boyfriends family

[sjpolo]

I'm pregnant with my second baby with my boyfriend and his family just doesn't like me at all. My first son will be 2 in august and they've only seen him a handful of times. It's very sad to say they won't even see our new son at all. I don't even want to be with my boyfriend anymore because of his family not liking me so our kids won't know them because my boyfriend refuses to talk to his family. As much as I don't care about them liking me why take it out on my kids ya know? I don't want my kids to wonder why daddy's family doesn't know then when it's because they don't like their mom. How sad...really thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend so they won't have to deal with nit knowing the other side of the family. :(

[Faith1987]

This is me and mine second child also and his family is not at all very fond of me but they don't take it out on the children. His mother even gets our daughter every weekend. She loves her and can't wait to meet her next. I just stay away from them and all their negativity. Only deal with them when there is no way around it. Definitely ***** that the family can't see past their dislike for you to be in their grandkids life. I hope it gets better.

[Jrob0530]

Don't break up your Childrens home because their fathers family chose to break up his. If he was that close to his dad nothing would be able to come between that. Honestly my Fathers family wasn't so nice to my Mother either even though my Mother tried and ALWAYS include them. My Grandmother used to tell us "in the eyes of the Catholic Church my parents aren't married because my Mom isn't a Catholic". Honestly as children it didn't bother us, as an adult I see my Mother was the bigger person. Now I'm having my own little one, the first baby in my fathers family since my brother &I and all of asudden they are sorry & are trying to be included. It only took 30 years....

[sjpolo]

Yea but he wont. He likes to just sweep everything under the rug without dealing with the problem.  And then later be mad at himself for not doing anything about it..

[elvendork]

Sounds like he needs to confront his dad.

[sjpolo]

I just don't know how i can deal with being the reason why he doesn't ever see his family when his dad was his best friend. What if his dad were to die i would feel miserable that he never saw him because of me. When we first started dating we did everything with his family and as the years went by u could just tell they didn't like me and i felt uncomfortable going over there so I stopped and they blame me for being uncomfortable

[sjpolo]

They call and text him all the time like everything is ok and say tell Apollo (our son) grandma and grandpa love him and wish he could be here for the holidays. And it makes me so mad because they don't care to put aside not liking me to see our son. Which I did nothing wrong at all its mainly his step mom that doesn't like me but it's driving me nuts. He tries to hide that they call and text him I feel like he has a secret life.  But anyway the reason I would be leaving him is because he has no one in his life besides me and he just seems so alone and when the new baby is born he has no one to call and be excited with besides me of course but I just feel likeiI'm a huge problem in his life

[mckaylas_momma1018]

Breaking up with him isn't the answer to his family problems... and even if you do break up- there is no guarantee they will want a relationship with YOUR kids. .. and you never know... they may have an issue with him too... not just you... you said he doesn't talk to them so this isnt really an issue with him and you.... its with you and them...

[cubby77]

Whether you are with your boyfriend or not they will still be related to your children and you will still have to face this situation one way or the other. Breaking up with him does not solve it at all. Sounds like your boyfriend is more dedicated to you and his children.  Which he should be. Don't punish him for people he cannot control.