I didn't think I could get pregnant until I did...BUT...

[Lily3639]

Hi there,  I'm brand new to the forum.  What brought me here was an unexpected, wonderful surprise that I was pregnant at 36.  We were so happy because I was under the impression that I couldn't have any more kids. I have a 15 year old, but had no luck trying to conceive afterwards.  So we weren't really trying, but we were not using protection due to my misconceptions about my ability to get preg.  This worked for two years....
Three days ago I had a miscarriage at eight weeks.  I am over the distress of what happened.  I saw it coming and was not completely shocked. I just knew something had gone wrong about a week earlier.  
I mainly want to know if anyone else has been in my shoes.  Not that I GOT pregnant, I realized how much we wanted a baby. I am worried that it may have been a fluke.  Everyone I've talked to has said, "Well at least you know you can get pregnant!"  I suppose I'm not totally convinced that I can conceive a healthy pregnancy.  Any thoughts?

[keenie009]

This makes me feel better too! I am 34, I will be 35 in October! I married young and have an 18 yr old and a 12 year old from a previous marriage. I have a 3 1/2 year old with my current husband and we want to have one more before we throw in the towel..LOL!! We have been trying for three months now with no success.

[adgal]

Welcome, and I am so sorry for your loss.  I am glad that you are handling it as well as your are and have such a positive attitude toward the whole unfortunate situation.  As someone else said, it would seem you can get pregnant!!  I am going to be 40 next month and am happily ttc our first child.  I have had no problem getting pregnant, but have experience 4 m/c over the course of a year.  I would suggest you start with a complete physical.  Sometimes there are minor medical issues that are easily corrected, but until detected can make it more challenging to both conceive and carry.  In my case it took a year and a new OB to detect uterine fibroids, which she believes is probably causing my m/c's.  You can also request testing to try to determine the cause, such as genetic testing between you and your husband.  Your Dr. may not want to do this seeings how its only 1 m/c, but I can tell you that I wish I had pushed harder after my first 1.  Monitoring your cycles both through temping and charting (you can add an ovulation tracker to your medhelp cycle) can really help you determine your most fertile times, and I swear by Ovulation Predictor Kits.  If you are not successful in ttc after 6 months or so, don't wait to see an RE.  That is something else I wish I had initiated earlier.

Once again welcome.  There are many of us here your age and older both trying to conceive and pregnant with healthy pregnancies.  There is great advice to be had here, along with the support and "hand holding" that have been so helpful to so many of us.  I wish you luck!!!!

Amanda

[2inluv]

   After reading the posts, I am more hopeful that I can at 35 still get pregnant and carry to term. I have the PCOS and Hypothyroidism, but I know miracles still happen. I can relate to not thinking much about cycles or pregnancies when you do not have a regular cycle. I often feel that way. When I did not really "work" on getting pregnant, I got my 9 year old, but now I care because I am married, a newly wed and 35. I want to be able to give my husband a child, you know. I hate feeling less than a woman or incomplete, broken so to speak. Anyone feel this way? LOL  

[Lily3639]

We weren't trying at all..It just happened.  I will probably start paying more attention to my cycle and ovulation now that we want to try again.  

[SoCalTricia]

I stopped birth control in early August due to MD recommendation (the hormone-based BC was making my blood pressure high). We talked about what to do, i.e. should we have a baby or not? We decided let's see what happens...so we didn't "try" in August, we just didn't try NOT to get pg. We decided in September to try for a baby. We figured we would just guess at ovulation, and go from there. Didn't work. Got the OPK in October and found that I ovulated early in my cycle. Got pregnant on November 10! I'm 40 right now, I'll be 41 when I give birth. Oh...this is my third pregnancy. I have an 18 year old daughter and an 8 year old son.

Tricia

[cure65roses]

I don' t know about you girls, but i am extremely impatient.  It helps to hear your stories that you did conceive after age 35, which is where I am now.  I do have a question, though.  Did you ladies actually "try" for a long time before getting pregnant?  What I mean is, did you try to acheive pregnancy by doing the deed on your most fertile days every month?  Or were you just not even trying and bam, it happened? You're so lucky!  

I do also have kids already (3) from a previous marriage.  But my 2nd husband (of 5 years) doesn't have any children so that is why it is so important to us.

You girls really inspire me.  Thanks!!  Maybe I'll get a surprise sometime in the future like you girls did.

[Lily3639]

Thanks so much to everyone who has written back!  It makes me feel less alone.  It's also nice to know that my story helps others!!!

[smr08]

I have 3 children ages 21, 20 and 11. Over the summer at age 40 I found out that I was pregnant again(imagine my surprise!LOL. Unfortunately I lost my son when I was 5 months along. Now at 41 I'm hoping that I get another "surprise". I'm a little nervous, but I'm not going to let that get in the way of my happiness. I wish you the best and keep us posted.
                     Lori

[7preg3b]

yeah I was pretty sure I was done after my last and even made my appt for a tubal then I unexpectedly got pregnant again and Now all I can think about is ahving another..  Like I'm missing one,,   and I have to find him/her before its too late..  I'm crazy I know..

[cure65roses]

You can!!  (Obviously!)  But I would suggest using OPK's to predict your fertile days.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I can't imagine how hard that would be.  But sharing your story gives me hope that at least it can happen, (preggers) for BOTH of us.  Good Luck!