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[honeybun2luv]

HELLO ALL * I WAS 15 WEEKS PREGNANT AND SPENT A WEEK IN THE HOSPITAL FOR A UTI INFECTION * I LEAVE THE HOSPITAL BEING TOLD THAT ALL WAS OK INCLUDING MY BABY * 2 DAYS LATER I HAVE A MISCARRAGE (miscarriage) AND NOBODY FROM THE HOSPITAL CAN GIVE ME ANY ANSWERS * ME AND MY HUBBY WAITED 12YRS FOR THIS * I DONT KNOW HOW LONG I SHOULD WAIT TO TRY AGAIN * WE DONT WANT TO WAIT TO LONG AND IT NEVER HAPPENS AGAIN * WHAT SHOULD WE DO * I MEAN I DO HAVE TYPE 2 DIABETES * AND ONCE I DO BECOME PREGNANT AGAIN SHOULD I STOP WORKING TO RELAX MY BODY TO MAKE MY PREGNANCY A SUCCESS *

THANK U


This discussion is related to Pregnancy after miscarriage.

[LauraB78]

I am sorry for your loss..

Have you been to a fertility specialist? That seems (12 years unless I misunderstood) a LONG time to be ttc w/ little success..


I wish I had some great words of wisdom, but I don't. We are all here if you need to talk.

[msgorgeous]

Im sorry for your loss. no one knows why m/c's happen they just do, if you feel your ready now then go for it but if your not ready i would wait. there are things out there like clomid to help you concieve i wish you the best of luck

[honeybun2luv]

I DID SEE A FERTILITY DR THAT TOLD ME I HAD PCOS AND I DID HAVE A SURGERY TO HELP BACK IN 2001 * I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND HOW COULD I HAVE BEEN FINE WHEN I LEFT THE HOSPTIAL AND THEN 2 DAYS LATER THIS BAD THING HAPPENED * I JUST WANT TO TRY AFTER THE BLEEDING FROM THE D&C STOPS * SHOULD I OR SHOULD I WAIT * I DO HAVE A DR APPT ON FRIDAY COMING * ONE DR I DID SEE BEFORE I LEFT THE HOSPITAL SAID WE SHOULD WAIT 6 TO 9 MONTHS * THAT IS TO LONG WHEN IT TOOK US 12 YEARS * I NEED TO TAKE WHATEVER CHANCES TO ,MAKE THIS HAPPEN * I HAVE A 13YR OLD SON THAT WAS LOOKING FORWARD TO BEING A BIG BROTHER * SO THIS HASNT JUST HURT ME AND MY HUBBY BUT ALSO MY SON TO *

[honeybun2luv]

I WAS THINKING ABOUT CLOMID BUT THAT DOES CAUSES MULTIPLES IF I AM CORRECT * BUT TO MAKE MY CHANCES TO WORK DO U THINK THAT WOULD BE A GOOD THING TO DO TO MAYBE HAVE MORE THEN ONE CHANCE OF SURVIVAL

[LauraB78]

Awww.. I think the time frame for waiting is partially for your body to recover, but also for you to recover emotionally.. I think if you can handle it (emotionally) GO FOR IT as soon as your body regulates.

I am sorry for your loss and disppointment.. I wish I knew why bad things sometimes happen, and I know it isn't fair, but it makes us stronger..

I wish you the best of luck. I would maybe GO TO that hospital and ask to speak to whomever your doctor was for some more clarification, but I am sure that when you left the hospital, everything seemed ok, or they wouldnt have let you leave.. Sometimes, sad and horrible and unfair things (such as m/c) just happens, no great reason, just our bodies telling us something wasn't right with pregnancy..

Again, Good luck!

[Barbra74]

I am so sorry for your losses.I  myself just had a miscarriage a week ago and it is devastating. My 6yr son was with me in the bathroom when I first saw the bleeding and I just freaked out! I called the doctor and was crying! I knew something was wrong. But as sad as I am, my biggest heartbreak was watching my son watch me and see what was happening. He felt so bad. He's moved on but he still brings it up a bit. I'm definately scared to try again but my doctor said to wait to have one regular period and then I can start trying after that. My advice for type 2 diabetes is to lose weight and you'll increase your chances of getting. That's what I did. Weight is a huge factor in getting pregnant. Good luck.

[lili51]

How can you be fine and then this happens! Can they do some kind a testing on the fetus to see what went wrong? I would say try to relax and that would help you in conceiving. Maybe take a vacation around the time you want to start trying. I'm sorry in this difficult time. I just went trough a miscarriage is very painful, I know.

[ovaz129]

Hi There... Sorry to hear of your loss.  I too miscarried at 15 weeks on Sept. 28, 2007.  I had a  D & C that day.  I was told to wait 2-3 weeks to have sex and to not TTC for 3-4 cycles.  Personally, I think that it is suuuper important to listen to your doctors advice.  They give it for a good reason, not to hurt you.  

If it has taken you 12 years to conceive, maybe you should go back to the fertitlity specialist.  That is an awefully long time for you and your husband... that has to be pretty emotionally draining.  So, it might be worth it for you to make another appointment.  

I don't know why you lost your baby at 15 weeks.  I was given no explaination as well.  I am healthy, my weight is proportional to my height, and I eat extremely well.  So, I shouldn't have been at an increased risk for late miscarriage.  They couldn't find anyting wrong with our baby... it just happened.  So, sometimes things in life happen for no explainable reason.  It is hard to comprehend because we are humans and we are always seeking an answer for everything.  But, this is one case in life where... there is usually no straight answer.  Good luck and I hope you emotionally heal soon! (and physically)

[Riot_Queen]

You're supposed to wait something like 3 months after a miscarriage to try again.
I dunno if it's something to do with hormones or body issues or what not.

[DuckieDoodle76]

It amazes me how many women have gone through this and are so helpful on these topics.  I was 9 weeks pregnant on September 18th when i was diagnosed as having a missed abortion..the sac was there and no bay.  At 6 weeks we had a good heartbeat and we are not sure what went wrong.  I am a police officer and had been in a fight on the 11th and began mild cramping on the 13th and then spotting on the 16th with the cramping.  Well i was scheduled for a D & C on the 23rd (tomorrow) and last night I had massive cramps that were hard would taper off then start again one right after the other....for two hours.  I then felt a rush of liquid..which turned out to be blood.  As i staggered to the bathroom I felt a bad cramp and then i felt something coming out.  When i got into the restroom and pulled down my pants...there it was..the amniotic sac and placenta...it had expelled from my body.  I called the doctor and described what i had in front of me and he told me to come into the office this morning.  We did an ultra sound and the sac was gone...we had a spontaneous abortion.  Well at 7:30pm this evening i passed another large dark gray tissue with blood clots and called the doctor.  He said it was the remains of the placenta and to see him in two weeks.  I have three children and want so much to have a 4th.  It was absolutely a horrible site to see what i did.  I have had a few miscarriages before and never saw anything like that.  If anyone has any suggestions...please let me know. Physically I am fine but it has been one emotional rollercoaster!

[usuk]

i had a m/c at 14 weeks. and right after i went public b/c test for downs was negative, etc.  they tested me and the baby for a dozen things and no answers. it was not chromosomal. but my doc wanted me to start again right away after my first period because after a D&C, the uterus is "nice and clean". now he put me on clomid to get me back on track faster. and i was nearly suicidal from the mood swings. crying uncontrollably. so i hope this works b/c i did not need any help before the m/c. now all of a sudden i am on pills and he is recommending an IUI. very confusing. and i have a best friend who is a obgyn that i ask all kinds of questions too - and i am still confused. she said "stop googling stuff you'll go crazy" :) she is right.

[michelle_rusty]

i just wanted to say im sorry for your lost. i myself lost a baby on june 4th (11weeks along) had a d&e on june 5th 08 and got pregant not even 3 weeks later. im am now currently 17 weeks pregnant with no problem so far so it is possible to get preggo right away . i didnt even have the return of my period.  i wish you the best luck in ttc..

[richeygirl]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my prays

[usuk]

i cannot believe what i am reading and being told by friends. how common and sometimes how way into the 2nd trimester women m/c. if you are not supposed to go public with friends and family until you are out of the woods, how can you get support and comfort when you have a m/c? what a catch 22. either suffer in silence if no one knows or potentially share devasting news down the road??? i feel sorry for pre-blog women.

[leighanne143]

after a and c, you want to wait the amount of time a doctor tells you to assure you do not get an infection and you give your uterine lining time so get thick again to hold a healthy pregnancy.

MC happens for no reason at all.  i had 2 of them in 5 months and all tests came back normal.  

you could try the clomid, i heard it helps with PCOS.  I am so sorry for your loss.  hang in there.  talk to your doctor and see what he or she advices.

[martikadragoon]

my mom got pregnant on purpose 6 weeks after having her miscarriage. She gave birth to my brother mike right after that

[usuk]

a very young woman explained it in a way that made sense for the first time. that your body scans the baby constantly, like your computer scans for a virus. and one day it just finds something it does not like and stops everything. and 12 weeks does not guarantee this will not still happen if your body is always monitoring the baby.

so anyway tuesday is 3 mos since my d&e and 2 weeks p/o and i'll be testing again. thanks everyone for your warmth & honesty.

[evthing4reason]

I think regarding the post about waiting to tell your family/friends....i told my closest friends this time right away even though i had lost my last baby at 19 weeks. they have been a great support and whne i had a threatend miscarriage at 9 weeks they were there for me, i didn't have to go through it alone (becuae men just don't get it)