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Hi Hannah,
So, how is dh responding today? Is he more accepting of staying home for Christmas? How are you feeling? Are you getting lots of rest?
I am thinking of you and wishing you and dh, (dear baby also) a very merry Christmas!
So, how is dh responding today? Is he more accepting of staying home for Christmas? How are you feeling? Are you getting lots of rest?
I am thinking of you and wishing you and dh, (dear baby also) a very merry Christmas!
Hannah,Thank you so much!! You really are such a kind and supportive person. We are lucky to have you on this forum, you husband is lucky to have you and what a lucky little boy Jacob is to have you for a mom!
Sleepless: Thank you for the advise. I really am praying and searching my heart if this is the best thing for me. Financially, it is just the worst time. In about 5 years financially, I'll be ready unfortunately my body doesn't have that extra 5 years! Believe me the happy hour scenerio has crossed my mind, but VERY briefly. My faith and conscience just won't let me do it. Too risky, too just plain "yucky!"I have an ex-boyfriend who calls me every now and then and says,"maybe I'll help you out." I didn't want his help for various reasons, but now I'm thinking. Heck, it could be the only way. BUT, he sort of toys with me about it. One day he says "yea, maybe", the next day he says "No, I don't think I can do that."I'm also going to OHSU. Tell me more about your experience. How old were/are you? How many attempts did you make before you got BFP? Or are you still in the trying process? If so, we'll have to compare notes on what donor we've chosen. Perhaps we'll end up having 1/2 siblings. Wouldn't that be interesting. lol. If you are/were close to my age what was your FSH?
Sleepless: Thank you for the advise. I really am praying and searching my heart if this is the best thing for me. Financially, it is just the worst time. In about 5 years financially, I'll be ready unfortunately my body doesn't have that extra 5 years! Believe me the happy hour scenerio has crossed my mind, but VERY briefly. My faith and conscience just won't let me do it. Too risky, too just plain "yucky!"I have an ex-boyfriend who calls me every now and then and says,"maybe I'll help you out." I didn't want his help for various reasons, but now I'm thinking. Heck, it could be the only way. BUT, he sort of toys with me about it. One day he says "yea, maybe", the next day he says "No, I don't think I can do that."I'm also going to OHSU. Tell me more about your experience. How old were/are you? How many attempts did you make before you got BFP? Or are you still in the trying process? If so, we'll have to compare notes on what donor we've chosen. Perhaps we'll end up having 1/2 siblings. Wouldn't that be interesting. lol. If you are/were close to my age what was your FSH?
Lisa,
When I went through my donor IUI process (I'm also single mom ttc, 2nd child) all the husbands of my married friends asked me--why didn't I "just go get knocked up" and save myself the financial hassle. Honestly none of the guys thought it was any big deal--"don't ask, don't tell, stay anonymous". Probably not too different from my cryobank donor-LOL.
Well two things stopped me, one was my faith and the second was fear of STDs. I know what a financial burden the process can be, ALL my expenses were out of pocket also. I noticed you're an Oregon gal also, I don't know what clinic you are using ( I used OHSU) but I noticed they had some kind of third-party financing option that allowed smaller payments over time and some kind of partial refund if you didn't conceive (I didn't use it so I don't know the details).
The one thing that my fertility doc said and that I stood by --was that the sooner I could get pregnant the better. The idea was to work with the age-odds and not stretch out the IUI attempts for both age-releated and emotional reasons. So if this is what you really want, empty the piggy bank, run up the Visa card--be sure to put it on one that gets you airline miles :) Waiting in no way helps the odds, and each attempt has the same chances, so why not try "younger" and then if IUI doesn't work the next step could be looked at. Or head out to happy hour and buy a round of drinks --LOL.
Good luck to you! I hope January is the month :)
When I went through my donor IUI process (I'm also single mom ttc, 2nd child) all the husbands of my married friends asked me--why didn't I "just go get knocked up" and save myself the financial hassle. Honestly none of the guys thought it was any big deal--"don't ask, don't tell, stay anonymous". Probably not too different from my cryobank donor-LOL.
Well two things stopped me, one was my faith and the second was fear of STDs. I know what a financial burden the process can be, ALL my expenses were out of pocket also. I noticed you're an Oregon gal also, I don't know what clinic you are using ( I used OHSU) but I noticed they had some kind of third-party financing option that allowed smaller payments over time and some kind of partial refund if you didn't conceive (I didn't use it so I don't know the details).
The one thing that my fertility doc said and that I stood by --was that the sooner I could get pregnant the better. The idea was to work with the age-odds and not stretch out the IUI attempts for both age-releated and emotional reasons. So if this is what you really want, empty the piggy bank, run up the Visa card--be sure to put it on one that gets you airline miles :) Waiting in no way helps the odds, and each attempt has the same chances, so why not try "younger" and then if IUI doesn't work the next step could be looked at. Or head out to happy hour and buy a round of drinks --LOL.
Good luck to you! I hope January is the month :)
Lisa,
I think what you are doing is incredibly brave. DH and I have only been together a little more than 3 years. There were times when I asked myself, "If I never meet him, will I have a family on my own." In my mind I always thought that I would, but you never know when the time comes, if you really will. Like I said, I think you are incredibly brave and I have a ton of respect for you.
I will definitely pray for you.. Hopefully you will get a big wad of cash for Christmas. :)
I think what you are doing is incredibly brave. DH and I have only been together a little more than 3 years. There were times when I asked myself, "If I never meet him, will I have a family on my own." In my mind I always thought that I would, but you never know when the time comes, if you really will. Like I said, I think you are incredibly brave and I have a ton of respect for you.
I will definitely pray for you.. Hopefully you will get a big wad of cash for Christmas. :)
How nice of you to inquire about me when you have much to think about for yourself right now! I'm glad dh is being more supportive. He was probably just reacting out of the initial disappointment of missing Christmas with the family, but then came to his senses. We've all done that! Enjoy your bed rest as best you can!
For me, I would like to ttc in Jan. The plan is to have an HSG this coming cycle, then a mid-cycle u/s then IUI (with Clomid). However, I just checked my bank balance and don't know how I'm going to finance this one more month. It's just so expensive I've only been teaching a couple of years so I'm at the bottom of the pay scale. I'm very disappointed today about the financial hurdle. I'm just going to pray about it and leave it up to God because I'm powerless at this point.
I"ll be adding you to my prayers. Maybe you can say a prayer that I get a live sperm donor that makes deposits for free. lol.
Take care!
Lisa
For me, I would like to ttc in Jan. The plan is to have an HSG this coming cycle, then a mid-cycle u/s then IUI (with Clomid). However, I just checked my bank balance and don't know how I'm going to finance this one more month. It's just so expensive I've only been teaching a couple of years so I'm at the bottom of the pay scale. I'm very disappointed today about the financial hurdle. I'm just going to pray about it and leave it up to God because I'm powerless at this point.
I"ll be adding you to my prayers. Maybe you can say a prayer that I get a live sperm donor that makes deposits for free. lol.
Take care!
Lisa
Hi Lisa,
Things are going okay. The test came back positive for the protein so there was no question after that. We cancelled the trip. He is doing good. He felt bad about the whole thing and is being very helpfu.
I'm on strict bed rest now, so I haven't been getting on the computer hardly at all. Next week I'm gonna get my laptop from work so I can get on line from the couch/bed.
I went last night and got a steroid shot. I get another one tonight. I'm just hoping for the best. Keeping little guy inside as long as I can.
Thanks for thinking of me. Merry Christmas to you too!!
What are your next ttc plans?? I know you saw the new dr. When does the new plan start?
Things are going okay. The test came back positive for the protein so there was no question after that. We cancelled the trip. He is doing good. He felt bad about the whole thing and is being very helpfu.
I'm on strict bed rest now, so I haven't been getting on the computer hardly at all. Next week I'm gonna get my laptop from work so I can get on line from the couch/bed.
I went last night and got a steroid shot. I get another one tonight. I'm just hoping for the best. Keeping little guy inside as long as I can.
Thanks for thinking of me. Merry Christmas to you too!!
What are your next ttc plans?? I know you saw the new dr. When does the new plan start?
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