husband doesnt seem excited..

[yeseniaFTM]

I know I might be just looking into it too much but does anyone feel like their husbands are not as excited as you'd think they'd be? I was pregnant last year and ended up having a miscarriage and it was very hard on me. Now almost a year later I'm pregnant again! It's very early, I'm only 5 weeks and although I am scared it could happen again I can't help but be extremely excited! Unfortunately I just don't see that excitment in my husband. He says he's happy but I just don't see it. Maybe he doesn't want to get too happy in case something goes wrong and I understand but how do you not show excitement? It would be our first child. Just wondering if anyone else feels this way..

[Mommabanielle]

I'm 29 weeks, and my husband has said he's excited about ten times my whole pregnancy. He doesn't really like to touch my belly, but a few times I've made him...sometimes he thinks it's cool, other times he thinks it's weird to feel the babies moving. He's been incredibly supportive, although there have been times with my rollercoaster emotions that I thought he didn't care. I agree with what others have said about everyone handling it differently. There is a lot of pressure on a man who is fathering a child. Hang in there and remember to communicate. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[Mrs_MP3]

It's kind of like the wedding...They enjoy that moment when you're walking down the aisle, but all the fluffy stuff that we loved during the planning part, they're just really not into. It could be the fear of getting attached and losing another child and/or it could be that he needs to feel something more than just a positive pregnancy test our a blob on a ultrasound to get excited...regardless, he's probably waiting to be that proud daddy and it will come. For now, don't take it personally.

[Ash11210]

I understand exactly how you feel. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and now it's My second one. I'm only 8weeks but I'm full of joy. He doesn't seem as excited but I think men don't develop that bond as early as women. We spend almost a year with our baby before they are born. Men usually get the feeling that its really once the baby is born.

[angelmommy30]

In 2013 my husband and I lost our firstborn at birth, he was full term but aspirated on meconium at birth. My husband was super excited for the birth of our son and when we lost him, it devastated both of us. I'm currently pregnant with our 2nd child (28 weeks) and now since he can feel him move, kick, etc he sums more excited but at first he seemed reserved. I think it also weighs heavily in the father because he is the one according to society that is the protector, provider, he needs to be strong for not only you but the baby as well. Try to talk to him, keep open communication as much as possible, and if you cry that's ok as well, we as pregnant women are very hormonal.

[red84angel]

With our first, my husband didn't show true excitement until he was actually holding our son in his arms. Pregnant with #2 now and he's still not really showing excitement again.

[RudyMall]

Mine didn't really seem excited until he could feel her kick! I think it was hard for him to imagine the end outcome until he could feel it too.

[yeseniaFTM]

Thank you soooo much for the advice! I was feeling like it was just my husband but I guess I never really thought of it in the way that we all show excitement differently. I guess since we're feeling all of the changes in our body we get excited to know we're building a little angel inside of us and they can't feel that. :) I am going to see things different and get the courage to talk to him ( without crying) since I'm so emotional lol.. thanks!!!

[Jamie3115]

Im sorry you experienced a miscarriage and wish a healthy pregnancy for you! I have not experienced that myself but am pregnant with my first and can see where you may feel that he isnt that excited about baby. I feel like that about my husband and im almost 36 weeks. He doesnt talk about the baby, doesnt buy the baby anything, doesnt want to walk through the baby section at the store or offer to help much with getting baby stuff ready. I know he is happy about baby and is ready to he a father but I interpret things differently than him. I am a preparer and a doer so I may be more "involved" if that makes sense since he isnt as organized as I am. Sometimes he talks about baby, sometimes he will buy him something but for the most part I have to initiate those topics. I just think that everyone shows excitement differently and maybe he is being cautious about another miscarriage as a defense mechanism cause I can only imagine the pain a miscarriage can bring to a parent..... either way talking to him should help you to know where he is at I would think.

[joamb]

Honestly I don't think men get excited right away. My husband has only become really excited in the last two weeks. He knows the baby would survive if it was born now and he can feel it kicking and feels comfortable talking to my belly. He's really excited but in the beginning he wasn't excited, but I do remember him wanting to know the sex and that was exciting to him.