PLEASE! i need some feed back

[shylynnmarie]

this is my first pregnacy and i went in for a pap and the test came back that i had chlamydia, i got antibiotic for it. i also had group b strep and got treatment for that. since then i have not had sex with anyone and everything was clear. i think now i have a yeast infection. im very itchy and irratted. i soon developed some bumps down there on the lips and near the anal area. the bumps are skin color and i tried to pop or scrap them off and they just hurt and bleed. one of them actually came off at one point after i went to the bathroom and wiped. could the bumps be part of the yeast infection? i am worried becuse if they were an std then my pap would have seen it right? i also got a call from my dr and i have to go in for a level two sono cuz my blood test came back for a red flag that my baby might have edwards syndrome. were she has an extra chromosome and will be mentally handicapp. i am really worried my next appt isnt til the 21 of august. can some one please give me some feed back on this. thankx  

[Renogirl]

if you feel that this testing is best for you, your baby and your family - then we are all supportive of your decision and are here for you regardless of the outcome - good luck with your testing and don't forget to update us

[Renogirl]

I LOVE the What to Expect When You are Expecting book - I also love my Pregnancy for Dummies (no joke) and Your Pregnancy Week by Week!  

Basically here is my theory - I think each and everyone of us have to make a decision about what is best for us, our babies, and our families regarding testing.  I still haven't made up my mind past the fact that I know I want to do the Nuchal Fold testing.  We are in this forum to be supportive and helpful to each other - not judgemental.  I'm looking forward to hearing from everyone either good news on their testing or else good news on their healthy birth!

[shylynnmarie]

thats why i am going t o get a level two sono. and if there are more red flags that look more concerning then an amnio will be done. im not talkin about " well there might be something wrong but i cant really tell" im talkin about " yes there is something deff wrong with your baby and its noticable on the sono" and the people today are more trained in doing amnio's. the doctor will tell me after my sono if its absoluty ness. to do the amnio anyway. and yes i as well have that book what to expect. and yeah i know a lot of people who said they as well had red flags pop up and they ended up having a normal kid. well my brothers wife had no signs of something being wrong and their baby ended up with some disorder where she has one less chromosome. she is physically handicapp and has a hard time learning and making friends because of the way she looks. they werent prepared for that finacially. she is in an out of the drs and they are soo behind in bills. they could have had a chance to each get second jobs for a few months or just one of them even to save a couple extra bucks to help them selves out. and ya know what? they didnt get the tests done. im not telling anyone to do this. im only telling my point of view and giving feed back on personal experiences of why tests should be done. do you know how to take care of a child with down syndrome? or retts? do you know what retts is? do you know how much all the medical bills are? and did you know that a lot of parents who had children with these disorders put them in a group home because they dont kow how to take of that child? i use to do this kind of work and taking care of someone else responsibility is hard and sad. because these people were not prepared to care of such special children. just because you know all this does not mean you can not enjoy your pregnancy. you enjoy it because you think that you are gonna be the best parent no matter what happens to your child. being the parent of a child with special needs does take a lot.....when you child is 35 years old you still have to change their diaper, you still have to feed them, bath them, put them to bed, and teach them things everyday.....EVERYDAY. not all parents can do that. i worked with a woman who was an amazing 52 years old with down syndrome. not many people with this disorder live to be 52. she had 5 family members living with in 20 miles of the group home, and not one of them came to see her...ever!
like i said, im not TELLING anyone what to do or that they should do these tests, but if you were having a baby with something so rare, wouldnt you want to know? i am only giving my opinion like everyone else on this forum. i would want to know so that i could prepare for the fact that a lot of people are going to look at my child with racism. and brace myself and try to think of a way to explain to my child that ist not their fault why people look at them and treat them any diff then any one else.

[Tanker Chic]

For me it isn't just the knowing or not knowing... If you take a prescreening and it indicates increased risked, then you are faced with either amniocentesis or hoping for the best and preparing for the worst.  It has taken so long to get pg and things have not gone smoothly along the way.. I really want to avoid amnio... That in itself seems too risky to me..

Also in the 'what to expect when you are expecting' book... it says the prescreening has a high rate of false positives.  In 50 tests that show increased risk, only 1 or 2 will actually have a disorder...

DH and I haven't decided for sure what we are going to do.. but these are the things I think about.. it is a lot to consider.. that is all.  :)  

[NataliesMommy]

I think I would want to know if I was having a special needs child.  At least that way I would have time to do research on how to take care of him/her and be prepared for it mentally and physically.  After a baby is born, it is very exhausting let alone not being prepared for a situation that can be more draining.  Just my opinion.

[Tanker Chic]

Thanks Reno, I couldn't have explained it better myself..

[Renogirl]

I think that what tankerchic is saying is that she really want to enjoy her nine months - I'm sure that if she decides against the tests and would have a special needs baby she would love that baby unconditionally - we are in the same boat, we have a high risk for several recessive gene disorders plus we are both considered older parents - so higher risk for Down's, autism, etc.  Not sure if I will do the tests or not.  This may be my only pregnancy, and I'd rather not spend the next seven months planning, I'd rather enjoy.  Any child will be loved and wanted and special and unique.  We can't recommend what others should do, only support their decisions.  As for taking a real person to be a parent of a disabled child, I kinda take offense at that statement.  I think anyone who makes the commitment to be pregnant for nine months, put their body through everything it will go through and then commit to raise a child is a real person.  I have a sister who has two children born with a recessive gene disorder.  One child only lived one week, and her other daughter is three years old which is a miracle.  She could day tomorrow for all the doctor's know - there are no guarantees with her.  My sister is no more a real person then I am, she just deals with different challenges then I will as a first time mother.  Tank - you do what is best for you and your family!

[shylynnmarie]

ive looked at pics of herpes and the bumps i have dont look lik herpes. i also read up on vaginal sores and it said something about you could get them from a yeast infection. im almost positvie that i dont have herpes.  im not too sure about the rest but, when i had my pap wouldnt any other stds had showed up since i tested positve for chlamydia? and when i had my blood work done for the red flags wouldnt they have seen something else if i had another std?
as for a reply to tanker chic, you 10 wks along why wouldnt you want to know? weither something was wrong with the baby wouldnt you love you child either way? i have a chance that my baby might not even make it to be born, and a very small % of babies with edwards syndrome make it to their first birthday. and an even smaller % of children make it after that. but the babies who do make it out of the womb have mental and physical defects. small heads, mouth, jaws, they cant walk, they cant stand, have clenched hands and feet. and they dont learn well or some dont respond to contact with people. if my baby comes out with this defect its not gonna make me love her any less. if anything i will cherish her more then anything and give her the best life i could seeing as how she coudnt live that long. living with physical defcets isnt easy i worked with people like that and they need people to except and love them. its not their fault and they shouldnt suffer. when it comes time for your test i recommend that you do it. if there is something wrong wouldnt you want to prepare yourself mentally and FINACIALLY for that child? they just look different, every child is special in their own way. it takes a lot to be a parent, but it takes a real person to be a parent of a disabled child.

[Tanker Chic]

Yeah, sounds like it could be hpv (warts).  I'd call your dr asap.. sorry to hear about all your troubles and red flags.. I'm sure this is a very difficult time for you.. Tomorrow I will be 10wks and I am contemplating on whether or not we should do all the tests.. I just really don't want a dark cloud hanging over the pregnancy.. If they found something, I don't know that I could/would do anything about it anyway... I'm prochoice, but I don't know that it would be my choice..

Take care of yourself and call you dr ASAP!!  

[Liza55]

Call your md back...could be herpes, which would not be diagnosed unless you had open sores they can swab. Could also be hpv , or warts. Either way, doesn't sound normal.