Life is complicating

[nappturally_prego]

Hey yall. I'm 26 yrs. old, part-time employee, full time student, and mommy-to-be of first child. I am terrified of the reality of becoming a mom. Even though this is something I have dreamed of becoming, I wasn't expecting this role now nor am I ready for it. I'm not in an actual relationship with the father but we're on decent terms. I live five hours away from my family, my strongest support system, and they are struggling, I'm struggling, and I'm not sure how to began the transition now to prepare myself for the arrival of my baby. I am so elated about this experience yet I'm stressing about my bills, my relationships, my future career, etc. Where do I go or start to seek support and preparation for this process and experience?

[nappturally_prego]

Thanks so much for the encouraging words ladies. Sometimes you just need to talk to people who have been through the same thing or going through the same as you are. It's a relief when you know it's possible to get through this experience.

[MommyLyric]

for me to get back on my feet and be Ms. Independent but at that time, i needed support for myself and daughter and my main goal was to graduate. it was a learning experience and very humbling. i wouldn't change it for the world . all in all, know what's important to get you and your childwhere you want to be. everything else will fall in place. it may take a while but i guarantee that it will. sounds like you're determined, strong willed and with a work ethic. YOU CAN'T FAIL! :-)

[MommyLyric]

first off, CONGRATULATIONS AND I'M PROUD OF YOU!!! i had my first child when i was 21 and a senior in college. like you,  father and i were on decent terms (summer love, one of those) but i prepared myself mentally to be a single mother. not the most ideal perspective but it helped me plan accordingly and not build false hope or dependence. trust God definitely!!! but in addition stay true to yourself. know what you want for you and your child and don't settle. continue to work hard and pray. God sees everything, knows your worries, hears your cries and will answer them. I'm not saying it will be easy. but prioritize and that may mean more sacrifice but plan to get back what you deserve. example, i had a really nice apt (dream crib) when i was away at school and pregnant but had roommates. i was two hours from my support system. i requested to do my field practicum back home with family, gave up my apartment and was able to have the support i desperately needed at that time. it took a few years

[AshleyNM]

I'm 26 and first time mom also. I am with the father, we have been together 2 years but really really good friends for 10 years. We dont live together but we will be before the baby comes. We talked about having a baby and I really wanted to. Now I'm 10 weeks pregnant and I'm scared to death about being a mom. It's equally exciting and terrifying. But most of the time is still doesn't feel real. So when I really think about it I get a huge pit in my stomach. I'm hoping that feeling wi change. Have you talked to the guy you're seeing about being an active part in your baby's life? If he plans to help support this baby with you? I would do whatever planning and saving you can do now.

[coleigh_1219]

Hey young lady... first an for most i want to encourage you to pray an give all your worries to GOD...!! He never puts us thur anything we cant handle. Everyday you wake up just thank him for the blessings he has givin you, an the ones he will continue to bless you with. I'm a ftm as well an have my issues an worries but after opening my heart to him he has blessed me to fight thur all battles an continue to get ready for my bundle of joy...
#Maygodblessyou #goodluck