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my latest update since my mc
as many of you ladies know i went into preterm labor and had a mc at 18 weeks...not only did i lose my baby boy but i almost lost my own life from all the blood i lost...it was a horrific tragedy and im still coping with my loss
as of today im waiting for my HCG to return to 0...on march 13 it was 59, march 20 it was 11 so im thinking it might be 0 by now or really really close but im confident for sure by the end of the week it will be 0...so from here i wait for my first AF arrival...i have no idea what to expect or when to expect but im waiting for it
my next appt at my doc is april 3 and im not sure what to expect at that appt...so im sure ill have more updates once i have that appt...i think we are going to discuss the testing i will undergo once i have my first cycle and what to expect
i know i will be having a HSG done to check my uterus for malformities and bloodwork done to check for blood diseases...thats as far as i know for now
im taking this one day at a time...its really all i can do...i must say this tragedgy has made me realize a lot of things...one of them is im thankful for so much in my life including the little things that some people take for granted...im working on learning patience but its really hard me...i want to get back on the TTC boat again but i dont want to risk another 2nd trimester mc
my bf has been a tremendous strong and sturdy rock and even though i questioned our relationship some times i learned that he really does love me and im thankful to have him in my life...
im thankful for all the women on here that listen to me daily and offer words of strength, courage, share their stories and the women who are going through what i am going through...you all made me realize im not alone
im getting better but i know its going to take a lot of time to get through...there are days im happy all day and days i just want to cry all day...some days its easier to laugh then others...but with the support on here and at home im getting through this
and im truly thankful for each and every one of you that has helped me
im looking forward to TTC again but i have to also wait until my bf and i feel emotionally ready again...which might take longer and it might not...only time will tell
as of today im waiting for my HCG to return to 0...on march 13 it was 59, march 20 it was 11 so im thinking it might be 0 by now or really really close but im confident for sure by the end of the week it will be 0...so from here i wait for my first AF arrival...i have no idea what to expect or when to expect but im waiting for it
my next appt at my doc is april 3 and im not sure what to expect at that appt...so im sure ill have more updates once i have that appt...i think we are going to discuss the testing i will undergo once i have my first cycle and what to expect
i know i will be having a HSG done to check my uterus for malformities and bloodwork done to check for blood diseases...thats as far as i know for now
im taking this one day at a time...its really all i can do...i must say this tragedgy has made me realize a lot of things...one of them is im thankful for so much in my life including the little things that some people take for granted...im working on learning patience but its really hard me...i want to get back on the TTC boat again but i dont want to risk another 2nd trimester mc
my bf has been a tremendous strong and sturdy rock and even though i questioned our relationship some times i learned that he really does love me and im thankful to have him in my life...
im thankful for all the women on here that listen to me daily and offer words of strength, courage, share their stories and the women who are going through what i am going through...you all made me realize im not alone
im getting better but i know its going to take a lot of time to get through...there are days im happy all day and days i just want to cry all day...some days its easier to laugh then others...but with the support on here and at home im getting through this
and im truly thankful for each and every one of you that has helped me
im looking forward to TTC again but i have to also wait until my bf and i feel emotionally ready again...which might take longer and it might not...only time will tell
Best of luck to you.
A CVS is an invasive genetic test they do around 10-12 weeks. With mine, they took a sample through the cervix. Sometimes they do it abdominally as well. Two weeks after the proceedure is pretty late to MC from it, so I hear.
Docs said I had all the classic signs of IC. Started with some back pain, then some weird tan colored discharge (sorry TMI), then clear mucus that turned bloody after two days or so. In about 4 days I had cramps and was bleeding pretty badly with large clots. I even had an emergency cerclage that obviously did not hold.
Your docs might want to monitor you like mine did before they put the cerclage in. I think my perinatologist ruled that I wasn't at risk for second trimester preterm labor at 11 weeks or so. He checked my cervix weekly. It was reassuring. Maybe even get a second opinion as IC can be over diagnosed, and it can cause complications.
Please keep me posted. Good luck again TTC.
A CVS is an invasive genetic test they do around 10-12 weeks. With mine, they took a sample through the cervix. Sometimes they do it abdominally as well. Two weeks after the proceedure is pretty late to MC from it, so I hear.
Docs said I had all the classic signs of IC. Started with some back pain, then some weird tan colored discharge (sorry TMI), then clear mucus that turned bloody after two days or so. In about 4 days I had cramps and was bleeding pretty badly with large clots. I even had an emergency cerclage that obviously did not hold.
Your docs might want to monitor you like mine did before they put the cerclage in. I think my perinatologist ruled that I wasn't at risk for second trimester preterm labor at 11 weeks or so. He checked my cervix weekly. It was reassuring. Maybe even get a second opinion as IC can be over diagnosed, and it can cause complications.
Please keep me posted. Good luck again TTC.
ashleysmom -- thanks for the input...i didnt know that about the IC...im pretty certain that was my prob...im hoping to be able to start TTC in the next 2-3 months
what is CVS?
what is CVS?
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It is tough.
Anyway, best of luck.
I lost my first at 14 weeks. At the time, they weren't sure if it was from a CVS I had 2 weeks earlier or an incompetent cervix. I had all the classic symptoms of an IC, but was able to carry my DD to term a year or so later (with close monitoring). I actually got preg with DD three months after the MC. Please hang in there.
Also, my doc says that IC can happen at any time. You can have it with one preg, then not the next and vice versa.
Anyway, best of luck.
I lost my first at 14 weeks. At the time, they weren't sure if it was from a CVS I had 2 weeks earlier or an incompetent cervix. I had all the classic symptoms of an IC, but was able to carry my DD to term a year or so later (with close monitoring). I actually got preg with DD three months after the MC. Please hang in there.
Also, my doc says that IC can happen at any time. You can have it with one preg, then not the next and vice versa.
thanks all for listening
im hoping to have nothing but positive updates as this journey begins again for me
im hoping to have nothing but positive updates as this journey begins again for me
If I had not miscarried that baby boy, we probably would have been done having children and I would not have my darling, sweet, spunky little toddler and another on the way. Thank you again for keeping us posted on your journey.
you are right about each day passing making it easier...im experiencing that now
i know that everything is going to work out and whats meant to be will be
i know that everything is going to work out and whats meant to be will be
Sweetie, the strength of women continues to amaze me and you are a perfect example of strength in the face of challenges.
I am so sorry for your loss. Having had a 2nd trimester loss myself, I understand what you are going through. I hope it helps to hear that time does heal, even though it may not seem like it right now. I thought I'd never get over my loss, but each day it seemed to get a little better until one day I realized it was all going to be fine. Everything seems to work out for the best, even though it may not be the way we wanted it to, it works out the way it should. God has a plan, even if we don't agree with it at the time, I always trust that He knows what's best for us. Best wishes and thank you for keeping us posted.
I am so sorry for your loss. Having had a 2nd trimester loss myself, I understand what you are going through. I hope it helps to hear that time does heal, even though it may not seem like it right now. I thought I'd never get over my loss, but each day it seemed to get a little better until one day I realized it was all going to be fine. Everything seems to work out for the best, even though it may not be the way we wanted it to, it works out the way it should. God has a plan, even if we don't agree with it at the time, I always trust that He knows what's best for us. Best wishes and thank you for keeping us posted.
my doc hasnt mentioned that yet...i know genetic testing was done on the baby and everything was healthy...the baby was completely healthy...the only thing my doc mentioned was that most likely because it was a 2nd trimester mc the cause is something medical with me
typically genetic issues cause mc's in the 1st trimester...but ill ask that question at my next appt next week
thanks for bringing it up...i never would have thought of it
typically genetic issues cause mc's in the 1st trimester...but ill ask that question at my next appt next week
thanks for bringing it up...i never would have thought of it
yes, that would be easier to cope with because like you said they can just stitch you up, make you stay in bed, and watch you closely.
I guess if they do tests on you and most things come back fine but there is still some unanswered questions then maybe they would want to test him too?
I guess if they do tests on you and most things come back fine but there is still some unanswered questions then maybe they would want to test him too?
the baby was tested at the hospital and there was no genetic issues with him...im not sure about testing my bf or not...i havent gotten into the bloodwork...i know my bf's brother has 2 daughters (1 due next month) so im thinking my bf is ok?? but i could be wrong
my doc is pretty sure i have an incompetant cervix but is afraid there is something else that could have happened, given how quickly this happened so she is testing for that...its all a waiting game now
i know next time i am preg i will be high risk with light duty the entire time...most likely strict bedrest anytime after 20 weeks...a stitch will be put in my cervix at 14 weeks and removed at the end of 36 weeks and ill have an u/s every 2 weeks...so im confident next time will be better...just gotta make sure there isnt something medically wrong with me that could have caused this other than my cervix
my doc is pretty sure i have an incompetant cervix but is afraid there is something else that could have happened, given how quickly this happened so she is testing for that...its all a waiting game now
i know next time i am preg i will be high risk with light duty the entire time...most likely strict bedrest anytime after 20 weeks...a stitch will be put in my cervix at 14 weeks and removed at the end of 36 weeks and ill have an u/s every 2 weeks...so im confident next time will be better...just gotta make sure there isnt something medically wrong with me that could have caused this other than my cervix
I know what you mean, sometimes we fear the answers so much that it consumes us! I'm sure once they figure out what went wrong then they can do all the steps to assure you that you can indeed have a healthy pregnancy in the future. Have they mentioned anything about testing your BF at all? Or have they said whether he could have something in his genes to make this happen also?
guiness413 - thank you
pcarsey - its such a toss up...a part of me wants the answer and the other part doesnt want an answer...im looking forward to TTC again but i know the right thing to do is get this preventative testing done since if these are the answer then it will most likely happen again and i dont know if ill be able to bounce back if this happens to me again
its a heck of a journey and im just trying to stay positive and take it day by day...
im truly amazed how i had my son 4 years ago and no problems and then 4 years later the worse thing that could happen happened...amazed how quickly the body changes
pcarsey - its such a toss up...a part of me wants the answer and the other part doesnt want an answer...im looking forward to TTC again but i know the right thing to do is get this preventative testing done since if these are the answer then it will most likely happen again and i dont know if ill be able to bounce back if this happens to me again
its a heck of a journey and im just trying to stay positive and take it day by day...
im truly amazed how i had my son 4 years ago and no problems and then 4 years later the worse thing that could happen happened...amazed how quickly the body changes
Terri-
I continue to pray for you and that you will have the answers you have been waiting for, for so long! Just relax and take it easy and do it in your own time! I'm so glad you have your BF and your son there to help you get through this! It's so nice to know that our DH/BF's care so much and show it when it is really needed! Your spirits are an inspiration to other women who are going through this too and I'm sure everyone appreciated it also!
((Hugs))
Patty
I continue to pray for you and that you will have the answers you have been waiting for, for so long! Just relax and take it easy and do it in your own time! I'm so glad you have your BF and your son there to help you get through this! It's so nice to know that our DH/BF's care so much and show it when it is really needed! Your spirits are an inspiration to other women who are going through this too and I'm sure everyone appreciated it also!
((Hugs))
Patty
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