natural birth

[Shandeline]

I plan on doing a natural water birth . Does anyone have any techniques on how to stay calm during the pain ? Also what should I expect ??

[Shandeline]

Wow thats crazy . I'm just hoping he comes soon

[lousie_1986]

By the way I had my baby at 41+4 wks. He didn't engage til labour, no braxton kicks for whole pregnancy!

[lousie_1986]

Just refuse the induction. Talk to your midwife about how you see no benefit inthe 10 day induction. They can't force you into it! There is no extra danger until 42 weeks and even then you just need extra scans and tests to check bub is fine. That means you've still got a good 18 days before you have to consider it! Remember you are the client using the hospital's services. You are not a kindy child who has to obey everything they tell you. It's your baby and your birth! Hospital protocol is there to protect the hospital FIRST. And then to suit the average population. However this does not always guarantee it will be best practice for you or YOUR baby. Your baby will come in their own time!!

[Shandeline]

Sorry for the late response . I'm now 39 weeks and 3 days . Baby won't drop down , im not dialated nor effaced and I don't know what to do . I really want him out naturally so I don't want to be induced . I heard if I get induced I wine be able to do the water birth .. Help please

[Mrs_Khalid_Ali]

My third child was all natural, so I read a lot of books and videos. The two things that helped me the most were, 1) don't fight the pain, accept it, pain is a good thing and it means you're progressing normally. 2) as you start to push, imagine a large beautiful flower slowly blossoming for spring.
I had an epi for my first child so I didn't feel a thing. With my second child, my epidural slipped just before I begin to push, I went from a zero pain to 10 in less than a minute. I fought the pain, and it was by far my most difficult delivery. My third child was all natural, and I just kept telling myself mentally, to accept the pain, that it means that everything is going to be alright, and I imagined the blossoming flower as I mentioned before. He was out in three pushes.
I'm 11weeks pregnant with my fourth child, and I'll be doing the same thing again because it works so well with my last

[babyacorn]

Being in the water helped wonders! I agree with everything bigapplefamily said. Also what helped me was focusing on something during each contraction. Something that doesn't move though. I had to have absolute silence during my contractions, but my mom and SIL encouraged me through every break and got me ready for the next contraction. During transition, counter pressure by my midwife did wonders as well. And I agree that you won't find much help in those who haven't done it before. I didn't want any advice, just my hubby to support me. But when I was in active labor, I realized he was just as clueless as me ha ha. He was a wonderful support, but I really loved that my mom was there. Also, olive oil and whatever EO rubbed on my lower back was soo nice. Good luck momma! How far are you?

[Bigapplefamily]

*flameless candles

[Bigapplefamily]

The best thing for me was having my mom there to talk me through each contraction and tell me how well I was doing. It meant more coming from her than anyone else because she's had so many babies and knows me so well. She was my best support and pain relief. She reminded me to breath through the contractions and relax my bottom. She said watching me give birth was like watching herself give birth. She knew exactly what I was feeling and what stages I was in. Very very helpful!! If you don't think your mom will be that for you, I recommend a doula. Just make sure it's someone you trust who has also had babies because you won't take the support seriously from anyone who hasn't already been through childbirth themselves. I highly recommend researching natural childbirth by reading lots of books. My favorite was Ina May Gaskins Guide to Childbirth. She is an amazing woman and there are so many helpful birthing stories in there. Best way to relax is to have good support/calm people around you. I had flawless candles, calming music, lavender scents and lotions, but in the end didn't use any of those. You can do it, you just have to trust in yourself. It sounds easy but is a challenge. So worth it when you do though.