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another pregnant woman at my baby shower

So my baby shower is this coming weekend and my husband has invited this woman he went to high school with who is 8 months pregnant and due a couple of weeks beforquestion claiming that he invited everyone he knew so we can get more gifts. This woman is married but at one point before my husband and I were together asked her husband to allow her to have sex with my husband who was single at the time. My husband said he would never do it because he was also friends with her husband. Her and I have had several run ins where Im at a point now where I will be a complete B*tch if she rubs me  the wrong way. My question is what pregnant woman in her third trimester would go to another woman's baby shower? She already accepted the invite but I don't want her to come.
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Oh hell no! The fact that she is pregnant means nothing. What she did means everything. I would of flipped out at my SO for inviting her in the first place(why is he still talking to her if he knows her intentions?) Then have him or myself call her and tell her I'm sorry but due to past events I can't with good conscience invite you into my home.
Maybe I'm just a little dramatic but no you have every say at who is and isn't allowed at Your party
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9358102 tn?1418673367
Well she was invited.. I can't believe he invited her..
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Tell that ***** she can't come it's your day....its your way or no way.... She only coming to be nosey
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Yea... that's a negative. You don't need to be looking over your shoulder at her and ease dropping on her conversations. I'm assuming that since HE invited her and other people he knows... that hes going to be there too... don't need raging hormones that may end up making you look like "the bad guy" to people that don't know the situation/past. That's YOUR celebration day.
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I think you have a problem with the woman and not the fact she's pregnant.

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I feel your husband should put himself in your shoes and think about it. How comfortable would he be a guy over the years has been trying to have sex with you is there. I mean out of respect that friendship should have ended because of her innapropriate behavior. You've had run ins for a reason. Doesn't matter if her husband okays her sleeping with others. That ls there personal business. 18 years of friendship or not she doesn't need to be there.
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9440890 tn?1415878121
I wouldn't want her there either,  whether she's pregnant or not. Too much inappropriate history. You shouldn't have to deal with anyone who makes you uncomfortable!
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Yeah there's no reason dor her to be at your baby shower especially if you dont the b*t*h icwould message or call her a** ahead of time and tell her not to show her face
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Also is not just a day to get as many gifts as possible,  it's a day where the people close to you see you pregnant and support and love you.  Tell him that.
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I wad pregnant at my friends baby shower? WHY WOULDN'T A PREGNANT WOMAN GO TO ANOTHER WOMAN'S BABY SHOWER????

She may not be a home wrecker. Or partners have mostly had sexual relations before is just like we have.  It's nothing to worry about unless she is pursuing your husband now. Idk what to tell you.  Maybe try and see if you may like her. But I'm a pretty laid back easy going kind of person so that may not work for everyone.

Maybe just get through the day and ignore her and don't let your husband send invites to your baby shower lol.
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I personally don't see a problem with pregnant woman being at a babyshower or just going out for a little fun. What I wouldn't allow is a woman my husband use to talk to, dated, kissed, touched in any sexual way. That's just a no no. My husband woukd know better. I will tell that woman to turn the f*c around and get the stepping out of my babyshower. . Point blank... and ohhhhh my husband will hear it after! !!!
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He uninvited her, and said that him doing so ended their 18yr friendship.  Furthermore, he told me today that she has been wanting to sleep with him and have tried numerous times over the years before and after she became married but he didnt want to go there with her. he doesn't seem resentful about cutting her off so no more drama thank God.
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3rdNDone, definitely not threatened by her physically, personality wise or financially. Her shadyness after having been married is the main reason why I dont like/want her around.
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10417801 tn?1409982912
Text her, Facebook her, ig her... send her a damn telegram... Tell that trashy heffer not to come.. period point blank... its easier than actually calling her on the phone, so it don't turn into an argument... good luck mama.. ps. Ive never had a pregnant woman at any of my baby showers.. and I have 3 kids..
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Ladies you know why she is mad and being pregnant has nothing to do with it..  that's just her pregnancy hormones adding that in.   This woman has no right at your shower, she was married and tried sleeping with you husband. Like a previous poster said if she don't care about her vows she don't care about yours... she has no right to come to a party to celebrate you and your husband's happiness.
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9812003 tn?1452545539
She wanted to sleep with your husband before you were together when your husband was single. Her husband and her discussed it, but ut never happened or had  chance of happening. Your husband told you what occurred. So my genuine qusestion is are you threatened by her?
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I would tell him to tell her she can't come. And that he should of asked you before inviting this women.  And knowing the history behind it, i don't care if they were friends in high school after knowing about the sex thing, they shouldn't be friends anymore out of respect for you. But that's just me, that's where I draw the line.
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I'm co-hosting a baby shower for a friend at 39 weeks pregnant.   It's not ideal for me bc it's so close to my edd but it's the only date that worked for her.  I don't see a problem with having a prego gal there.  Now, ANY girl with that history I wouldn't want at my shower.
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Pregnant people got to other pregnant woman baby showers. But that's the least of your concert. I know your hubby knows you don't like her or had "run in" with her so he shouldn't have invited her period.. F*ck more gifts. Her gift was not needed
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Her being pregnant wouldn't be my issue,  her wanting to screw my man, now that's where the issue would come in. ..I'm sorry but that ***** would have to uninvite her damn self
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I don't know if this was stated above, but someone should not be excluded from attending a shower because they are pregnant, but if  you don't like her or you don't get a long w her you should be able to tell your husband you don't want her to come. That said, if it's too late to uninvite her, I would just be as polite but as avoidant as possible.
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I see no problem with another pregnant woman attending your baby shower. The fact that she wanted to sleep with your DH and DH had the nerve to invite her knowing you have history would **** me off!! He is in the wrong for inviting her, I would make him disinvite her!
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7552771 tn?1469929649
I've been to other baby showers while pregnant. So I don't understand that part. But I do get why you wouldn't want her there. But you'll be so busy trust me you won't even notice.
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That would make me uncomfortable as well. Not even that she's pregnant just the history behind it. I would make him tell her she's not invited. And I would probably make sure there isn't a friendship there after that. She seems sneaky. Idk I don't trust that whole situation. But hey I'm a raging ***** and since I'm pregnant I make sure **** goes my way especially on my important day.
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