OB being a bully and stress test

[simplylizzy23]

Today at my pre op appointment the Dr told me I need to have 2 stress tests for two weeks. He also told me I need to tie my tubes (my husband and I wanted one more together).  He was almost bullying me telling me I,would die if I tried to carry another child. I spoke to a perinatologist and she said there is no reason e by I couldn't carry another child as long as I got on blood thinners as soon as I found out I was pregnant. My OB said I am being selfish wanting another child. I don't want this baby to grow up alone an da have no siblings to play with or count on. Am I being selfish? Anytime a woman gets pregnant there is always a chance of death.

[simplylizzy23]

I have a blood clot disorder whenever I am pregnant. I have had 3 pulmonary embolism. Two from another pregnancy and one this pregnancy which was my fault because I ran out of my blood thinner shots (Lovenox) and didn't want to drive 2 hours to pick up new ones when I would be in town 3 days later. I had cardiomyopathy with my last pregnancy because I had Graves disease but since than had my thyroid removed. I have multiple sclerosis but being pregnant puts my disease in kind of like a remission.  

[lasilk]

What is the medical condition that will kill you if u have another kid?

[BabyDee78]

Time for new OB. Your OB needs to share the same interests as you do. If my OB made a comment like that I would have complained about his or her sensitivity with handling patients. My OB is cool. I refer many to him because he is caring and personable. You need that too.

[megmegcleve]

I would get a new doctor ASAP! He is giving you his opinion but should not be bullying you into making any decisions, it's just rude and out of line. I do understand him giving you the worst case scenario, it's better than a doctor sugar coating things and making like everything would be perfect but he should not be pushing you to do anything you don't want to.

[bloodfest]

My mum had 4 of us and was told after each that she'll die if she had another.

[HappyMommyBear]

yeah.. get a new doctor.. i wouldnt trust a doctor like that.. my doctor does fertility test because she understands the joy of having kids.. she only has 1 daughter and decided to
adopt since she cant give birth and loves to help couples who wants to have children..

[My2ndbaby]

I think you should sit down with your OB and gently ask him what he means- so he can tell you the precise reasons whyvhe is saying that. My sister had a friend who had 1 child (I think he was 7yrs or so) and she really wanted a second child. Her OB had warned her Never to get pregnant again, or she would die. Well,  she got pregnant and changed doctors, and never went back to her previous OB. Sadly she did die in the last weeks of pregnancy. Her body could not handle another pregnancy. So, please dot get offfended or upset, but check and countercheck why your OB is telling you that. It could be for your own good. God bless!

[simplylizzy23]

Thank you. I feel better.

[kate32324]

I think its perfectly fine unless you have a history of major health issues. Every woman that gets pregnant is risking it. It's your life not your dr. He shouldn't be telling you you shouldn't have another child. Just like young mothers that already have 2 and tell the dr they want their tubes tied and they refuse because they are young and may want more later.  Well if that mother know they are done then they are done.  

[simplylizzy23]

I have a son who is 13 from my first marriage and have another son on the way.

[kate32324]

Having another isn't selfish.  How would that be selfish !? Sounds like you need a new dr. Wanting two kids is perfectly fine.  Now if you were on your fifth baby and wanted one more I'd have to agree with the doc. But seriously he sounds like a pain