retard when im old especially bc it culd have been avoided. Idk maybe i will leave it alone for now. He just turns n2 a conpletly diff person. Idk him when hes on drugs. Wooooo. What a 24 hours.

[MamaBear0612]

It's not healthy for your baby to be around that, either the drug or him when he's 'a completely different person, and it sounds like you know that. Like you said your baby is the most important thing here. He's an adult and he's making bad choices about his life and his family, but your baby only has you to protect her. Leave him, unless he is willing to get help so he can stop.