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pregnancy feels cruel

I dont have the best situations going right now altho im making the best of it. But damn if i didnt wake up today just crying my eyes out. My baby daddy chosr he doesnt want to be in our lives s. I leave wednesday... til then im stuck and what hurts is i feel he is rubbing his relationship with his daughter in my face and expects me to be happy like nothing is wrong and gets mad at me when i cant fake a smile. But how is this fair? First he made it very clear that both kids werent wanted ( his daughter and my unborn baby) but what hurts is he is making it very clear that altho both were unwanted his daughter is important and me and mine arent worth it. I cant stop crying. I know i made it his decision and his alone so in the future when his guilt consumes him, its his and his alone not mine because i didnt make it for him. But he is taking his guilt out on me. Its a cruel cycle that im stuck in til wednesday. I jus feel so alone and so unwanted. My heart is breaking for my baby and i
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Thanks ladies. And i agree completely. Its like i told him when he asked me to abort. He gets to choose to be a parent, i already am a mommy in my eyes because i choose to carry my child in my body. I know i can do this alone i have a wonderful support system when i get away on wednesday. Just truly hurts he is being so mean and vindictive. I made it all his drcisions so i could make mine properly. An. Now he is punishing me. Im sorry you had to go thru that and thank you for sharing. Glad to know others can relate
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Im in the same situation as you. I was with my childs Father for three years. He already has a son,he adores that little boy. So when I told him i was expecting and he told me he didn't want it. I was floored. Eight months later he hasnt been to a ultrasound or doctor's appointment. He even changed his number.  When he calls, he always says he only has one child. That he will go to jail before he will ever be a father to my daughter. The first couple of months was horrible, I was so depressed. Finally,  I realized that I had to be strong for my little girl and set a example for her.  Its a shame she wont have a father,  but then you realize she cant miss something she never have. Focus on yourself and your lil one. It will get a whole lot better :) good luck
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I think the worse thing in a baby's life is a parent who doesn't them. You need to be strong and everything will be OK. He might come around after the little one is born. Sometimes its better to do it alone. I was a single mom for 9 years. It's hard, but its better than having someone around who resents the child. Keep your head up and all will work itself out.
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