Do I Give Up??? HELP!

[Love_Baby_Mama]

Went for an U/S at 7 wks/1day....gest sac & yolk sac clear measuring 7 weeks. NO FETUS?????
No fetal pole or heartbeat is what the doctor said and told me that I will either miscarry or opt for an D&C.
WTF? I had an early U/S @ 5.5 weeks due to an ectopic that almost killed me last year...lost my tube and nearly my life - I was 7 weeks during that time aswell. Fetal heartrate @ 135 living within my torn, ruptured tube & going strong untill I passed out from the internal bleeeding. That ended very quickly in the operating room.
Now just over a year later Hubby & I are soooo happy to be pregnant again (been trying ever since) and there is no fetal pole on ultrasound... looks the same as it did 1.5 weeks ago - just with gest  & yolk sac growth. My HCG level & progesteron have been doing exactly what they are supposed to. I don't understand! Do I Give Up???
Has anyone gone for an U/S during this time frame & NOT see your baby????? I can't stop crying :(

[Allip77]

I am sooo sorry for your loss.  I hope you get your baby soon.

[Juliaschill]

So sorry for your loss!! Sending healing prayers your way!!

[RavenT]

Sorry to hear this news!!! Wishing you well tomorrow and in the whole process... SSBD to you as you continue on this journey!!!

[Love_Baby_Mama]

BLIGHTED OVUM ladies : (  the second opinion doc confirmed it.
I am going to have an D&C in the morning....I am 9 weeks with no baby : (  just an yolk sac that is starting to fade. I am too upset to let this go on any longer...the faster I get this over with ~ the faster we can start trying again.
Good luck and many, many, many, good wishes with wonderful blessings from above to each & everyone of you!!!! Hope to chat again on here soon with much better news!
XOXOXO

[connorethansmom]

I think you are doing the right thing to get so many opinions.  With my first I was told I will miscarry by and ER doc and several nurses.  I had the bleeding (I had an infection), cramping (I had a cyst), and no fetal pole or HB.  It was a long road of my doctor (she was amazing) saying wait one more week, one more week.  I literally didn't leave the couch.  I was a little over 7 weeks when we finally saw everything - he is now 4.5 years old.  Think positive, you never know.  If you have to have a D&C I hope they are able to do things so you can TTC right away.  

[Love_Baby_Mama]

Sorry to hear about all of YOUR losses ladies! I do thank you soooo much for sharing!Cytotec???? I will look it up & see if I may go that route. I am just affraid that that d&c will scar me & that I will have problems in the future. You never know how far or deep these MD's will go. I work for surgeons& I am always hearing about horror stories that they punctured this or, tore that in error. I did ask my doc about taking meds to help it along...she very quickly said NO, this way is much better...quicker....are they just trying to get paid??? I want the safest quickest way so that I may heal & try again ASAP! I want a little one soooo bad. I have always dreamed of kids and being a mom.
I made a living caring for other's babies...nannying, running a day care, working in the maternity ward at the hospital, pediatrics general and urological. My sister has three boys & I SPOIL them like CRAZY : ) There is NOTHING like the joy that children bring. The crazyness, the cryng, the dicipline or lack there of..lol it all comes with it and I want it all. I will keep you guys posted & let you know what the OTHER doc says on Monday.

[Ecologic]

Sorry about the bad news, it's always so hard!

I had a blighted ovum a couple years ago with no signs at all as well : no bleeding, no cramping. I took Cytotec (a pill) at 9 weeks and passed everything immediately without much bleeding, my HCG then dropped back to 0 very quickly. Maybe you should ask about taking Cytotec, it's less harsh and less medical than a D&C (I also had a D&C later on with an other miscarriage but this time I was carrying twins and there was a risk of hemoragy so it had to be a D&C).

[Kathy421]

It's always nice to let nature take it's course and miscarry naturally, but after a few weeks, you may consider a D&C.

I chose a D&C last year when I lost both of my twins since I was traveling out of the country a week later and thought it might be dangerous to start bleeding on the plane or in a different country.  It also helped me for closure, and helped my body heal faster so that I could try conceiving again when my body was ready.

I am now 28 weeks pregnant.  

I am sorry you are going thru such a tough time.

[oceanv]

blighted ovum's can be very cruel - only you can decide how long you can wait. i hope you get news but in the event that you don't i hope that things go smoothly for you.
joanne

[Love_Baby_Mama]

I went for my ultrasound...8weeks and 1day. No fetus just an sac/yolk sac : (   they scheduled me for an D&C next week. I am still very confused & scared about the D&C. I have no cramps, no bleeding, no signs of misscarrying. They are afraid that my body will not react they way it should to clean itself out. How long can you go with an empty sac before your body should tells itself that something is wrong?????
I am still going for one more scan on Monday with an different doc for an second opinion. This is torture!!!

[Super_sally888]

Hi,

I had a scan 10 days ago.  My baby should have been 10 1/2 weeks.  It only showed at 6 weeks and no hb.  My dates were right.

I am sad, but determined that I should miscarry naturally, if I can.  My doctor will let me wait up to 3 more weeks for this (that would be about 13 weeks), but with weekly testing to make sure there's no infection.

I am beginning to feel more cramping and pressure, so i guess (and hope) it will happen soon.

I am not giving up.  I am going to be trying again just as soon as this miscarriage is over.

[Love_Baby_Mama]

No spotting...not a single drop.
Thank you ladies for responding.....you have given me such comfort knowing that I am not alone in this and that I have "someone" to talk to. My husband is being as supportive as he can not knowing or fully understanding the emotinal and hormonal roller coaster that I am on. I go back this Thurs. for an ultrasound with my OB then, yet another ultrasound next week at the hospital with an high risk specialist for an second opinion. I keep asking myself...will I be able to let nature take it's course without losing my mind OR just get it over with and have the D&C should they TRULY diagnose this as an non-viable pregnancy. Something I am sooooo not looking forward to but, I want to give my body a fighting chance for future babies. 37 years of age with PCOS, Hypothyroidism, & an ectopic under by belt YUCK!  I WILL HAVE A BABY!!!!
I don't trust my own body though...last year - not a single drop of blood with the ectopic...little did I know it was` aaalll in my abdomen. With all that internal bleeding & not a sigle drop on the outside. The only thing that keeps dropping are my tears.
I will keep you all posted and THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! for your support and wishes.
My heart goes out to each and every one of you!! XOXOXO

[gilkesy]

I had a D&C at 9 weeks . I had an embryo , foetal pole, sac etc; but no heartbeat . They asked me to come back at 8 and 9 weeks for more scans but nothing changed. It's called a blighted ovum and it means the embryo implanted but failed to develop. I still felt pregnant since your hormone levels are still elevated. . I still think 7 weeks may be a bit early. R u getting any spotting?

[BabyBlue07]

I don't know what to say to you at this time except don't give up hope. 7 weeks is still too early... I remembered when I went for my first u/s around 6or 7, they can't find a heart beat. I have to come back around 8-9 weeks.

it's not over and don't give up hope.

I will keep you in my prayer and hopefully everythign turn out to be okay.

God Bless and take care

[adgal]

Ahh, I remember so very well when this happened to oceanv.  Unfortunately only time will tell...and nothing wrong with getting  a second opinion.  I know the wait is horrible.  I do wish you well.

[oceanv]

They told me I had a bo, - prepare to miscarry - i've kept the report on that ultrasound - 10 days later different lab, different technician, found a baby with a heart beat.  Don't give up hope yet, it's not over til it's over as far as I'm concerned!  My blighed ovum baby is now 1 years old.

[Love_Baby_Mama]

Is it true that a "blighted ovum" is an gest. sac "only" ???
My gest. sac has an yolk sac in it. I thought in order for the fetus to grow it neede a yolk sac....gest sac there, yolk sac there, no fetus??? I still feel very pregnant-sore breasts....I just wish the little bean would grow. :(

[adgal]

I am so sorry.  It does sound like it is probably a blighted ovum.  There are so many of us here who have had losses (some like me have had many), yet still gone on to have happy endings.  

There is no hurry to make any decision at all.  If you want, request another u/s in a week or two.  I did that once and it gave me incredible peace of mind.  

I wish you well, and I am so very sorry you are going through this.

[beanie485]

i would wait a little longer to see if the baby developes like it should at least this time you know the baby is not in the tubes so you do not have to worry about that so it wille be safe for you to wait a little bit

Sending prayers your way, I hope this works out for you

[Lizzy127]

Back in march I found out I was pregnant been trying for years...I suffer from low progesterone and my doc put me on suppositories..at 7 weeks my us did the same thing but I had a fetal pole with no heartbeat :(  my doc told me since still early in pregnancy I could wait for miscarry or d&c..I miscarried in may...we just started trying again this month...its an emotional rollercoaster.