poem for those who have lost a child

[cindy82]

i just wanted to share this poem i found the other day. its helped me some

"" I'LL BE THERE ""
Daddy, please don't look so sad, Momma please don't cry 'Cause I'm in the arms of Jesus and He sings me lullabies. Please, try not to question God, don't think He is unkind. Don't think He sent me to you, and then He changed His mind. You see, I am a Special Child, and I'm needed up above. I'm the Special gift you have Him, the product of your love. I'll always be there with you, and watch the sky at night. Find the brightest star that's gleaming, That's my halo's brilliant light. You'll see me in the morning frost, that mists your window pane. That's me, in the summer showers, I'll be dancing in the rain. When you feel a little breeze, from a gentle wind that blows. That's me, I'll be there, planting a kiss on your nose. When you see a child playing, and your heart feels a little tug, That's me, I'll be there giving your heart a hug. So Daddy, please don't look so sad, Momma don't you cry. I'm in the arms of Jesus, and He sings me lullabies.

[JoyRenee]

That is so sweet. Thank you for sharing that, cindy82!!! I found a poem I really liked and I typed it up and printed it on pretty paper. Then I framed it, in rememberance of the baby I lost. I'll go find that poem and post it, too.

Gosh, these poems make me want to cry my eyes out!

[cindy82]

ok, great, i got this poem on my myspace page

[Annie2008]

Wow that was a very strong and amazing poem.  Made me cry - fiance is looking oddly at me right now, but thank you for posting this poem, I may copy this one down and have it with me always.  Thanks again

[JoyRenee]

This isn't the one I framed, but this is one that I have a copy of in my "keepsake box".

WHAT MAKES A MOTHER?


I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.

"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"

"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."

"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.

"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...

'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'

"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start

Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"

[depressed748]

Thanks for sharing that it was good and also true...thanks again

[lmrsoldier]

Absolutely beautiful poems ladies!! You brought tears to my eyes!!

[JoyRenee]

Phew, finally found it! I was trying to find it on the forum I had gotten back in 2006 and I finally ran upstairs and just got the poem off the wall. LOL! Reading this brings back SO MANY memories and emotions. I hope it touches someone else like this poem touched me.

You're A Special Little Spirit

"You're a Special Little Spirit," the all great Master said,
As He gently caressed the curly blond hair of the Little Spirit's head.
"You need to go to Earth to spend some time, you know,
A place I send most Spirits to be tested, to learn, to grow."

The Little Spirit, in sadness, slowly bowed her head,
And from her eye a tear did steal and down her cheek it shed.
"Don't you fret now little one, I won't let you stay too long,
I'll bring you back to help Me here, You'll hardly know you've been gone.
You're my choicest Little Spirit, you're the apple of My eye."
And He wiped the tear and gently kissed His Little Spirit good-bye.

"I'm back," the Little Spirit whispered, as she climbed onto her Master's knee,
And the Master said, "I told you, you would not be long away from Me."
And then, the Lord, He noticed still another tear welled in her eye.
"Why are you so sad, Little Spirit, whatever should make you cry?"

"I'm glad I'm back," the Spirit said, "but Master You must surely know,
When Your angel came to get me, I didn't want to go.
I know You said You needed me and that I'd be gone the shortest while,
But Lord, couldn't I have had a little longer earthly trial?"

The Master let the Little Spirit slip down from His knee,
He firmly took the little hand and said,"Come walk with Me."
The Little Spirit and her Lord walked slowly hand in hand,
As the Master explained Her special part in the great and marvelous plan.

"Now Lord, I don't mean to argue, I understand You need me home.
But I left in such a hurry, I left everyone hurting and so alone.
I didn't let my earthly parents know how much I loved them so.
I was much too small to tell them, Lord, how will they ever know?
They feel they've been cheated, and in a way so do I.
Not getting to share any more than we did, how can I ever tell them why?"

"Little Spirit, I know your heart is heavy with the message you need to share.
But you need not worry anymore, I'll watch over your loved ones there.
I'll send them loving comfort as a strong and helping hand.
I'll content and give peace to their aching hearts, so they will understand.

The Little Spirit looked up at her Master and said "Thank You for explaining it to me.
And could You please tell them I'm safe and happy and that someday they'll be here with me."

"Yes," said the Lord with a smile and a nod, "I'll tell them all that I can."
Then the others came to see the Little Spirit, as the Lord let go of her hand.
He said, "I'll tell them you're pure, as pure as Heaven's Gold,
That I needed the warmth of your perfect soul to keep Heaven from getting cold."

[judylacar]

These are absolutely beautiful, heart wrenching, tear dropping, I am not sure if they helped me or made me worse, but I definately know that I am now different. Thank you so much for sharing these.

[JoyRenee]

judylacar, they help with the healing process. ;-)  The poem really helped me realize that my baby is okay, and that he has the best Daddy in the universe taking care of him.

[judylacar]

In my mind I know that is true and in my heart also, I guess I am just going thru the emotions right now. I had to reschedule the u/s btw, till Monday because I did not make it back in town in time, missed it by half an hour, but I am going to call first thing in the morning and see if they cant squeeze me in this week instead of having to go thru the whole weekend.

[JoyRenee]

Yeah!!! I hope they'll get you in! You must message me as soon as you know something (cuz you know how important this forum is, lol)!!!

[judylacar]

Absolutely, I do not know what I would have done had it not been for this forum the last almost month since I found it. You, my friend, have helped me sooo much along with Gina, I think I would have gone insane with all the weird stuff and unknowing and all that! I will let you know as soon as I find out if I can get my appt changed and what is found out :)

[cindy82]

thanks, i loved them and i see why you have that one on your wall, sorry it took so long to respond, it got really bad here for a lil while

[PreciousLittleLady]

Hi,

I read this out at my little girls burial.

We had to terminate because of severe abnormalities.

This was only a few months ago, so my pain is still very strong.

How do I say goodbye ... when I didn't get to say hello?
I want so bad to keep you ... how do I let you go?

I have so many dreams, so much love I want to share
There's nothing I can do ...why is life unfair?

You're my perfect little angel...I dreamed you long ago
I never got to hold you but it breaks my heart to let you go

The pain and confusion I feel inside
I can not explain...I can not describe

God will rock you in your cradle and watch you as you sleep
I will love you in my heart ... it's all I get to keep

you are blessed my child ... you're in heaven up above
You'll never be alone...you have Mummy & Daddy's love

Hush my little baby...you need not ever cry
You were always wanted! I wish you didn't die

You'll be my sunshine in the daylight and the brightest star at night
Reach for God's hand and go to the light

I would rather endure the pain of losing you right now
Then the thought of you suffering thru life...we'll get thru somehow

I was blessed to have you briefly...even though I have to let you go
I wish I knew the reason but I guess I'll never know.

Night Night little one, we will always love you.

[cindy82]

thanks so much  for sharing that. im so sorry for yalls loss. are you ttc again?

[PreciousLittleLady]

Hi,

We have 2 boys, and we lost our little girl in july 2007. We were going to wait until the new year to maybe try again, but in sept 2007 I found out I was pg, which was a sock, but a nice one. it's been a very worrying time with scan/test etc.. and Im due an amnio in 2 weeks time.

Im almost 14 wks now and this one, all being well will be due on our little girls anniversary, which is a bit spooky.

Thanks for asking

PLL x

[cindy82]

well congrats to you. yea thats crazy that the dates are like that, but mabe its her comeing back to ya

[PreciousLittleLady]

Thanks :-)

Is this an all American forum? Im from the United Kingdom.

Thanks

PLL x

[cindy82]

nope, your just fine.its for everbody, everybody is welcome. i lost mine 7 weeks ago and im ttc again, i just hang out and try to help and support everyone. alot of us are like that here. maybe ill get another bfp this month. : )

[PreciousLittleLady]

Thanks :-)

Im really sorry you lost your little one. was he/she your first pg?

I hope you get pg again soon.

Take care

PLL x

[cindy82]

it was my third. i got 2 healthy boys.

[loismwallace]

I couldn't bring myself to read them because I am just a big titty baby right now and I work the front desk at my office, but I just wanted to say God Bless you all for the loss you've experienced.

[cindy82]

thanks so much. congrats on your preg, you dont have much longer to go, yay!!( read your pro)

[PreciousLittleLady]

Ah, just like me.

We wanted a 3 rd child as we felt that there was someone missing. Our family did'nt feel complete.

Im just hoping that this little one is ok, I will be able to relax a bit once I have had the amnio and the 20 wk scan.

We're not telling the boys until 24wks +, reason being was that we told them early on about the other pg, and then had to say the bad news. My eldest who is 5 was extremely upset. He gave my tummy a hug and through floods of tears whispered "goodbye baby".

Oh, Im in tears now, must go and make myself a strong coffee.

Really hope you get your wish.

PLL xx

[cindy82]

any body eles have poems , please share

[judylacar]

I wrote this when I found out last month that I m/c. I could not bring myself to tell my husband right away, he was out of town, so I wrote this instead.

I’ve been up all night long
Wondering, praying, thinking, asking where I went wrong
Trying my hardest not to live my life like some backwards country song
Knowing deep in my heart where it is I really belong

The pain, it hurts so much
Knowing I will never have our baby in my arms to touch
But I know that God has his perfect plan
And right now I won’t even try to understand

I have prayed and ask my Lord what the baby would be
I said goodbye and I heard God said your baby girl is now with me
I hope you don’t mind, before I told her we would see her again this morning a little before 7
I named our baby girl, Heaven.

[cindy82]

omg, i loved it( im in tears) thank you so much!!

[judylacar]

Yeah, I have been in tears all day, I have been reading so many women thinking about abortions and it is just tearing me up inside. My heart is aching, not only b/c of my m/c, but for the baby they are killing, and for the women also. I know I shouldn't be, but these women are going to go thru a lifetime or torment and anguish if they are real women.

[cindy82]

im the feel the same way. its been 7 weeks since my m/c and still lots of things bring me to tears, i think everyday, but ive found these poems help alot i think. are you ttc again?

[judylacar]

We are kinda, when we are together, we try :) But he is gone traveling so much. I went and had more blood work done last week and my HCG was higher than it was in I m/c, so the dr thinks there is a chance I still might be pg, I have to go in on Monday for an u/s and more lab work, I just have yet to say anything publically until now because I am terrified of bad news right now.

[cindy82]

ill keep ya in my prayers. keep me posted on how the doc goes.

[judylacar]

I sure will, I think I sent you a friend invitation, I tried to anyway :)

[adawning4]

You ladies have me in complete tears right now! All I can think about is my close friends 6 month old baby died on Nov. 4, 2007. She was so in love with him..... It was so horrible and sad, just heartbreaking, to see their pain! He looked so horrible and like he was still in pain. My heart has never hurt so bad. I had a miscarriage in 2003 and that killed me. Knowing that they had him for only a few short months is so devastating! I have only been to 2 funerals now and I pray that I never have to go to another for a someone so small, and innocent. Its horrible to have to bury your own child, not even a child but a baby!!!! I know hes in heaven now and Jesus will take great care of him but sometimes you cant help to ask why?! I have and am always terriffied to lose my babies..... I see the babies on t.v. with the cancers and I cant handle it!  Is it normal to be so worried about you children at 3 1/2 and 18 months that you sleep maybe 4 hrs and have alarm system and alarms on their windows and baby monitors through the house into my room, and security lights that will light my yard like the brightest summer day????? I sometimes wonder if I should see someone for this? I never leave my children alone. My 3yr old daugh. goes to dance class everymonday for 1hr and I will not leave the parking lot by the door incase something happens !!!!!

Im sorry these poems got to me and I had to share...... Thank you for posting these poems and for reading mine!!!!!!

[cindy82]

im so sorry for your loss and your friends loss. its so hard. i can only imagine what it was like for your friend. blessings to yall both. its normal to worry, its what being a good mother is about. its so sad seeing all these people that want abortions and stuff pop them out like there nothing and the ones that do want them cant. my sister was told for 13 yrs she couldnt even get preg. she as a adopted lil girl from a crack head that left the lil girl to die. ( i know this for fact as the lil girl was her husbands niece) now my sister is 14 weeks preg.yay!!  my lil niece that was adopted mom had 2 children befor her, they got tokkin away, had her, then another lil boy, he got took away, then another which died cause they left something that they make christal meth on the table and she drunk it and her stomach exploded, and she had another after that. its hard to imagine why, but all i can say is we got to believe so we can have hope

[adawning4]

Thank you! I am glad to hear your sister is finally pregnant CONGRATS!!! Thats horrible that people can actually do that to their babies.... Women who just pop babies out and dont take care of them need to be forced to have a hysterectomy or something. They dont deserve to have babies and mistreat them.... Thats so heart wrenching to hear about the little ones! I dont even know what to say! Yes we have to believe and keep hope in our hearts.... My friend just found out she is pregnant about 5-7 weeks... I hope its not to soon though! I know she is a good mother and will be. I just worry about her. I dont think I could handle losing my baby! I just saw on the news that a mother killed her 9 yr old daughter and then herself! I just cant understand!
Good luck to you, ttc! I really hope that you get your little one!

[JoyRenee]

Oh you sweet precious women... I wish I could give you all a hug!!! It is so heartbreaking to hear of your anguish. Judy, that poem was so beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!! I didn't know you write poetry and if you don't, you should. It was absolutely beautiful.

[judylacar]

I do write a lot, thank you Mrs. Joy! I think I have written around 30 or 40 poems, it is just a way for me to release what I am feeling at the moment. All of the stories and poems shared here have really tugged at my heart.

Cindy, thank you for thinking of this and posting it!

[heatherlynn22]

so i've been uber emotional the past few days...and reading those poems were so beautiful/sad i just started crying. they were so beautiful!!

[judylacar]

just bumping this because I think this is an excellent topic for those who have lost our children and those mothers who are thinking about "getting rid of their problem" maybe some of the hurt that we have went thru will change your mind.

[miko_latte]

OH man, that poem just brought back so many memories...that's a beautiful poem and thanks for sharing it with all of us.

[cindy82]

LITTLE ANGELS
When God calls little children
to dwell with him above,
We mortals sometime question
the wisdom of His love.
For no heartache compares with
the death of one small child
Who does so much to make our world,
seem wonderful and mild
Perhaps God tires of calling
the aged to his fold,
So He picks a rosebud,
before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them,
and so He takes but few
To make the land of Heaven
more beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult still
somehow we must try,
The saddest word mankind knows
will always be"Goodbye."
So when a little child departs,
we who are left behind
Must realize God loves children,
Angels are hard to find.

[cindy82]

I'll Hold You in Heaven

From the very beginning I loved you,
As I made plans to hold you and rock you:
You were tiny and helpless as you lay in my womb,
But something went wrong and soon you were gone;
My young heart was broken, my tears fell like rain,
I'd never known such heartache and pain.
I wonder who you look like, me or your dad,
Do you have my smile and his eyes?
Would you have been big and tall or tiny and small?
We had dreams for you that reached to the skies.
It was long, long ago and I still miss you so,
Thanks to Jesus, I'll see you in heaven.

I'll hold you in heaven someday,
When my trials on earth pass away;
The angels have rocked you, the Father watches over you,
I know you're waiting for me;
I never could hold you or tell you "Goodbye",
But I'll hold you in heaven someday.

[Shell24]

These were the most wonderful poems...I'm crying my eyes out right now. Thank you all for posting them.

[judylacar]

Oh my, that last one Cindy, absolutely beautifully written, heart wrenching, and tear jerking, thank you so much for posting both of them and this whole topic,

[cindy82]

thanks yall so much for reading and sharing to!! : )

[judylacar]

bumping

[cindy82]

lol, thanks judylacer!!

[judylacar]

I love this topic, I come here right here everyday and read atleast once :)

[cindy82]

lol, me to. i think it helps to read it

[judylacar]

ok, bumping this just b/c I love this topic, it really has helped more than I could have ever expected or thought it would.

[cindy82]

BIG HUGG!!!!!!!!!

[cindy82]

BIG HUGG!!!!!!!!!