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Depression during pregnancy?

Hi everyone,

I was wondering if anyone suffers from depression.
an was not been depressed before i got pregnant, I still don't know if I am right now for sure but I think I am.
I got married a few months ago, before that and after, my husband and i were having problems. It was mostly because of his family, and still is. They aren't regular problems, there has been a lot of harassment and abuse towards himself and myself from them. So it's really difficult to deal with.
I feel like everything is a million times worse now that I am pregnant. I know my emotions are higher than ever, but I don't know if how I'm feeling is normal.
I feel now more than ever that I am completely alone. My husband doesn't do things I'd like him to do like sweet gestures and stuff. When we argue (which is a lot more often now even though I've tried to explain to him that I can't control my feelings) he never just gives in and and usually makes it worse. All of my friends have left my side as soon as I got pregnant. I am more sad than I am happy and I have had bad thoughts like hurting myself and even suicide (although I don't think I ever could do it).
I don't know what's wrong with me. This is all so terrible and I am so sad that I am not happier because I feel like this should be one of the greatest moments of my life, and it's not.
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I am sorry you are going through all this! You are right you should be allowed to be happy and enjoy this moment.  So talk to your doctor,  they will give you resources.  I suffer bouts of depression and anxiety and for me what works best is talking to someone so I see a councillor.  I have had to stop recently bc how expensive it can be and our insurance isn't helping as much as they used to since all the healthcare changes.  I am doing ok right now but if it gets bad again I will look for a group or other options for affordable help.
when it comes to your husband what I learned with mine is it takes a while to train them ;-).  I have had a lot of problems with my in laws and there were times they stopped talking to him bc he wanted me to join in a family event they had planned...and guess what he would then stop talking to me!!!  Also I wanted him to do small gestures to show his love like a little note on the fridge or computer.  He does it now, I got him to do it buy doing it myself.  Getting him his favorite candy or sending a little card to work.  Even just sending him random texts.  It makes him feel so loved that now he does it for me too.  Family well...after 6+ years of marriage he is starting to realize who is starting the issues.  I stopped complaining to him and just told him it was his family he can deal with them and I will just stand next to him.  It wasn't easy to always take the abuse but now it is paying off as he sees it especially as it gets worse cuz they blame me for him calling them out on it now.  But he supports me so I dont care what they think as long as I know he will stand by me.
Lastly oh first pregnancies with your man... They feel guilty what they see us going through and that they did it to us.  So sometimes they take it put on us or try to ignore it to drive off the guilt.  Not only did my husband do that my first pregnancy but after my csection he spent his paternity leave leaving me at my moms with baby while he went home and showered and played video games... But then one day my dad and I were going to do a mini photo shoot of my lil girl and my husband walked out the door to go home.  I went to a room and bawled.  My mom family talked me into doing the photos with my dad but when my husband got back I told him he would never skip an important moment like that again if he wanted us to be together as a family.  Then I told him he was taking me and baby home and he was going to take care of us the rest of his leave.  He did and every pregnancy since he has barely let me lift a finger and is the most amazing, hands on father ever! (Which just upsets his family more as they are not that way themselves...)
So put yourself first, get someone you can talk to.  Then start working slowly on your husband lol ;-)
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It definitely sounds like bouts of depression. I would talk to ur doc asap. Ur hubby might not fully understand so it would be better to get an outside source. Depression is an actual chemical imbalance. Couple that with the hormonal changes & it can make you feel and think about things you wouldn't normally. I suffer from depression ordinarily & I try to explain that it's just like a cold. You take proper measures to get rid of the cold otherwise you get sicker. Same with depression it is an illness and has to be treated
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