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Miscarrriage and Menopause scare
Hi this is the second time I am posting a question. I am 39 and just suffered a miscarriage almost 2 months ago (my first baby). I am still at my healing stage and finds it hard to move on so I am having a lot of emotional stress and loss of sleep recently. I would really want another baby however I'm not in a relationship anymore. My OB advised me to have IVF instead. I am open to it but there is the fear of suffering another loss.
Moreover, I have been having these hot flushes lately-twice now this week. First time it has happened again since when I was in the hospital after having the miscarriage which occured about 3 times (3 early morning flashes). The most recent one was just this early morning, I woke up with very wet hair and upper body. My shirt was really wet I had to change into a new one. I had a cardigan on and my room had the heater on (as with the other night that I had the hot flush). So I do wonder if these were plus factors.
Now I am really scared if this is a sign of early menopause or from any other reason. I definitely want another baby and if this is menopause then it would render me hopeless.
Please advice and help...many thanks!!!
Moreover, I have been having these hot flushes lately-twice now this week. First time it has happened again since when I was in the hospital after having the miscarriage which occured about 3 times (3 early morning flashes). The most recent one was just this early morning, I woke up with very wet hair and upper body. My shirt was really wet I had to change into a new one. I had a cardigan on and my room had the heater on (as with the other night that I had the hot flush). So I do wonder if these were plus factors.
Now I am really scared if this is a sign of early menopause or from any other reason. I definitely want another baby and if this is menopause then it would render me hopeless.
Please advice and help...many thanks!!!
Hi and thank you so much for the very encouraging response. Congratulations on your new pregnancy and I wish that you may go on successfully and see your beautiful baby eventually!
I have just seen my OB this afternoon and I've told her about my hot flushes. She asked me to go on with my appointment with an IVF specialist. That way my condition will be assessed, a blood test will be done to determine my capacity to conceive the second time. I am quite nervous but from your words of reassurance, I am well motivated to go through with the procedure and hopeful that I will conceive again and be lucky this time.
It was really traumatic for me and until now I am still trying to cope with the depression. I am so thankful that I signed up on this community because through this I get to know wonderful people like you and it helps me get through this tragedy and continue to hope for better tomorrow.
I am also seeing a therapist this Friday to further help me out.
I will let you know of any developments with my procedure. Again, thank you so much. May the good Lord bless you and your baby.
I have just seen my OB this afternoon and I've told her about my hot flushes. She asked me to go on with my appointment with an IVF specialist. That way my condition will be assessed, a blood test will be done to determine my capacity to conceive the second time. I am quite nervous but from your words of reassurance, I am well motivated to go through with the procedure and hopeful that I will conceive again and be lucky this time.
It was really traumatic for me and until now I am still trying to cope with the depression. I am so thankful that I signed up on this community because through this I get to know wonderful people like you and it helps me get through this tragedy and continue to hope for better tomorrow.
I am also seeing a therapist this Friday to further help me out.
I will let you know of any developments with my procedure. Again, thank you so much. May the good Lord bless you and your baby.
Hi, I just wanted to reassure you. I am 39 now and I too had a miscarriage last December I was 3 months. After I felt horrific I was waking up in pools of sweat and having bad mood swings. I had been having hot sweats prior to my miscarriage but not as bad and feel it was due to my Merena coil!! Anyway I had a blood test in Jan which showed I was Peri menopausal my heart sank I though I would never conceive again my Dr suggested I go see a specialist and have IVF like you. I put my self on Agnus Castus and starflower oil, some pre preg vits etc and looked after myself gave myself 3 clear months then tried again and I am now 29 +1day pregant!!. Don't lose hope. So sorry for your loss it is beyond words how it leaves you feeling I am sure you will get your baby. Try to stay positive look after yourself physically and mentally nurture you you have been through a trauma. I wish you all the luck for the future. x
Thank you for the very encouraging response. I'm so thankful for selfless people like you who share so much inspiration to others!
We have had something in common--at 34 I was also diagnosed with endometriosis, polyp in the uterus and thick lining which was causing my abnormal bleeding in-between periods. I had to undergo my first D&C (the 2nd one was my recent miscarriage). My OB told me then that I only had 2 healthy years to conceive. So it was really a surprise when I got pregnant (at 39) in May this year though it would eventually be a tragic loss.
That is why I had to seek advice from this website because I was having the fear of infertility (menopause etc) due to these hot flushes.
You are so brave and motivated that you went your way to find a good doctor and you have reaped your rewards!!! Your have a beautiful family and the kids are so cute and adorable!!! You are so blessed. I wish I too would be blessed with a baby/ies in the near future.
Thank you again for the wondeful encouragement. God bless you and your family.
We have had something in common--at 34 I was also diagnosed with endometriosis, polyp in the uterus and thick lining which was causing my abnormal bleeding in-between periods. I had to undergo my first D&C (the 2nd one was my recent miscarriage). My OB told me then that I only had 2 healthy years to conceive. So it was really a surprise when I got pregnant (at 39) in May this year though it would eventually be a tragic loss.
That is why I had to seek advice from this website because I was having the fear of infertility (menopause etc) due to these hot flushes.
You are so brave and motivated that you went your way to find a good doctor and you have reaped your rewards!!! Your have a beautiful family and the kids are so cute and adorable!!! You are so blessed. I wish I too would be blessed with a baby/ies in the near future.
Thank you again for the wondeful encouragement. God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for the response. I greatly appreciate it, you gave me additional courage and hope.
Yes, my pregnancy was actually unplanned and conceiving was easy though I did had trouble (on/off bleeding) during the course and unfortunately lost my baby-at 13 weeks-due to an infection.
Tomorrow I am calling my doctor to talk about my hot flushes and set an appointment with the fertility clinic to look at IVF. I am now very hopeful that I will still be able to have another baby.
I am still hurting after the recent loss but I'm trying to cope and hearing positive words from wonderful people like you help ease the pain.
Congratulations to you on the recent pregnancy news!!! God bless.
Yes, my pregnancy was actually unplanned and conceiving was easy though I did had trouble (on/off bleeding) during the course and unfortunately lost my baby-at 13 weeks-due to an infection.
Tomorrow I am calling my doctor to talk about my hot flushes and set an appointment with the fertility clinic to look at IVF. I am now very hopeful that I will still be able to have another baby.
I am still hurting after the recent loss but I'm trying to cope and hearing positive words from wonderful people like you help ease the pain.
Congratulations to you on the recent pregnancy news!!! God bless.
At 34 I had my first doctor tell me I was in early menopause and over the next few years 2 others tell me the same. Me being the stubborn person I was found another dr who was willing to help. I went to an re and after bloodwork ultrasound exam she told me she could help. I had high fsh low amh low progesterone endometriosis ovarian cysts thick uterine lining and a polyp in my uterus and my uterus was also upsidedown and backwards! I had surgery to correct as many problems as we could and after that my fsh went down to a normal level from 12.4 to 5.5! My re decided to put me on an aggressive course of meds. Femara, follistim, estrace, novarel, and progesterone and first round it worked! I am now mom to a beautiful 6 1/2 month old girl. Good luck to you!
Sorry for your loss!
I would not worry too much about the hot flash. You were able to conceive very recently, your body cannot be in menopause just now.
I too had my 1st baby late in life, at 41.5 years old and I recently learned I am pregnant again, at 42.5 and this was not even a planned pregnancy. I really thought I was in peri-menopause (22-23 days in between periods).
I would definitively look into IVF if I were you - with your own eggs. But first you probably should have a hormonal check up. The fact that you got pregnant means that you body is able to get pregnant, so stay hopeful!
I would not worry too much about the hot flash. You were able to conceive very recently, your body cannot be in menopause just now.
I too had my 1st baby late in life, at 41.5 years old and I recently learned I am pregnant again, at 42.5 and this was not even a planned pregnancy. I really thought I was in peri-menopause (22-23 days in between periods).
I would definitively look into IVF if I were you - with your own eggs. But first you probably should have a hormonal check up. The fact that you got pregnant means that you body is able to get pregnant, so stay hopeful!
P.S. I just viewed your lovely photos. Your baby boy is so adorable!!! I also couldn't believe you are in your 40's. You look younger than your age. That is so amazing.
I also wish you would be able to add another beautiful baby in your family. Good luck for both of us :)
I also wish you would be able to add another beautiful baby in your family. Good luck for both of us :)
You really made me feel great!!! Thank you so much for the encouragement. It is so good to know that I am not alone and with your story-having your beautiful boy at nearly 41 is just an incredible inspiration for me!!!
I actually don't have much idea about this menopause thing that I am so grateful you have shared your knowledge to me. I felt scared to ask my doctor because I fear that she would tell me I am on the menopausal track. I was becoming paranoid after I lost my baby. With your reply, you actually just gave me the courage and hope. I really appreciate it.
I also realized my grandmother had my mum at 39, my 2 Aunts at 42 and 44 (the latter her 7th child and they are healthy and beautiful).
I will be seeing my OB next week to discuss my condition. Again, thank you so much. May God bless you and your family.
I actually don't have much idea about this menopause thing that I am so grateful you have shared your knowledge to me. I felt scared to ask my doctor because I fear that she would tell me I am on the menopausal track. I was becoming paranoid after I lost my baby. With your reply, you actually just gave me the courage and hope. I really appreciate it.
I also realized my grandmother had my mum at 39, my 2 Aunts at 42 and 44 (the latter her 7th child and they are healthy and beautiful).
I will be seeing my OB next week to discuss my condition. Again, thank you so much. May God bless you and your family.
First off, I am so very sorry for your loss. I want you to know that I too have been through this, and I was the same age as you. I went on to have a beautiful healthy baby boy (I was just shy of 41 when he was born), so don't give up hope.
A couple of things to know about menopause or perimenopause. You are not technically in menopause until you have not had a period for a year. Perimenopause is typically marked by irregular cycles. Many women are in perimenopause for up to 10 years prior to actually going into menopause, and it is certainly more then possible to conceive during this time.
If you are doing IVF anyway, one of the things you might want to consider is donor eggs. It is true that women in our age group have a higher risk of loss due to poor quality/older eggs. It might be something to discuss with your OB/RE.
As for the hot flashes. Discuss this with your Dr. It is very possible you are suffering a hormonal imbalance related to the miscarriage (or other things), or even just the stress of what you have been through, that has nothing to do with perimenopause.
I wish you much success. You are only 39, you don't need to give up yet!!
A couple of things to know about menopause or perimenopause. You are not technically in menopause until you have not had a period for a year. Perimenopause is typically marked by irregular cycles. Many women are in perimenopause for up to 10 years prior to actually going into menopause, and it is certainly more then possible to conceive during this time.
If you are doing IVF anyway, one of the things you might want to consider is donor eggs. It is true that women in our age group have a higher risk of loss due to poor quality/older eggs. It might be something to discuss with your OB/RE.
As for the hot flashes. Discuss this with your Dr. It is very possible you are suffering a hormonal imbalance related to the miscarriage (or other things), or even just the stress of what you have been through, that has nothing to do with perimenopause.
I wish you much success. You are only 39, you don't need to give up yet!!
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