How do you get past so much negativity when pregnant so you can enjoy it?

[aiimes84]

I found out i was pregnant with our third child on mothers day and even though my older son (10) did a jokingly NOOOO!  And my husband made a wise crack about it being his i just laughed with them so i can take a joke no problem.  My Other son is 2 and just figured out we are having a baby because she kicked him and he spanked her and told her to go in time out lol.  My mother handled the news well at first along with my 14 year old sister however when i told my grandparents i got "oh are you happy about this?" and "this is your last one right".  Oh it gets better my husband comes from a very big family he called them all up and wouldn't tell me what they said, but his mom had no problem telling me well she is happy for us, but don't talk to anyone else (his 3 brothers and 2 sisters or her parents) anymore because they think its either a mistake, we are to poor, we are to young (I am 28 and he is 27 and we are not poor just not rich like all of them).  It was a really wonderful 2 hour conversastion on how there are issues with people who don't have tons of money having more than 2 kids.  I handled it ok for a little bit, but now the people i did have to lean on and get support from (my husband, my mother, my sister)  have all started to disappear.  My hubby had to start a temp shift for the next few months where he works 6 days a week so I am not getting to see him.  My mother has informed me her b/f had a job offer in NC and if he got in Oct. she is going to go (its a double whammy with that because he has told her he doesn't care about what the sex of the baby is or my due date because i am not his family he only considers her and my sister as family and it hurts she looks past a comment like that, but also told me about it).  My sister is 14 and just hit her i ony matter stage.  I had to tell her no to running her everywhere because of the pregnancy and she is pissed at me for it (not unusal).  And the last person i would go to in a pinch is my mother in law but she just ordered plane tickets to visit her richer daughter in FL and her two daughters.  She leaves the end of Oct. and doesn't come back until end of Jan.  Um my due date is Jan. 10.  My stress level is so high, i have no one to talk to, I have tried a lot to keep calm and relax as much as i can with a 2 year old, but by the end of the day i just keep finding myself crying.  I take lots of baths, watch shows i like, go for walks with my son, try to take naps but honestly with the 2 year old i am only getting 4 hours a sleep a day, drink tea, try to think positive.  I really need a miricle here to get my head straight.  I don't want my kids to start catching on how upset I am, but the 10 year old is really smart and he has already started to ask me if i am ok.  

[SB_1]

Although my stress comes from coaching and being very limited as far as exercise(due to a hemorage), I can relate to trying to remain positive!  I have found positivity by listening to my favorite music on my ipod throughout the day.  It can be a mood changer...hang in there! =)

[mandaszoo]

Try to be more positive. Most of the comments although hurtful are probably made out of concern. Although money isnt everything it is a struggle to  bring up a family without it. you think your husband is not supporting you because he has extra work but he is doing his best to provide for his family. I know about unsupportive in laws and  it is very difficult and step fathers dont always feel that bond with older step children. Enjoy your own family and get support through friends and support forums. I think everyone may be picking up your(poor me vibes) After all you didnt have to get pregnant. Focus on how lucky you are and be the sort of person people want to be around. Believe me my mum in law is a night mare but i still cut her grass, invite her round for food and get her shopping. That way I feel I have done all i can do to be a good daughter in law. Take care

[trying43]

Oh my goodness, I would be upset too!  Sounds kinda like my family when they found out I was expecting number 3 and my friends pretty much deserted me.  It took a while for me to get it together.  I just decided to heck with everyone else, im happy about my baby and feel lucky!  My "baby" is 1 now.  Just ignore them and concentrate on your kids and hubby.  Sorry I don't have any miracle advice but I do understand where ur coming from.  Good luck to u.