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I wanted to check in and give an update. It is very sad news. We lost our little Sarah. I noticed last week that the baby was not moving as much. I was busy getting ready for my son's visit so thought that I might just be too busy to notice. I was also sleeping better so did not wake till later. The baby was most active between 3 am and 5 am. On Thanksgiving my husband and I debated calling the hospital about it. I didn't do it. I had a good checkup the week before and everything was fine with the heartbeat and growth. Friday morning I woke at 3 am but could not sleep. I felt no movement by 5 am. I called the hospital and they said to come in for fetal monitoring. They could not find a heartbeat. An ultrasound showed no movement or heartbeat. My blood pressure was sky high and I had toxemia but had no symptoms like seeing lights or any swelling. I was put on magnesium an anti seizure medication. They gave me an epidural and induced labor. They had to put me on BP meds later on.
Our daughter was born at 10 p.m.Friday. She was beautiful with brown eyes and hair but only weighed 3 and a half pounds. I was right at 8 months. The doctor said I couldn't have done anything to prevent her death, even if I had come in sooner. The placenta had not separated from the womb. We decided against an autopsy. The placenta is being tested for infection.
We buried her yesterday on our land. It's so hard to lose our baby and my heart goes out to all of you who have been though this. I'm comforted by the thought that she is with the Lord now and that one day when the Lord returns, her little body will be raised from the dead and she will be given a new and perfect glorified body that will never die. God will make all things new and in the new heaven and the new earth, there will be no death or sorrow. Her soul is with the Lord in heaven now. I look forward to heaven and getting to see her there. God has been very close and our friends have been so supportive. Her memorial service will be tomorrow at our church.
~Susan
Our daughter was born at 10 p.m.Friday. She was beautiful with brown eyes and hair but only weighed 3 and a half pounds. I was right at 8 months. The doctor said I couldn't have done anything to prevent her death, even if I had come in sooner. The placenta had not separated from the womb. We decided against an autopsy. The placenta is being tested for infection.
We buried her yesterday on our land. It's so hard to lose our baby and my heart goes out to all of you who have been though this. I'm comforted by the thought that she is with the Lord now and that one day when the Lord returns, her little body will be raised from the dead and she will be given a new and perfect glorified body that will never die. God will make all things new and in the new heaven and the new earth, there will be no death or sorrow. Her soul is with the Lord in heaven now. I look forward to heaven and getting to see her there. God has been very close and our friends have been so supportive. Her memorial service will be tomorrow at our church.
~Susan
My heart aches for your loss and I am crying. I wish I could say something to help at this time. I know what it is like. I experienced this in 1994. The following year, I had another child, but it does not take the pain of loosing a loved one. Years have gone by and I remember as if it happened yesterday. I am here if you need someone to talk too, I would like to be your new friend. I will just listen if that helps in any way during this holiday season.
Thank you everyone. You are all very compassionate and kind.
We had a beautiful memorial service for little Sarah. There were two pastors preaching. One preached on John 11 about Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead and Jesus being the resurrection and the life. The other sermon was taken from Job from the first and last chapters. After Job lost all he owned as well as his ten children, he said, "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh. Blessed be the name of the Lord."
We will all miss little Sarah but we look forward to a grand reunion with her in heaven one day.
~Susan
We had a beautiful memorial service for little Sarah. There were two pastors preaching. One preached on John 11 about Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead and Jesus being the resurrection and the life. The other sermon was taken from Job from the first and last chapters. After Job lost all he owned as well as his ten children, he said, "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh. Blessed be the name of the Lord."
We will all miss little Sarah but we look forward to a grand reunion with her in heaven one day.
~Susan
Susan,
I am crying as I read all of this. I have lost two and both times I cried so hard I nearly choked from not breathing. Your faith is as beautiful as your little girl. I'm still childless but not giving up. I lost my mom when I was 20 and two friends - independently - said to me that my mom now has her grandkids in heaven.
I think you are a remarkable woman. God bless.
I am crying as I read all of this. I have lost two and both times I cried so hard I nearly choked from not breathing. Your faith is as beautiful as your little girl. I'm still childless but not giving up. I lost my mom when I was 20 and two friends - independently - said to me that my mom now has her grandkids in heaven.
I think you are a remarkable woman. God bless.
Susan,
I am so sorry for your loss. I know that words can not express the heaviness that weighs on my heart for you and your family. I am so glad that you know the power of prayer and the mighty Word of God.
Blessings on you and your family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers,
Erakal
I am so sorry for your loss. I know that words can not express the heaviness that weighs on my heart for you and your family. I am so glad that you know the power of prayer and the mighty Word of God.
Blessings on you and your family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers,
Erakal
I am so sorry Susan for you loss. Words cannot bring comfort in such a trying time. I am confident that your faith will guide you through this ordeal.
Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your darling little Sarah. My prayers are with you.
With immense sorrow
Isabelle
Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your darling little Sarah. My prayers are with you.
With immense sorrow
Isabelle
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your spouse doing this difficult time. I pray that the almighty God will give you both the strength you need. Love Yolanda
Dear Susan,
I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Thank you so much. I do believe that Jesus has a special love and tenderness for these little ones.
Matthew 19:13 Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, 14 but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” 15 And he laid his hands on them and went away.
Matthew 19:13 Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked the people, 14 but Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” 15 And he laid his hands on them and went away.
My prayers are with you, I lost my son two weeks ago as well, and know the pain you feeling... I am so sorry for your loss
I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Words truly are not sufficient! I hope and pray for peace and comfort for you and your family.
Susan,
I wish I had the words to comfort you. I also lost my son I was 5 months along. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Lori
I wish I had the words to comfort you. I also lost my son I was 5 months along. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Lori
Thank you so much for your words of kindness and comfort. It does mean a lot to me and it is wonderful how supportive you all are to those who are hurting.
This passage has been a special comfort to me and to all Christians.
Romans 8:18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. 19 For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. 20 For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope 21 that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22 For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. 23 And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24 For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? 25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
26 Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27 And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. 28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
This passage has been a special comfort to me and to all Christians.
Romans 8:18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. 19 For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. 20 For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope 21 that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22 For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. 23 And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24 For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? 25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
26 Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27 And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. 28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Susan
I can not tell you how sad I am. There is nothing I can say to express how I feel. I wish I could hold you and take your pain into me. You are in my prayers My husband and I are living through the loss of our daughter also. If you need to talk to someone who understands the darkness I am here for you.
All my prayers are with you
I can not tell you how sad I am. There is nothing I can say to express how I feel. I wish I could hold you and take your pain into me. You are in my prayers My husband and I are living through the loss of our daughter also. If you need to talk to someone who understands the darkness I am here for you.
All my prayers are with you
Susan,
I wish you and your family strength, love and sympathy during this truly sad and difficult time.
You will be in my heart and prayers.
Stay strong Mama.
Lisa
I wish you and your family strength, love and sympathy during this truly sad and difficult time.
You will be in my heart and prayers.
Stay strong Mama.
Lisa
Oh my goodness. I am so struck with sadness for you and your family right now. I took a moment out after reading your post and had to just think about it all and I am really sorry! God bless you all.
I am so sorry, I know that does not make you feel any better because it never made me feel better either. I lost my son Cooper when he was almost 7 weeks old. No one should have to bury their child. I can't promise you how long it will take you to heal, but I can promise you, you will!! I lost Cooper on July 23rd and I still have days when I wish I could hold again and never let go.
I am hear anytime you need to talk. I hope Cooper found your sweet little girl and gave her a big welcome to Heaven!!!
Rachel
I am hear anytime you need to talk. I hope Cooper found your sweet little girl and gave her a big welcome to Heaven!!!
Rachel
I cannot find the words to properly express how very sorry I am. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and thoughts. As Patty said, please know we are here to support you any way you need. Hugs and prayers to you. Amanda
Susan I am so sorry to hear this! My heart aches for you and your family. Please know that you can come here anytime and scream and vent and gain as much support as you need to. If one thing is certain, it is that the women on this forum is always here to lend a heart, ear and shoulder anytime one needs it! I will pray for your family in this time of need!
Many Blessings!
Patty
Many Blessings!
Patty
Oh Susan, I can't believe it! I am so saddened to hear this. My heart aches for you right now, you were one of my biggest inspriations on this site, I just couldn't imagine what you're feeling. I'm so deeply sorry. Pam
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