What would your response

[Ladyj0625]

I recently found out I was pregnant again almost 7 months after giving birth to my son. I would like to know how do handle ppl asking why so soon after having your son have another baby? It wasn't on purpose I'm not really happy about it but don't know if I can handle the questions or comments when we finally tell ppl.

[From2To4]

I understand what you mean about your mom. My youngest is 10 YEARS old! When my mom found out I was pregnant with twins ten years later she had a ton of things to say. I told her very respectfully, "I have not and will not ask for your opinion or your help, only your support. If you can not offer that then I'll see you after they're born". It worked. I'm still surprised, my mom is very opinionated. Good luck!!!

[KieaRai]

I'm 25. My husband is 46 (he doesn't look his age at all).  People already think I'm not good enough for him bc his fam is full of religious nuts and I have tattoos... and since he has 2 kids by his ex already he kept getting asked if he really wanted to start his life all over again "just bc some heathen girl wants a baby". This is actually our first child together and we couldn't be happier but people bring up the age issue all the time and I just tell them to **** off. With all the wrong in the world they want to focus on us? At least our baby will be loved and not want for anything which is more than I can say for some of the other poor kids being raised by his family.

[thepenguinsrock]

I got preg when my 1st was 9 months i was 18 at the time.  Everyone just assumed I'd get rid end off. I ignored everyone else and happily announced I was having a baby girl at which point everyone stopped putting their opinion a cross and got all excited aswell :)

[xktxcx]

I fell pregnant with my second when my son was only 5 months old however I did miscarry but then fell pregnant again 2 months later now 20 weeks. When people ask me I just tell them that it's my decision and I'll do what I want to nd if they don't like it tough.

[Ladyj0625]

Thank you all for the responses. The main person I'm worried about is my mom she always has something negative to say to me about something. Mostly trying to build up the nerve to have a response to her comments. The only ppl who know is my pastors family. Because they support my family always and help me with dealing with her.

[brooke_13]

I thought that people would ask lots of questions too about why we would have another baby so soon. My son was 6 or 7 months old as well when we accidentally got pregnant with out third baby. Most people have surprised me though. I waited until I was about 16 weeks pregnant to announce the pregnancy because I was afraid of what people might say but the proudest thing anyone has said was " wow you're going to be busy".. which is true lol. People might surprise you :)

[lala_mommy]

Lol @Treksy! I wish I had thought of your response (my youngest is 6) "why a third?" , "your wanting to start all over again?",  "was it planned?".
Smdh, seriously why would ppl even bring up these comments?! The last time I heard my SIL say "omg, I am glad I just have one." My response in my mind was like " Wow, especially because you do absolutely nothing all day."  ...
>Anyways,  as the others said,  it may seem like a bit too much right now- and in the first year,  but you'll be glad you did. Hang in there momma ;)

[Mikhaylah]

F@%k what people think id be the biggest smartarse gross 'em out with stupid funny sexual answers hahhaa! Just for laughs youre blessed hun :) if they aint feeding u,financing u or f@#king u aint none of their damn business lol! Congrats u machine ! U go girl! :p

[Mommy_of_thr3e]

My father is 364 days older than his sister... so all growing up my aunt would rub it in for ONE DAY about how they were the same age. :) they grew up inseperable!

[Veronica555]

Because seriously who the hell are they to ask u something like that? They wonder why ur having kids and u can tell them the same way I wonder why you only have 1, or 2 or w.e. or say something aling the lines of if im doing this im doing it now and im doing it right, so in how wver many years I can be done with the nursing baby years and live a little,  otherwise ur whole life is locked down. Your being smart

[Veronica555]

Some women are willing to sacrifice their time nerves and energy on children for the sake of the family,  so that when your long and gone,  tjey have each other,  its the least selfish thing you can do foe your children. .. so if anyone asks, spit that in their face "I understand not everyone is built to handle the baggage of children,  but I know its better for their wellbeing and future in this world, so for them, id do it 1000 times" or if they say why? Ask them "why not?"

[nikel24]

Yeah say something silly back. Like yeah all my husband has to do is look at me and boom I'm pregnant.... I think mine and my husband's jeans were hung too close together in the closet...or we really wanted twins and that's the closest we could get. Forget people and what they think, babies are a blessing planned or not.

[Chas4683]

I mean even tho it may seem close they are still going to be a year and some odd months apart ..
It's not that bad of a thing (?) I don't really understand why people would talk crap ?
As long as your a fit mother and are their for your children then who gives a ish , it's your life - your family ...
And if you don't want to have them soon after theirs birth control ;)
but ask anyone and your actually more likely  after you have your first to end up pregnant again soon after , that's why Dr's stress what bc after birth .

[RogersK]

My son and daughter are 15 months apart and I just told everyone I wanted them to be close together which we did but it works :) 34 weeks pregnant with our 3rd :)

[heatherppmom3]

On my 3rd my daughter was 7months when we found out I think people assumed it wasn't on purpose I get picked on in a friendly way all the time I just laugh and don't let it get to me it took me a while to get excited too but  it was obviously meant to be and now I'm 38wks and can't wait to meet her!

[kennimae]

I got lots of that on facebook and with being young (21) while everuome my age is still in school and partying and such it was a shock to them when I got pregnant with #2. My first one wont even be 2 years old and I will be married for 3 years. I just responded we would've liked to wait which was our plan but the guy above has a better plan for us and if you dont like it then you can shove your opinion somewhere else.

[Chas4683]

Bc you wanted a sibling for your other baby , & you wanted them to grow up together ... lol lie :)

I got pregnant with my 2nd daughter when my 1st was only 6 months myself , but it's nice for them to not be lonely ... and honestly if your going to have another baby you wouldn't want them spread out years later
Now 9 years LATER .... haha I'm expecting my 3rd but 1st boy !  March 31st & I wish I didn't wait this long bc it's like starting over ... my girls will be in high school before he starts kindergarten ..

[Treksy]

Totally forgot* woops lol

[Treksy]

Im having my 3rd and my last one just turned 5 and people were still like "omg youre crazy! Why would you have another after you already have one of each?"
I gross em out with details like..."well the hubby and I love to do it and in the throes of passion I totally to consult you! Sorry!"

[Ladyj0625]

Lol thanks I try hard to get mad about his slip up but idk I haven't even been to doctor because I wasn't happy not losing all baby weight yet.

[Veronica555]

I would make stupid response jokes about it, to everyone who asks me. Get creative lol

[Pook_85]

$hit happens!

[Candy_T]

I agree with Sharita

[eljo13]

I know exactly how you feel hun my baby is just 11 months old and im 27 weeks pregnant it was a big big shock and I found it very hard to deal with I was also 12 weeks when I found out!! I have to admit I was very unhappy for weeks but then realised what I would have at the end of it and I was getting worried if I didnt snap out of it I wouldnt bond with the baby witch could lead to p.n.d!! Never mind what other people think a baby is a blessing no matter wat your children will grow up close and have a great bond so stuff wat others think :)