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1821865 tn?1317522031

throwing your baby shower

I don't see the meaning of giving myself my own shower feels like I am asking friends and family to help me with my baby. Anyone agree with me.
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7944272 tn?1396708090
I always thought it was supposed to be a surprise that family/friends threw for you at least that's how it works in my family.
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People usually send gifts to new babies if there is a shower or not.

With showers, a lot of people do not like being the center of attention, so it is fine not to have one. There can be a party after the baby is born too.

My cousin chose not to have one because her MIL is very difficult and would have ruined the party,
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1399033 tn?1449587779
I don't think it's vain or selfish for any woman to throw her own shower. Also don't think tradition plays a role anymore for many people. Couples are having babies outside of marriage, etc.. Nothing wrong with that. I did that as well. I am married now though and am expecting baby #3. And a lot of people today, don't have that close knit family to throw something for them. So they throw it on their own. Now, it would be different if you got upset if someone didn't bring something. But, a baby shower is to celebrate that child coming into the world. To be a new member of society and to love and care for... I see nothing wrong with wanting to throw your own shower. I did that twice and doing it this time, too. I'm the least vain person I know. Yes, I have a registry. I don't have many baby items that I need right now.. HOWEVER, I made sure to only put the true essentials on it and not a long list of just "wants".. There's less than 10 things on it. We are throwing it as a diaper shower but there is always someone who doesn't want to bring diapers but wants to do something. That way they know what we actually need. I made sure to tell everyone that though it is not expected that anyone bring anything, we are just really wanting to celebrate the new member of our family and enjoy their company at the shower with food, family and friends.

I don't see the big deal about it.
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8526246 tn?1405601876
I agree that's why I'm not having one. Everyone I know talks about throwing me a shower including my sister/best friend but they don't so I won't wait or push the issue. The dad and I are almost done buying my baby what he needs so good enough :)
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I threw my own shower with my first. My mom helped and paid for most of it though. But it was awesome. I was a single mom at the time so I needed that extra bit of help from my family/friends who were more than happy to help us out whatever way they could. I registered and people mostly got me what I registered for. This time around I'm more stable with my husband and don't believe in a second shower (we don't need much). But this is my husbands first child so we might do a shower with his friends/family or a sip and see after the baby is born.
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8305112 tn?1402009678
How is a baby shower gift any different than a wedding gift?  There should be no expectation of gift giving, but if someone DOES want to give something, they will either get it on their own or ask where you are registered.  Every gift I've ever given for a wedding or a shower is because I love the people involved and want to help them start the new chapter of their life they are embarking on.  My mother is already talking about my shower and I'm 9 weeks.  It's also her first grandchild, so of course she's excited, ha ha.
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Most women LOVE babies.. especially older relatives! Give them an opportunity to celebrate,  even if you're not totally sold on the idea.
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Some of the stuff thats posted is just silly. Like really what harm is it to have a baby shower?.. its not asking for "stuff" its "hey come celebrate the new life I'm bringing into the world".. I just had my baby shower last weekend and it was amazing!  I don't get to see alot of my in laws or family of that matter and its nice to catch up eat some good food and celebrate life! Sheesh!
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I think if someone really wants to throw you a shower then let them do it. Traditionally it should not be you or an immediate family member, since then it is kinda greedy. And only baby showers if it is your first baby.
I know my aunts will really want to do one for me.
Last two showers I went to they did not do a gift opening. So that was nice.  
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It looks like I'll be throwing my own b/c no one around me knows what to do. Lol. I don't mind. My husband and I aren't struggling. We just want to bring our families and friends together for something beautiful, our first born. :-)
Ppl have their reasons.
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They mean well:)
Maybe have one with just them?
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I don't think it's strange, you are asking friends to celebrate bringing a new human being ino the world. You're not asking them to buy you stuff. Every baby shower I've ever been to says nothing about bringing presents although of course people will and do anyway. It's not vain or selfish either to have people over to celebrate. If you don't feel comfortable throwing yourself a baby shower then throw an after birth party instead. People can come and meet the new edition and will probably bring you gifts then. There is nothing wrong with people helping to buy you stuff. Baby's are expensive!!
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I had to explain this to my future MIL she was upset that I refused to throw myself a shower where me and my fiance live currently. I dont see the point my mom and aunt are throwing me a shower in my hometown.
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I am not having one.
Only on the one sole reason, I think they are soo boring!
Attending a babyshower as a non-pregnant woman or no longer have small children a baby shower is really boring.
It's like high tea but with only baby topic most can't relate to or have passed the chapter.
No alcohol as well.
Imagine if one of your girlfriends is desperately trying to get pregnant too.
How painful it can be for them to attend a party like this.
And then it is the gift thingy.. I feel uncomfortable to throw a party that kinda says "give me stuff"..
It's like your own little Christmas day?
No. Not for me. :)

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6918915 tn?1395932871
I agree. I think it's kind of vain and weird when girls throw they're own baby showers. Lol
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1821865 tn?1317522031
Same here why ask when you can buy all the stuff plus you may not even like what people bring you.
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I do. I felt like this time around having a baby I was much older and financially stable that my husband and myself bought everything. After I found out what I was having I couldn't stop shopping.  So I felt like what the point in having on wasting time on food decorations etc and have people waste their time and money on stuff I probably won't need. It would be family and friends so if they really want to buy something that's fine they can bring it and after the baby is born or before. Some people act as if you have to have one and you don't I am taking an alternative route and having ladies day at the spa
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