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baby #2... 1 still co sleeping.......
My dd is 2 next month, my son is due end of March. Dd slept in her cradle and crib (in our room) on and off all her life until recently when she has been sleeping in our bed nightly. I know I should get her back into her crib in her own room (1st time ever). It just makes me so emotional and sad to even try. She cries histerically and just wants to snuggle. I don't mind snuggling. I dread the thought of not.... due date approaching and I have so many concerns.... any advice or suggestions. Pros or cons. Im open!
It sounds very difficult to have to get one child out of the bed to make way for another. Personally, I was never a supporter of cosleeping because of the safety hazard (i dobt trust that i weight roll over in my sleep) and then having to break them of that habit. I hope you're able to find a way that works best for you and your family!
I guess I'll be the outsider. I don't believe in co-sleeping. With our 1st I made a mistake when she got sick with the flu and let her sleep with us. She was 11 months. To get her out I put her toddler bed st the bottom of our bed and after a few nights I moved it to the hallway and then to her own room.
I am still trying to use the crib.... and as I laid on the floor next to it last night, she kept trying to climb out... which also is scary. I dont want too many extreme changes like converting to a big girl bed and a new baby.... ahhh so many excuses I have lol
I did cry it out at 16 months when I was finished nursing... she cried for like an hour and a half and it was this pissed off "why aren't I getting what I want like usual" cry. It was one of the hardest tines of my life to let the crying go. The girl was staying up until all hours of the night so I kindof had to! But she still comes in our bed... I feel like it's the best of both worlds. I have an ikea crib set up as a cosleeper and now she sleeps in that so that we can have room for the new baby and actually get some sleep since she kicks and hits her dad all night. Its nice to see so many people Co sleep... it used to be soemthing people were ashamed to admit to : )
And for everyone who said you'll get zero sleep well you get zero sleep reguardless the first couple weeks they are only little so long I'm preg with my 5th and it works for me.. I actually get more sleep bkus my the older baby sleeps better with us I don't have to keep movin him back n forth..
I co sleep and I'm all for co sleeping.. cry it out method is cruel in my opinion. I have co slept with all 4 of my kids who are about 2-3 yrs apart. They all moved out in their own time. I've never had the baby wake up the olders. Do what works for your family. My 18 month old will be 22 months when baby comes and we will continue to co sleep. Maybe Your older child is wanting to spend more time with you Before baby comes and that's why all of a sudden they want to sleep with you.. I promise they won't be in your bed forever lol my almost 9 yr old,5&1/2 yr old and 3 yr old all sleep in their own beds now.. I'm not much for forcefull moving because I dnt want my child to feel replaced.. and co sleeping works for us good luck with your journey :)
I believe in co- sleeping. Could you maybe try putting a toddler bed in your room. Lay next to her first few nights and slowly move your self further away until your in your own bed??? I'm on number 4. They all co-slept. My older 3 all eventually transitioned to their own beds/ rooms. It will all work out
I so suggest the the cry it out method, but yelling at them is not in the method. Just be firm but nice.
I forget what the Ferber method is, but I think it means to put ur foot down and let them cry it out? That's what I did with my son when he 15mos old. He cried for 30mins the first night. Then I went back in the room and yelled at him to sleep by himself. I left, turned up the tv while he cried a lil more, then he fell asleep. Second night he cried for 5 mins and went to sleep. That was the end of that! He's been sleeping by himself ever since. U can do it. She'll get over it.
sorry lol but what is DD?
Ahh thank you all for the advice! I will keep you updated. I am most worried about one waking the other up or never snuggling my husband again lol. Other than that all good. Ty again!!
I have to say I am with Cass on this. My 2 year old almost 3 year old is still co-sleeping he sleeps in the middle of daddy and I. When he's not there I have a horrible time sleeping. I am due in 30 days and I have no plan on moving him to his room. He was potty trained at 2 and also can count to 5, he can also sing his abc's and is such an amazing kid. He will be 3 in May. I'm not sure if it's because he sleeps in our bed but I really don't have complaints. Lol good luck, just remember whatever decision you make is a good decision. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to this question. ♡ :)
My first born will be a month shy of 2 when his little brother is due to arrive, and he still co-sleeps. I'm just going to put a crib next to our bed for new baby, and let my oldest stay in bed with us. Then when my youngest is bigger I am going to put him in the bed and my oldest in the crib and eventually move him to his room. I'm hoping this will work, and if not I'm sure we will find a way. Co-sleeping is an amazing thing and too many people look down on it. Just do what you feel is best for your family. Your oldest will eventually get to her own room, kids who co-sleep are more indepent and are more secure so its a good thing that you are doing for her.
You could start gradually. Maybe put a mattress beside your bed on the floor and cuddle with her there until she falls asleep and then move Intl your own bed. That way she gets used to waking up without mama there but nearby. You can eventually put the mattress on the floor of her room and do the same thing. Not sure if you could be there sleeping on her own before new baby comes but it's worth a shot! Better than her feeling rejected because you have a new baby.
I shouldn't say fun per say, but get her to think it's exciting and she's a big girl. Maybe also try getting a new bed if she needs it or let her pick out new bedding that is hers.
Well, this seems cruel, but you may just have to try the cry it out method. She's old enough to soothe herself and be able to sleep on her own. Get a good bedtime routine started....bath time, then a movie to calm down and a story at bedtime. Let her know what's going on amd make it fun for her. She will cry and get out of bed but you will just have to stick to your guns and eventually it she will get it. My daughter is 3 and still wakes up and wants to sleep in my bed....I've been sleep training her since she was 5 months old. Be consistent.
I think the ferber method is the best one
I've never co slept with my first and don't plan on it with the second either. My husband and I move around way to much it scares me. I had her in a bassinett right by my side of the bed for about the first 6-7 months then moved her to her crib. I did the ferber method with my little girl and it worked well. :) it may not be for everyone but I didn't want to do the cry it out method. :/
I'm actually all for co sleeping but with another baby on the way your in a tough situation. Realistically what are your options? Wean now, or have litterally zero sleep and extra stress. Try to research gentle sleep training techniques while there is still time. You got 60 days to figure this out, best of luck. I'd love an update too
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