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pregnancy and depression
Hey i have been having some depression since finding out i am pregnant. Generally I'm the one telling people it will b e ok but i find I'm the one in need of some magic words....i was a teen mom and had three boys with a man that couldn't beat alcoholism so after it started becoming violent i left him...he has nothing to do with the boys...so i started from the bottom and started making progress, dated a little since i had been with only him for over 10 years starting when i was only in 9th grade. So i start dating this guy i worked with and i got fired only months after we started dating and he was there for me until i got on my feet, in the process i had to quit school but since then he hasn't kept a job or provided at all, we have lost homes, cars, and honestly my happiness, he has heart , diabetes, and weight problems due to his diet and lack of responsibility with his health, so i decided i can't put up with it anymore and my mom is in another state with stage 3 lung cancer dealing with chemo and radiation, with my taxes i was planningon leaving him, then only weeks before i get the money to go i find I'm prego and i, know I'm to blame but i feel he did this on purpose. To keep me here. Now i don't know what to do because in spite of his major flaws he loves his child he currently has with someone else and he loves me too and my boys....but now i don't know what to do, stay go? And how am i aroused to find a job up there if i do go while pregnant now? And I've been very sick with bronchitis and morning sickness, i don't want to take this baby away from a loving daddy...i find myself so sad that I'm bringing another baby in this scary world and ashamed of myself for doing this again but its different this time, usually i just say well i will be ok but now with problems beyond what is mentioned i wonder if it will be...I'm sad daily and i wish i weren't so stupid. I'm getting my tubes tied this time and i Hope i can chase these blues away and be more optimistic soon, i love my kids and know i will love this one too but I'm scared...any words of encouragement?? Advise?
Best Answer
There's a simple question to ask yourself... Do you love him? If its yes then you work on it and if no then you need to remove yourself and kids from the relationship. Either way I would talk to your doc about a mild dose of antidepressants. Sometimes its hard to think clearly when you're down and pregnancy hormones are known for exaggerating depression. Good luck hun in making the choice that's not going to be easy. Sometimes making the choice is the hardest part. Best wishes x
I agree with 2ndbaby. In the meantime you can try taking vitamin d. About 2000 iu. It's safe for baby ans helps with my sads. Big decision girl. Stay strong.
You need to make yourself happy and if you're not happy with him then leave. You don't want to resent your unborn baby because now you feel stuck in a relationship that makes you miserable
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