rant: sister in law

[eandrews511]

So I've had numerous problems and drama with my SIL in the last with her crazy need to be the center of attention for the whole family in my husband's side. She and I have actually had a pretty decent relationship this last year but now I'm starting to see signs of her crazy person coming back up. I 100% believe that this has to do with the fact that I am now pregnant with my first baby and that up until now, she has had the only two grandchildren. The thing that is frustrating me today is that after she had my latest niece, she swore that they were done having kids for at least a few years. And she never mentioned anything on fb about wanting another one at all until now. Now being that I am pregnant but haven't put anything on fb yet which she knows why. She's now saying that she's been trying to convince her husband (my husband's brother) to try again for a boy since they have two girls. I'm so annoyed by this but maybe I'm just reading too much into it. What I do believe is that if I end up having a boy, she will most definitely flip out.

[newjulymommy]

My SIL literally did the same thing. She is the youngest on my husband's side so everything has always been about her. As soon as we announced we were having a baby she flipped the eff out. And went out n got herself knocked up by some druggie who's now gonna be in jail for like 7 years.so now all i hear about is her n how perfect she is n happy she is that she got a girl just like she wanted. I wana shoot her. Haha jayyykay. But really.

[secondandlastone0914]

My cousin Shawn's wife took it to physco mode threaten cussed etc. But she has always felt she should be the only one with a child none else around her deserves one and all attention should be on her and her daughter and family should only be concerned focus on them no matter what's going on with others she has sone same thing to me when I told my cousin Shawn I was pregnant again  it got ugly and let's say my cousin Shawn and his sister ( my cousin with two kids last one a girl) don't talk at all by his sisters choice she dont want the constant negativity being thrown at her by his wife  . I just ignore the negativity cause she will always feel this way and I can't change that. I still talk to him not his wife and she hates it that he won't give up family and chose to feel the way she does about the attention. But as a parent you will know when its gotten to that point if it ever does wish you luck in however you go about handling it.

[Smattos1021]

Dont pay attention to the non supportive people, they clearly have never dealt with it or they'd understand. I told my SIL right after my in laws and got WOOOOOO CONGRATS from her boyfriend and a loud UGH and dirty look from her. You can tell when it passes the line to being psycho and evil. I would really try to just focus on you, delete her from social media if you have to (I did and feel so much better) and just don't feed into the pettiness. It'll make her more angry and you'll come out the better person, which it sounds like you are. Hope it all works out mama.

[mamabear8911]

I know how i feel girl. I had a SIL from Hell! She made my life a living hell and exteremely jealous of me. We made peace after my 1st born and she loved my daughter and spoils her to death. She even got knocked up after my daughter born to get attention. Shes still miss princess and doesnt like me..but i choose to ignore it. I accept you cannot change ppl or make them like you no matter what. Just live life to the fullest. Love your child and husband, and ignore her..she will never change! Its not worth the stress. Neatless to say pretend it doesn't bother you and love her children as well.

[eandrews511]

Thank you to those that give encouraging advice. I'm only concerned because of her past childish behavior. Plus my SIL stopped talking to my MIL for five days after she found out they kept my pregnancy a secret from her like I asked them to. I wanted to tell her myself, which I did only four days after telling my in laws. I have been very supportive of her and how ever many children they want to have. The difference is her. Instead of congratulating me about my pregnancy, she immediately started talking about her abs how they may try for another baby. That's the point I was trying to make before.

[secondandlastone0914]

I have a cousin Shawn whom wife's is having  a **** cause my other cousin just had her second she was all a sudden same way while she was pregnant too was never trying or anything till she found out my female cuosins baby was a girl

[camerinj]

I can't say I fLily understand your situation, but I would give her the benefit of the doubt that you're reading too much into it. I know after my niece was born, my older sis didn't want anymore, but seeing me and our other sister pregnant and having kids stirs up the baby fever and now she and her husband are trying. it's not that she wants the spotlight, she just forgot how much she loves babies

[Smattos1021]

I also moved states away because of all the fights and issues, its really helped me a lot but I'm going to visit next month without my husband and I'm so nervous to see her at my in laws house.

[leah255]

I think your thinkin to much in to it so what if she wants to try for a baby its very childish to be thinking like that use sould be happy for one another not playing a game of who can get the most attention its just silly..good luck

[hinkypunkheid]

Sounds like the drama could be coming from you.  ;)

[Smattos1021]

Oh I so know how you feel! My SIL hated that I was pregnant so much she has tried to stress me to miscarriage since the beginning, starting fights, throwing keys at my face and talking **** to anyone and everyone. She has the only grandchild and now I'm having a son that will pass on the family name so she's heated! Also said she wouldn't have another child since she almost died having her first child and guess who's trying again?! Yep, she now wants to have the first girl grandchild. Shes bat s h i t crazy and I've just been putting her far from my mind. Thats all you can do :/ Its not worth it to stress and be angry about a crazy woman, focus on you and your first child. Always remind yourself how much of a better person you are, it's one of the few things that calms me down.

[eandrews511]

Any tips, advice, comments are welcomeand appreciated.