I need help. We've been trying to concieve for a year now. We had one successful pregnancy a year ago, but lost the baby in October. Since then, nothing. It is so hard dealing with pregnant family members. Since our loss, two girls in our family have gotten pregnant, one just giving birth August 2nd, and the other is due October 11. Of course, BOTH their due dates correspond with the date of our conception for the first, and the date of our loss for the second. Life for me certaintaly has it's way of laughing at me in my face. I was once very close to the first girl, but her actions through her pregnancy and during my mc have been so hurtful. She blew my mc off like it was "no big deal", and has been very insensitive during her pregnancy. She made comments to me that I was resentful of her becuase she was pregnant and I wasn't. I didn't want to go to thier duel baby showers and she acted like that was completely unacceptable. I even tried to explain to her that it was hard for me and she just went off to the other girl about me and talked very horriably about me behind my back. She has no idea as to the pain I'm going through and how hard this has been for me. I've need support and all I've gotten is the cold sholder and bad mouthed.
Now the baby is here with the other due shortly after. It's so hard to go to family events when they are there. We have one coming up tomorrow. They will be bringing the new baby for the first time and everyone is SO excited. I'm really dreading this and thinking of not going. I can't bear it anymore. We CAN'T get pregnant. We have activiely been trying again since December and nothing. I've had very wierd periods over the last 9 months. Worse than they ever were before. My cycles are so out of whack. I was late by three days this last time and just knew we finally hit it, but nope. It came on anyway, only lasted for 1 full day, stopped, then started back again and was full of thick, dark clots. I have no idea what's going on with my body.
We got pregnant the first time so easy. Only tried for one month, then the next - pregnant. Then I lost it, and now 9 months, nothing. I'll be 40 soon and it's so hard to accept that it may (and probably) will never happen now. Being around these girls, watching them go through thier perfectly healthy pregnancies, and having thier beautiful babies is too much to bear. I know I should be happy for them, and I truly am, but they are a consitant reminder of my pain. Especially after the first girl said I was being resentful of her. It's such a hard situation. We never announced we were pregant, mainly because the weekend we were going to at a family event, she kept telling me and my husband we really should wait becuase of the risk of mc. I was 8 weeks along and my husband was so excited and ready to tell everyone. She kept telling him and me that that was a really bad idea, we should wait until after 12 weeks.... so we didn't... I wish now we would have because having our families support would have been helpful, and of COURSE when she got pregnant they announced it at 8 weeks on Christmas.
This has made me so depressed. Any advice?