Fetal demise at 30 wks

[tt37]

hello, I've never written in, but wondered if there were any folks out there who have had a fetal demise and have had healthy pregnancies the next time around.  My husband and I conceived with IUI this pregnancy on the first attempt.  Our fertility workup didn't turn up anything, but we had not gotten pregnant after 6 months of trying, so went for the workup.  Our pregnancy was going great with a normal CVS and monthly ultrasounds.  On Jan 7 we found out our daughter had died.  The autopsy did not turn up anything.  I know that 50% of cases do not turn up anything.  I guess my question also is did any of you who had this happen change OB's?  Did your next pregnancy get treated differently?  How long did it take your body to recover before you tried again?  Thanks for any advice.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I forgot to add that I would NOT have changed OB's.  I LOVED the ob I had during that pregnancy.  We were military, however, and were transferred overseas.  The doctors  I saw with my next two pregnancies were very understanding and offered me weekly NST's in the 3rd trimester to monitor the baby.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

First I'd like to say how very sorry I am for your loss.

I got pregnant naturally (my 3rd preg.  1st had complications but healthy baby, 2nd was miscarriage at 9 wks)  and carried to 38 wks...all went well.  I went for my normal check up and heard the heart beat.  The next day I went into labor, upon arriving at the hospital they weren't able to find a heartbeat.  Once our son was delivered it was found that the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck twice.  I have gone on to have 2 healthy pregnancies, a miscarriage at 5 weeks and 2 more healthy pregnancies since then.

[Lawafer]

I am so sorry for your loss. Although I'm having many problems now, in 1992 my baby died at 31 weeks.13 years later I went on to have a healthy pregnancy. I personally waited 13 years to try again. I'm sending blessings ur way....

[tacsanders]

My daughter in law just lost her baby at 30 weeks and had to deliver him yesterday. This was the most hurtful experience I have ever had to experience. She had the most perfect pregnancy ever and had a perfect US at 20 weeks. She had been for her regular OB appointment the day before the tragic news and it was a regular non eventful check up. Later that night, she noticed that he did not move. She went to the OB and there was not HB and it was confirmed by US. He still had urine in his bladder so he had just died. There was also fluid that was around his heart, lungs and brain that was unexplainable. We have elected to do the autopsy but the MD has mentioned an infection possibly?? It is the hardest thing in the world.

[tt37]

Thanks for all of your comments.  My husband and I are hopeful that we will get pregnant again this year and are trying to have faith that there was some reason that this happened.  Unfortunately, it's a reminder that my advanced maternal age :( is a risk for some things.  I've become a bit obsessed with finding out if there was any way to know that this might happen to us, but I haven't found it.  I've had some great support from friends and coworkers and even strangers, which is very comforting.

[shesherm]

OMG I'm so sorry for your loss.  Losing a lil one is never easy but I cannot imagine how you must feel.  You are in my thoughts and prayers

[RunningL8]

I don't know if this is helpful, but my mom lost her first baby at 36 weeks due to the placenta separating.  She had already had many years of undiagnosed fertility problems, but did go on to have me two years later.  My aunt also lost her first pregnancy at 34 weeks (for unknown reasons), but went on to have three healthy children, the first one a year later.  All these years later, both women have said that losing a baby so late was the most painful event of their lives.  I'm so very, very sorry for your loss.  I think if you have any question at all about your doctor, you should switch for your own peace of mind.  

[MelzieWelzie]

I'm really sorry for what you went through.  I've had 3 m/c's in my life so I know how hard it is to lose a precious angel in the 1st trimester.  I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a baby in the 3rd trimester.  I know 2 woman who went through similar experiences and had healthy beautiful girls the next time around.  I don't really have any advice since I didn't go through a similar experience, but I hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy on your next try.
Melanie