how do i???..

ok girls i dont know if any of you have had this problem but..we have our baby due august 19th. we still DONT have the nursery done --we are changing our laundry room into one--, my boyfriend has a toyota 4 runner that he is supposed to be putting an engine in it so he has something to drive the baby around in..we have a roll of new carpet and padding in our living room waiting to be put it..it just seems like he doesnt realize how close it is to being baby time and isnt getting anything done!! its so stressful to me..like now its mothers day almost noon and he is still sleeping..shouldnt that be me?!! then when i ask him about all this stuff he gets all annoyed and is like I KNOW, quit bugging me bout it,,well hes had the last 4 months to get started and it bug me that he doesnt do anything....im just worried that baby will be here and we will have our house half remodeled..!!

[NikiNoo]

Well, he doesn't sound like he's being very supportive! (in fact, lazy and inconsiderate). If "HE KNOWS" why is he IN BED? I say bug him, bug him like there's no tomorrow. If he don't like it - tough! If he gets it done then you can relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, and so can he. He doesn't have to do anything towards this baby - except look out for you, and prepare for his baby.

However, i'd try to think of a plan B in case he continues to let you down.

[ftogirl]

Well, if it makes you any better we just moved a couple weeks ago, and we're still getting settled in, organizing the house and the baby's room.  I'm due the first week in June.

[blueeyedtabbycat]

I guess im not the only one not ready!! I am only 24.5 weeks today, but we still have to find a place to move!! I live in a 2 bedroom 1 bath now!!! There isnt even enough room for me, my hubby and our two boys right now!!! I am  freaking!!! I can fit a bassinett in my room if worst comes to worst, but I really dont want to do that!! I want a nursery!!
Other than NO baby's room,  I havent bought anything for our little guy yet, except for a onesie with a cute little saying on it!! I do have a baby shower coming up on June 8th hopefully I get some stuff than:)
But yeah, Im in the same boat as you! My hubby seems to think we have all the time in the world!! He's calm and im a mess!! With our last son, we waited to move untill 2 weeks before I was due and I put my self into labor!! And than when I came home my house was a mess!! I had boxes all over that I still needed to unpack!!
I hope your hubby gets in gear soon and everything is ready before baby comes:)

[carissarae]

that does make me feel a little better fto girl haha.. i just keep thinking what if the baby comes early and we have no room for her!! LOL

we talked last night and we are going to go to home depot tonight hopefully and get the stuff for the babies room..we are blocking off the washing machine and dryer with folding doors, and making the rest of the room the nursery..i dont want to put the washer and dryer down in the basement and have to go up and down stairs for the rest of the pregnancy and after baby is born..

nikonoo--i guess i cant get too mad at him- he worked 70 hrs last week and didnt get home until midnight or later everynight last week so he was wore out by sunday- i was more mad that it was mothers day and he was in bed all day, made us late to mothers day thing with my family, and all my hormones are completely out of control..he has been nothing but supportive this whole pregnancy, weve been together over 3 1/2 years..i love him, he is just a procrastinator..LOL..

[mamaofonetrying42]

Dont feel bad Im 29weeks on Thur. and our nursery is still not Done. The only way I get hubby in there to paint is to start doing it on my Own and then he comes in.LOL Im wishing it will be done this weekend, but we'll see.....

[jesslee83]

hehe, i'd do the freaking carpet myself....cos honestly, idk if it'd do any damage.....then again, i have the ability to do my brakes, paint, and move furniture, change oil and alot of other things lol.....

i had a desk that i wanted in the babys room(a desk mom was "paid" with while preg with me!), and we're supposed to convert it into a changing table....well df fell asleep when i asked for the umpteenth time, and i finally just drug it myself.....he was like what're you gonna do if something happens? or, can't you just wait? haha, i was like had you gotten up off your @$$, i'd not have had to do it! now, i know i'm going to be the one who does the conversion from desk to changing table lol....lucky me, it's wood cutting lowes can do, so all i have to do is some drilling, and attaching shelf brackets to secure it(that way the "changer" can be fixed back to a desk!).....

[JoyRenee]

You're not the only one! Men just procrastinate sometimes. What helps is if you sit down with him and a calendar and say, "I would love for you to do the nursery in your own time, but could you please mark on the calendar when you'll start so that I feel less stressed out about it?"

Make it seem like he's the one choosing when he starts instead of feeling nagged at. By putting it on a schedule, he should be more inclined to begin. But don't keep reminding him of the project or mentioning it. Instead put the calendar in clear view and remind him to look at the calendar.

And don't forget to tell him, "I really respect you and I know you'll do a great job!!!" Men think they're all macho and manly, but they are very vulnerable and insecure. By telling him that you are going to make him puff up like a rooster on steroids! Don't forget to tell him how much you respect him ALL THE TIME!

This is just a little womanly secret to getting stuff done around the house! LOL! In fact, I am about to put on the charm to get hubby to hang our ceiling fans tonight!!!

[NikiNoo]

Wow, 70 hours - I TAKE BACK THE "LAZY" COMMENT! That's tough. Ha, you forgot to mention that part! I'm not surprised he was in bed till midday. And he's probably working those hours to pay for all the DIY on the list.
I've just re-read my post, it sounds much nastier than i meant it. Slapped wrists for me.
Try bribery, works on my hubby ;-)

[KStarr07]

:( I don't even have a nursery.. I moved back here to my mom's house from living with my sister like right around the same time I got pregnant... This is a 3 br house, and there are 5 people living here.. My room is what WAS the living room, blocked off by a freaking curtain, sleeping is miserable because it's hardly ever quiet enough... So I have to make due and share with my baby.. it really sucks.. but I haven't gotten anything ready! And no one's really been helping me... and I'm 37 freaking weeks!!!! I haven't even gotten my bags packed cause I have no duffel bags/suitcase to pack it in!! GRRR my mom kept saying she'd get me something, but she always says and never does... But anyways, just saying, I know how you feel...

[CYW]

my DS was due sept 4th-12th and i got the nursery painted with a crib and the set around july...my grandmother passed away in june and was in the hospital for roughly a month before so it was a hectic month and i felt stressed..you still have a way to go...in reality people dont always work on the nursery until 30-34 weeks...it makes time go by really slow when you have everything ready so early.. dont worry it will all come...i too felt that way and i got mine done 2 months before the due date...

KStarr-A baby as well as yourself SHOULD not be living in what is supposed to be a livingroom....You should go see some assistance for help..I am sure they have that around your area...it is unrealistic...as much as it is nice...I know you are young and I was 21 when i had my DS and I was lucky to have family who did help out ALOT however...it is NOT and I repeat NOT their responsibility to help you sweetie...you are about to be a mother...how do you plan on providing for this unborn baby??? I am sorry if i dound rude but you sound as though you are in a really difficult situation and i would suggest you start looking for help ASAP

[BTS1022]

Join the party lol, it must be a man thing. I havent even been able to stock up or buy anything yet for this pregnancy, I need to stock pile on diapers, wipes, and formula but hubby seems to think that sex of the baby matters before we get those things lol.