Telling Roommate I'm Pregnant

[deavonnie]

We moved in with my best friend about 4 months ago now, the only reason we did this was because she did not want to live alone any more (her bf refuses to live with her even though they've been together 7 years)  and we were getting a 3 bedroom house. We all live together now and we recently found out I am pregnant (not planned). She always says if I got pregnant she would move out, well.... The hard thing is, she has been a terrible roommate. She has her boyfriend over and they will stay up until 3am playing video games and smoking weed in the living room and blasting music and we will wake up to it, we're 25 and have jobs... it seems a little ridiculous to still be doing this every week. She also does not clean or help around the house, she will even make food for her and her bf when he is over and leave every dish on the stove and out in the living room for us to pick up and clean. She is super moody and will only be happy if her boyfriend has called her that day, if he doesn't want to come over... she is a b*tch to everyone and will snap at any time. It has already been a unpleasant experience since her bf told her he never will marry her and then we got engaged and I am afraid to tell her because she is so negative about it (he has also made her get 2 abortions).. I know this is something she still regrets and I think she will be very harsh about me being pregnant. We have no idea how to tell her, or what she will do after. Has anyone been through something like this? What did you do? I am starting to show and it ***** that I have to walk on egg shells around my own best friend.

[Huni_b]

that doesn't really sound like a best friend to me. cuz otherwise she wud be genuinely happy for you, and show you her gratitude for letting her stay with you by helping to clean and do stuff around the house. rather than playing video hours until odd hours,  she shud spend time with you and work on her relationship with the guy who doesn't wanna marry her.

I say you tell her gently, with both your partners around. until she finds a new place, she'll have to respect your space (ie bedtime hours, smoke free environment, clean up after herself). maybe you can help her find a place?

maybe tell her the doc advised you and your fiance/hubby to have some alone time/privacy.  that way it's the doc's fault,  not yours.

good luck girl  :-)

[deavonnie]

thanks, that is what my family says. It just is hard since she has become so selfish since she moved in with us, I am baffled by the way she acts.

[lilpianogirl85]

If she truly is your friend she will be fine with it and happy for you. But from what you have described in not so certain she is a good friend to you. If it were me I would decide on when I would like her to move out (which might not be until after the baby is born). And then tell her you are pregnant and she is welcome to stay until such and such time. Like I said, if she is a ***** about it them she really isn't your friend.