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Having a baby at 35

My daughter is 13yrs old n im pregnant 3mos. Will this hurt my daughter?
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202436 tn?1326474333
My oldest was 14 when her youngest sibling was born.  She is closer to that sibling than any of the other 3.  I think you daughter will be madly in love with her new baby brother or sister.  She is now old enough to enjoy and help and understand what a blessing a baby is.  Just be sure that if she has roller coaster emotions about this that feels validated and knowns that it is completely normal.  My daughter was actually MAD and snorted when I told her I was pregnant this last time.  But now she admittedly spoils that one more than the others.  
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803467 tn?1341934706
My brother and I are 10 years apart.  He's now 26 and I'm 36...He's always said that he's thankful for having a very much older sibling as I was able to be more of a mentor for him.  As we grew older he felt that he could come to me with anything...sometimes even though as parents we want our kids to come to us they shy away from doing so...so the next best person to give good and safe advice is an older sibling who's raised with the same value's and morals. :)   It's much better then going to a friend who is the same age with no real life experience.  No worries, I think the bond between siblings with a greater age gap get along better. :)
Good luck! :)
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I'm also 35 and my daughter is 18 years old and is very excited. It will all work out and she will love her sooooo much....Goodluck
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2111876 tn?1334448796
Definitely involve your daughter. I have 2 daughters, 12 & 14, and they are so excited. They chose the baby's name already, amongst other things. I'm sure that your little one will be the same way, just give her a chance. Good luck
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719902 tn?1334165183
i agree. My dd is 13 and i just had a baby.  My older daughter adores her sister and wants to do everything for her.  She is a great help!
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1806883 tn?1458321004
no quite the contrary :) I'm sure she will make a wonderful big sister, involve her in everything even taking her to appointments/ultrasounds if she wants to go, get her to help with choosing stuff for the baby etc, and when bub arrives let her hold baby, help change nappies, help at bath time etc, all the same things that you would do with a younger child, she needs to feel involved and then she will bond with bub as well, it will also be a wonderful learning experience for her :)
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