I'm a man, age 40, who recently fell in love with a 29 year old woman, with ADD, depresion and anxiety issues. Were now pregnant and my driving need for connection and intamacy has just resulted in her reaching rage. I pushed all of her buttons trying to meet my needs selfishly, she became violent, I used harsh words in return, and now have lost my lifes love.
How can I survive being a guy, hang all my needs up to dry, and still be the usual me - I cook every meal, do all the dishes, clean 85% of everything daily, including my loves 9 year old son, babby sit him, help him with homework, read to him and tuck him in, all after a intensive day at work, and at the endf of the day or the begining , there is no time or interest on her part to be connected or for intamacy - I'm not talking sex, which isn't happening, just cuddeling, anything on that spectrum just annoys her and creates major conflict.
I have every desire to fix things and go get couinseling. I know I still will want more than she can give at this point,but there is also lots of stress surounding financel, her ex and no child support, moving, integrating families, etc... If I get a second chance, what should I do?