Miscarriage

[carla2]

I am 8 wks. pregnant and just got home from the dr's office. She said I am going to miscarry and had three options: Let the baby pass naturally or take some cytotec and help it along, or do a D&C. I don't know what to do. It's my first miscarriage and I'm scared. Does anyone have any advice on what they did? Was it really painful? I would appreciate any information anyone has. Thanks...

[MZReD226]

Sorry for your lost. What was your hcg numbers before finding out you're going to m/c .

[adgal]

I answered your post on Pregnancy 18-34, but will here as well.  Yes, it is quite normal to have medication prescribed to help move things a long a bit.  A d&c really isnt' usually required with a very early loss.  However, don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.  To just allow things to happen naturally if that is your preference is absolutely fine as well.

[mama71719]

i was 2 weeks  just had a miscarriage thou i am concern is it normal doctor tell me to take a pill and no need for dc? can some help me understand

[Mochica]

Hi Carla, my name is Monica. I'm having a miscarriage as well. My first u/s was 2 weeks ago (6w) and my doctor was concerned. My last u/s (7w) was 1 weeks ago and the heartbeat was gone and the placenta was starting to break down. I'm SO sorry for your loss, I know how it feels to go through this.

I'm opting for natural. It's a personal decision ... for now. It was not difficult for me to accept that my body was holding this lost dream (don't really know how else to put that.) I say this because my best girlfriend, when she found out she miscarried at 9w, just wanted it all out, done and over with. She was very emotional. I feel like I want my body to process through the cycle as long as everything is safe. By that I mean, I don't want an infection that could jeopardize my fertility.

I've waited a week so far and it has just started. Thankfully. Currently it's dark in color and light in quantity and there's no "real" pain other than what I might feel with menses. It could get worse ... I'm a newbie so I don't know ... but I imagine it will. I imagine the "every pregnancy is different" guideline may still apply now that the pregnancy is no longer? My doctor has given me some major dose (600 mg) of Ibuprofen should I need it. All caregivers are telling me that because it was not far along, that it would not be as painful as my imagination was making it out to be. My doctor is continuing blood draws to make sure all things are in check. WE all want me pregnant as soon as possible again. There are so many success stories after this ... one can only HOPE.

If there's any tissue leftover, of course we'll have to do a D&C. My mother-in-law has had a few to remove fibroids before she had a major surgery. She said it was not painful. (I have noted that women that have given birth ALWAYS seem to discount pain!) But regardless, MANY women opt for a D&C. It sounds safe, sterile and tidy.

My decision is based upon trying to keep things as natural as possible. So far my body is performing well and I will soon have this experience from conception to demise to renewal. Perhaps I'm a bit hippie dippy but I've learned to go with my gut on most of my medical decisions. I realize that I know more about my body than I thought I did.

But no doubt about it ... it's SAD and DISAPPOINTING. It's emotional seeing the evidence of life lost.

[7preg3b]

my first miscarriage I felt no pain and the baby passed and I just knew..  but still had to have a d and C as I did with the other two..  your better off just having the d and c so you can grieve and your body can heal..  best of wishes and good luck..

[tahariel]

I"m so sorry for your loss. Did your doctor confirm lack of heartbeat? I had a missed miscarriage at 16-17 weeks and chose the cytotec option. Took about 1 1/2 weeks to complete the process . . . we started at a low dose first then increased. Everything went fine. We had two healthy pregnancies and babies after. Best wishes to you.

[TabithaLaine]

I too am sorry for your loss.  For me, a D & C was necessary to be sure that all of the "tissue" left my uterus.  My last miscarriage was considerd a 'missed miscarriage' (which just means that the baby died at around 6-7 wks but was not discovered until around 10 weeks.  I hemorrhaged profusely and dangerously.  This is not typical!!  So, for me, I needed to have medical supervision.  Even in this last case, I had to pass "the tissue" but...I was monitored and medicated...much easier physically (and emotionally, I thought)

Best wishes to you

[usuk]

so sorry. i feel sick just thinking about it. i had a m/c at 14 weeks with no symptoms or bleeding or cramping so i needed to have a d&e. the nurses were great (even the male one) the minute i woke up, he said "you had nothing to do with this awful thing." as much as it ***** to sit with all those IVs and know what you are leaving behind - it was safe and clean and i did not have to see any of the large tissue. so do what you can tolerate, the fear of the hospital (planned) or the fear of going through it at home (at any given moment).

[adgal]

I too am so very sorry for your loss.  I have had a few m/c as well, and 2 of them I chose D&C. (2 were chemical pregnancies, so no treatment was necessary.)

The first time I actually chose cypotec to help things along, and in my case it didn't work out well.  I wound up having a D&C.  But lots of women use cypotec sucessfully.  It wasn't painful, it was like bad period cramps, and some bleeding.  The D&C was also a pretty easy procedure.  In in the morning, out in the late afternoon.  I felt sort of out of it the next day, some cramping (I took tylenol with codeine) and then I was fine.

The toughest part of m/c is rarely the physical, its the emotional.  Make sure you take the time to take care of you, and talk to someone you trust about how you feel, cry, scream, whatever you need to do.  Just don't hold it all in.

Whatever you decide, remember that m/c is unfortunately very common in early pregnancy, and there are lots of us here more than willing to "hold your hand' through it.  Please take care.  Your in my thoughts and prayers.

[lisaywg]

I'm so sorry to hear your news.  I had a miscarriage prior to this pregnancy.  I was 12 weeks and only had a slight suspicion that it would happen. So it just happened.  I didn't know I miscarried until the doctor told me.   Not to scare you, but it was very painful when it happened.  The second it was over the pain instantly disappeared.  I ended up having a D&C after and was fine.  This was last November and like carpediemforlife, I got pregnant again in February and due this November.  Take care!

[carpediemforlife]

Well  first of all Im soo soo sorry for your loss. Ive had 2 MC - the first was natural and the 2nd was D&C.  The first was at 8 wks and uncomfortable (think bad period cramp) when the contractions start but when its over...its over. And you will have some bleeding and possible blood clots pass.  The 2nd was by D&C depending on your insurance...it may be a option for you.  I still had an out of pocket expense of about $800 of what insurance would not cover for the day procedure. It was in and out....you will need some pain meds but only a few days and things kind of go "back to normal".  My last MC was in Jan and I got pregnant in Feb! Im 31 wks now....so dont think you cant get pregnant right away.  All the best to you!