How Many Miscarriages Before You Were Successful?

Question

Hi girls.  I know this is a very subjective question but I am wondering how many miscarriages any of you have had before you were successful?

I am 39. No kids yet. Just had my fourth mc. All of them prior to 8 weeks. RE tested everything, blood clotting, antiphospholipid syndrome, HSG, etc.  All testing showed no cause for mc.  I don't have a problem with continuing to try.  But I'm just wondering how many tries could it take?  I know it is an "unknown" answer.  But do any of you have examples?  How many miscarriages did you endure before you were successful???

FYI:   We are doing progesterone, Clomid, HCG shots in addition to pre-natal vitamins, extra folic acid, baby aspirin and 50mg of thyroid meds.

Zirka · Answer

Thank you for your question!!!

I'm very sorry for your losses.My heart is breaking for you.

Sending lots of love and hugs to all you.You.are in my prayers.

fayday · Answer

Hi i've had 6 children was 38 years old when i had my first mc and then 43 years having my second mc i've kept going and now at 44 years i've found out i'm pregnant and at 5 weeks some people say you have enough children but i can't help how i feel wanting another.

When did you feel and know that your pregnancy was going full term as i'm in this messy world now will it won't it world and i know each women are different but nice to know how it was for you.

sassysissy244 · Answer

This is my third MC. I did not notice a heart beat with any of the other pregnancies. This baby had a heart beat so I just knew I was on my way to babyland. I m/c before eight weeks as well. I am now more encouraged to TTC.

Lisalu1017 · Answer

Yesterday I had my 2nd m/c prior to that I had a tubal preg.  I have two older children and had NO problems getting pregnant but that was when I was in my 20's...I am 41 now and on my 2nd marrage and REALLY want a child together.  We got preggers both times without fertility drugs/treatment...all natural....our motto is IF GOD WANTS US TO HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER, IT WILL HAPPEN.  Well it has happened, but I keep m/c all at 8 wks....and I am starting to think maybe that is God's way of saying we don't need another child.  

Also, what is an RE and why baby asprin?  What all do I need to talk to my ob/gyn about in 2 wks when I go back about getting preggers???

Thanks,

Lisa in Texas

kristine625 · Answer

It is so frustrating when they can't find anything wrong. That's exactly the situation with me too. But on the other hand, they haven't found anything that shows we definitely cannot have a child either. I know that might sound simplistic. But I'm trying to keep focusing on that. I get too upset when I let myself focus on the other.

Will you guys keep trying? Or are you still sorting through that right now?

udbe2 · Answer

Unfortunately for me I have no happy ending with a sucessful pregnancy. I've had 7 m/c so far all before or even right around 8 wks. Had all the test ran and everything has came back normal with no explainations on what is going on.

jennyb473 · Answer

I had 4 mc before my DD was born in June 2008 and have just had another one 2 weeks ago.   After my 2nd mc I started going to an RE - found homozygous MTHFR and diagnosed with PCOS.  I started on baby aspirin, metformin and extra folic acid/vit b6/b12.  I had 2 more mc and then switched RE's - stayed on same cocktail of meds, but added progesterone supp 3dpo and stayed on all meds thru 13 weeks and had a beautiful baby girl in June last year who is the love of my life.  

We started trying for #2 in July, got pg on the first try, same drugs. But baby couldn't keep up and I measured behind from day 1 and had D&C on 9/3. I thought same drug cocktail would get me the same results, but no such luck.  I'm waiting on pathology now to see if anything shows, but not expecting much.  We'll try again soon....but not sure I can go thru 4 again without calling it quits and being satisfied with my princess as our only child.

kristine625 · Answer

My goodness I didn't expect so many responses, but boy am I glad!  Glad that I am not the only one.  Let's all get some comfort in knowing that much at least.  I am glad that so many of you are glad I asked this :)

Miranda9, after each one of my mc I thought, "no more, this is over". But as soon as my hormones got back to normal, I did a 180 degree turn and felt just as strongly that, "this is not over, I'm definitely going to try again".   I think as long as we still have that deep down inside yearning, then that means we must keep going.

prevatt77, I am sort of getting the same response=  I just need to wait for a mature egg.  I can't believe with all the technology today that we cannot take a pill or get a shot to help our eggs be more mature.  I guess we can't reverse the clock and get younger.  But if the truth is that we WILL get a good egg, but our road is just a little more difficult.... then I too believe let's keep goin'.  I guess no one has a crystal ball to tell us that we definitely will get a mature egg.  Then again, no one has a crystal ball to tell us that we definitely won't either :)

bny807, I love the clip you read in the magazine.  I too have found a few things to keep me going from day to day.  A lot of it gets back to what prevatt77 said, if she didn't keep going she wouldn't have her baby.

I look at it like this- while it is true that I may not have a biological baby, it is also true that I might.  And if it turns out that the next try, or the one after that, or the one after that is successful.... won't I be glad that I kept on going?!

Right now, we don't have any reason at all to believe that we won't be successful ladies.  No reason at all.  So if we think we can handle moving forward emotionally, then let's go for it.  Let's all just go for it!!

NicMom · Answer

I only had one, but I know someone who had 4 in a two year period. After the 4th the dr found out her body wasn't absorbing some type of vitamin I can't remember what one. Anyhow after she went on supplements that she injected once a week she got pregnant the next month and just had a baby girl. Hang in there and don't give up!

usuk · Answer

So glad you asked this. I was wondering too. I have 3 MCs - not all before 8 weeks though - and no cause to date. All the tests too, inside outside and upside down. Even DH had blood tests. Also been told just bad luck and keep trying. So let's all do that.....

bny807 · Answer

i'm so sorry to hear about your losses!   It is such an awful thing to have to go through!   I had 4mc's before this pregnancy (we are 33 weeks).. we had to do fertilty treatments to get all of them (except this one!)... mine were also all before 8 weeks (well one we learned was not viable at 7 weeks, however had to wait till 11 weeks to actually miscarry- the placenta continued to grow throughout that time- ugh!) 
       My testing did show i was homozygous for a clotting disorder (mthfr) and i take B vitamins, asprin, heparin injections (and i did take metformin) 4mg of folic acid in addition to the 1mg folic acid my prenatal includes..oh and i did progesterone as well 
    I do have a friend who has also had 4mc's in the past, but does have a healthy child from the past..her tests are also all negative for any clotting disorders etc... but her RE is goign to go ahead and try her on heparin after ovulation to see if that might make the difference.. 
   when i was in the RE"s office a while back, i picked up one of the magazines in there ( i want to say it was concieve magazine, but not sure) and i remember a statistic that helped me continue on each month tryinng- if you have gotten pregnant even one time (and miscarried) that your chances for a successful pregnancy are 98%!!!   I thought that was great!! i kept that in my mind at all times!   i also have a good friend who went through 4mc's and has since had 2 healthy children - her tests showed negative as well! (she did B vitamins and asprin throughout her successful pregnancies).
   You are in my prayers - keep us updated and GOOD LUCK! : )

Miranda9 · Answer

Kristine, thank you for posting your question.  I just had my 4th miscarriage - a D&C - last week, and I, too, have been wondering the same thing.  Last week I thought this was it, no more, yet now, once again, I feel like I need to try one more time.

And thank you, Debbie, for replying.  You inspire me.

prevatt77 · Answer

I had 4 miscarriages and 1 Ectopic, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy on my birthday at the age of 41.  After the 4th miscarriage I seen an RE, he put me on Clomid, I had an ectopic after that and than the next cycle I carried full term.  My RE told me that it was just bad luck and that I wasn't getting a mature egg, he told me not to give up and that it would happen for me and it did.  I was determined that I wasn't giving up, if I would have given up I wouldn't have my percious boy today.  It was hard and I'm glad I kept going.  A lot of woman can't contiun to put themself through the hurt and pain.  So if you don't have a problem with continuing to try, go for your dream and believe that it will happen for you. 

Also, I was on Clomid, pre-natal vitamins, folic acid, baby aspirin and progesterone until 12 weeks.

Good Luck!
Debbie