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Why is it such a big deal to have a lot of children??
I love big families. I'm one of 6 girls myself. Why is it that when people find out I'm pregnant with my 5th child, I automatically get the "you're white trash" glare???? I am a wonderful mother. I take care of my children very well. The are dressed well. Behave very well for eaxh of their age groups. They're fed well, bathed daily. Taught morals, and about the lord. Why is it okay for people to say negwtive things? Just this morning I went to the Dr. with nasal congestion and the nurse makes it a point to tell me I must be crazy and what the heck am I thinking. Followed by " this will be your last I hope!" Why does she or anybody else have a right to make sly comments like that??
I would have told the nurse where she could put her stethoscope.
I totally feel your pain. Lol we are pregnant with our 5th child together. He also has 2 from his first marriage. I got the very same reaction. Then they meet my kids and husband. I think we are doing well I am 30 and he is 40. I look maybe 24 at most and get all kinds of child bride stares. Lol. I don't even let it bother because I know my kids probably would put them to shame. My husband has a barbershop, kids are articulate and always well groomed. I work as a cardiac monitor tech. Fri-sun and working on my last year of nursing school.
You ladies have made me feel much better:))Maybe it's just where I'm from. People are very stuck up and don't find it normal.
Long as u take care of yours dnt worry about other btw I am only 31 with 6 children.
I have 5 boys nd now pregnat with a little girl due any day now I married my high school love at 17 we had three boys together but unfortunately it didn't work out we whee together 12 yrs. I am now married to someone else we have 2 boys nd a girl on the way so we have a big family 6 kids my children r also well mannered nd respectful so I think big family's r wonderful dnt worry about what other think as l
I don't think white trash. I think good lord how does she do it and I'm here struggling with one!! We're pregnant with twins so we are going from one to 3 fast and I'm just like how do all these other moms do this!!??
I was raised that big families are great... I have five girls and pregnant with my sixth which is a boy thankfully. I am 27 and have no plans in getting a tubal. We may try for another boy or two.... I get the same looks and even the are those all yours... I got an education and a career, just for the h.e.l.l. of it I plan to go back to school to further my education in the medical feild past a nurse or just go another way.. not sure yet.. my husband and I are doing great but just in case if want to be able to provide very well all on my own. . I would already be fine but I want more than fine for my children. My kids are healthy, clean, well dressed and well behaved and like I said hi get the looks to. I don't really care what they think but it p.I.s.s.e.s me off that they think they have a right... who are they, when their one or two kids are dirty and dressed like I won't even go there.. and behave like they need to be tore up... some people need to worry about their own kids.. lol... mine are fine...
I agree with everyone! I have 2 children and am pregnant with twins now, i get the "you're getting your tubes tied right" question almost daily. It's so annoying! And i feel so stupid i dont even know what to answer. I usually smile and change the subject. What I really wanna say is: what if i wanna have 10 kids? That's my business right??
I know what you mean my boyfriend and I are on our 4th together he also has his older son from a previous girlfriend. I get looks and people say you dont need anymore kids or are you crazy y would you have so many. I also get oh your man must be a true mexican having all those kids and that one I hate cuz it has nothing to do with race. My boyfriend of 11 years works his butt off to give us the life we have. I love kids so much this probably will be last do to me getting extremely sick while pregnant and it taking a toll on my health but if I coukd I would probably have 2 more. I came from a big family youngest of 6 and its more fun to have a big family.
I like the above comment, it's real..listed back and actually quite true!!! I am Referring to Adorablemommyy*
Very good point:)^^^^^
Btw thank you ladies for your opinions on this topic. I appreciate each and every one of them.
I am almost 30. My husband bust his butt to support us so that I can be home with my babies. I was married 7 years ago to my 3 oldest childrens father. Unfortunately he decided to leave. I met my second husband 5 years ago and we have a son and a little girl on the way. I don't see that as a bad thing. He pretty much has become my oldest childrens father. I believe its an honorable thing to do on his part. By no means do we live off of the government either.
By the way, I am only 27 years old. After my 7th cesarean delivery in October, I still have chosen not to get a tubal ligation. ;)
It's absolutely no one's business how many children you have chosen to have...BUT YOURS AND YOUR HUSBANDS!!!! They do not have the right to make comments of such, yes everyone is open to their own opinion but personally I would have put that nurse in her place. Like you said, your children are well take care of, that's all that matters. I am a damn good mother myself, I bust my as s literally daily to take care of our children and I be damned if I will only someone to be little me because of making the choice of having a large family. I gave birth to 6 children all born via cesarean delivery, expecting my 7th child..soon. We are financially completely stable and have no.l complications supporting our children, even their future (they have college funds, life insurance etc), my kids are well behaved, clean, fed, loved, given individual attention etc etc etc.....they need for nothing, mentally, physically, financially, spiritually etc. I am from a big family, 6 brother, 4 sisters and my husband is Mexican he has 12 brothers, 2 sisters. We both agreed on a huge family ourselves, got our life's together and met our dream come true!! People who criticize us, in my eyes are jealous and have no personal life, therefore mine is much more interesting then that of their own. I 100% support your decision to have a big family, I believe your strong and blessed!! Do not let someone bring your spirit down, your too amazing for such nonsense!! :)Speak up, tell people to keep their opinions to themselves and their mouths shut!!! It's your life, your decision not anyone else's!!!!!! Be strong, be mommy strong ;)
Who cares what people think... who cares they are not you!! Have a happy day!!
A lot of times people judge because of the age of the mother and number of kids. Also by the number of different fathers if that's the case. Also if they are using state assistance. I've know some people who would get preggers on purpose just to get benefits. It really is no one's place to judge. I would be getting b*tchy with people if I was told anything like that.
That was very rude of her. Ppl should mind their own business. I love big families too, my mom had 5 kids, bless her heart for taking care of us but I couldn't handle 5 kids LOL I'm on my 3rd and final baby. But I think if you can afford and take care of more kids then go for it!:)
Maybe theyre envious. Pray for peace in their heart. You are doing a wonderful job! :)
I dispise parents that have big families only to make the children take care of themselves or siblings, do all the house work, and cook. They arent servants, only servants of God.
I dispise parents that have big families only to make the children take care of themselves or siblings, do all the house work, and cook. They arent servants, only servants of God.
Is just a stereotype.. I know women that have 4 kids a early age and dnt do so well they dnt take care of their kids... as ling as u know ur a good mom and urkids are well nothing should matter
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