Early signs of menapause of pregnancy?

[seasoned_mommy]

On many posts I have read, I have felt the need to comment. Thus I felt it was a bit unfair to go without saying my story so here goes. I will shorten it as I am a person who likes to add too many details. I am 40 year old mother of 5 beautiful children and one soon to be stepson, ages 22,18,17,15,14 and the younger is 8 (soon to be stepson). After the birth of my 14 year old the dr told me I should have a tubligation because of my complications. To be honest I was not ready for it. My religious beliefs had me stuck between a rock and a hard place on this decition. I knew if I had a tubal I would not abort. I do not judge others but I felt as though I would be killing a child personally. Dr also told me after 5 or more years the posibility of the tubes growing back were slim to none but were possible. Now, after 14 years I have had a false pregnancy and a miscarriage.

In the middle of the month during the last cycle I spotted when I wiped 2 weeks prior to my last menstration which, was not normal for me. The consistency was bright red very runny, almost like water. The bleeding started at night, ( mine usually starts in the morning) I could not keep enough pads to contain all this watery substance. Normally, I last for 4 days this lasted for 6 days. Now, this month I find myself over a week late. I have been frequenting the restroom more often. headaches, stomach slightly cramping with no result (no menstartion). I am currently over a week late. I am afraid to go get a pregnancy test for the fear that it could be negative.

I want a child with my fiance who is an adopted child and feels his only living relative is his 8 year old. It saddens me to see the look in his eyes when he says this. He tells me if we have a child it's God's will. Children are truly gifts of God. Could anyone tell me if I am crazy fr thinking of this posibility and desiring it so much???!!

[seasoned_mommy]

My tubes were not tied my tubes were only burned. The dr told me it was possible that there was a possiblit to get pregnant in as much as 5 years after surgery. I have been pregnant and miscarried once since that surgery about 5 years ago. It has been 14 years since the burning of my tubes.

[adgal]

I agree with trying.  It's certainly possible, but probably quite unlikely.  However, it is important that you find out for certain.  Pregnancy after tubal does require close medical supervision in the early stages of pregnancy.  You really need to either take that pregnancy test or see your Dr. for a blood test.

I will also say that having the odd abnormal cycle is not uncommon.  I am 43 now (had my son at 40) and still fairly regular.  However, over the last year or so I get the odd shorter or longer cycle and sometimes even mid cycle spotting.  These things were not normal for me either until fairly recently.  It does happen.  

Take that test. It's important to know for certain.  All the best to you.

[trying43]

Lots of ladies have gotten pg over 40 but with your tubes being tied I hate to say it but your chances are slim and it may just be a wacky cycle. BUT, God does perform miracles everyday and I am a believer!! The only way to know for sure is to take a test.  Use a pink dye test like first response and use first morning urine for an accurate result.  Good luck keep me posted!