Getting pregnant at 47?

[Jamangy]

Hi, I'm Angie from Australia and I'm 47. My partner is 37. We have been trying for a child since February and been on growth hormones and DHEA for 7 months...but nothing. I have been told that the reason is my age, and chances of pregnancy are like 1% for my age and that my best chance is donor eggs. This has been a huge thing to get my head around. I can't help feeling that the child will not be "mine" and that it's not fair that the embryo is my partner's sperm and another woman's egg...nothing of me. I know that sounds awful and I have been reading on the net how many women say that these feelings disappear once you are pregnant and have the baby...We are looking to do a donor egg program overseas and have found a couple of clinics. I'd really like to hear from women who have had donor eggs and how you coped with the emotions. Also if maybe I should keep trying naturally instead. I have never been pregnant and do not want to regret it later in life if I do not do something now. Any ideas or knowledge would be a great comfort because I am feeling quite alone at the moment. Thank you.

[frogi75]

If you read the comment by the person with lots of numbers and march2015, I want you to put it out of mind right now! If you are healthy and feel that now is the time, then now is the time! I'm 38 and my husband 48 and yes, he worries about his age, but he knows he's healthy and that he will have years of free time ahead of him to concentrate on our babies upbringing, much more than he had with his 27yr old son who he feels he neglected due to work commitments and the idiocy of youth.... swings and roundabouts. As for it being a donor egg, will you love it any less? Once you feel that first kick, see that first scan, all long before holding your living, breathing miracle in your arms, he or she will be 200% yours, moreso even than your mans despite his input.
Don't stop trying naturally in the meantime, though. ... why write off that possibility however slim?! I didn't think we stood a chance with our ages, previous miscarriages, etc yet here we are! Stay positive and go for it!

[russelac]

I'm really sorry to hear of your difficulty getting pregnant. I'm 37,4 months along. I stopped eating gluten, dairy and soy, took cod liver oil, and ate liver, fish eggs, sardines. Chris Kresser gives away a free copy of the baby code book, and it worked. I got pregnant after 1 month of trying, my 30 YO sister took 18 months. I would highly recommend his book. Prayers for you and your husband.

[msale8283]

Don't give up.. my MIL is 42 and she will be giving birth in JANUARY ... stay positive. ..

[kukoo4coco]

I have never dealt with donor eggs, but you have only been trying since February, correct? I think you can still have a baby the natural way. If you have the time, money, and energy to care for a child, don't be discouraged by negative comments. Do you have any other children? If not, maybe it's not your age. Also has your partner checked his sperm count? There are other factors besides your age. When I found out I was pregnant I went to the doc office and I was chatting with the medical assistant. I told her I was worried about being 39 and pregnant and she told me don't worry, her step mother just delivered her baby at 47 and she also had one at 45. I asked were the babies healthy and she said very much so. She also mentioned that her dad was in his upper 50's, so I wouldn't give up just yet because I agree with you, I would feel like I was just an incubator for someone else's baby. Don't give up!

[0987654221march2015]

Too old for that babies need a lot of patience n that far in age you wouldn't take it imaging when you'll be 53 when baby is 5 58 when baby is 10 63 when 15 n puberty when you should be grandma you'll be a mom I wouldn't do it personally. .. am sorry age to me it's scary since older women have higher risk on having kids with down syndrome

[jill730]

I am 44 years old. I tried to get pregnant with my own eggs. It did not work and doctors said it was unlikely. I am now 9 weeks pregnant with a donor egg. This is my first pregnancy. The issue here is whether you want a baby. If you do, get a donor egg and get this process underway. If you don't, then being childless s fine too if that's what you want. But the idea that you might get pregnant with your own eggs is, at this point, a virtual impossibility. When I was 42, Doctors told me I wouldn't get pregnant on my own and they were right.

[isaknhenrysmama]

I have no experience what so ever with donor eggs. However, that being said I think even if the egg is not yours the baby would still have some of your dna. As it will be sharing your blood. Not only that you would be the one carrying this baby. So it is yours. Just my thoughts. Good luck to you.

[koyama83]

I'd think that after going through the pregnancy and especially giving birth and feeling the joy (that will be genuinely yours) will make the baby absolutely yours. Human DNA is 99% identical, besides.. Also, I believe that egg donors are matched to you as far as phenotype (physical appearance) and maybe other things too, like intellect.
Anyway, I think that the baring and nurturing of the child is more important than DNA.

[Angelsparxx]

Hi, I hear your concerns and they are valid. I have never been through that, but I feel that you would have a great deal to do with the creation. You will experience the best part of creating life...carrying and feeling every kick and every craving...that will all be you...please don't think like that... I wish you the best of luck