When did you tell everybody?

Question

Hey Guys, 

I am so very happy that I am now pregnant (not even three weeks) I have told my immediate family and one close friend, but I feel that I am keeping such a major secret from my other close friends. I know there is no right answer to this question, and that it is totally personal but I am just curious, when did you tell your close friends? Were you happy you shared. Were you fine with not sharing? I was thinking first of waiting till 3 months. Now I am thinking to tell after I see OB/GyN in a few weeks. I am terrible at keeping things in. Besides I feel so delighted, I want to share. On the other hand I know this is the precious time period when you want to make sure everything moves along healthily and hopefully no mc. 
Any thoughts, comments are appreciated. 
Emily

usuk · Answer

i say tell only those whose life will really be changed by knowing. once you have a HB the say the odds are good. i would keep it to those who both celebrate with you AND SUPPORT you and are in contact with you often. i told everyone at 12 or 13 weeks and at 14 i MC. it was really hard to get emails and voicemails weeks after the MC saying "congrats i just heard, etc" and I had to make them and myself feel ridiculously horrible. by all means you should be celebrating with DH!!!!!!

Tanker Chic · Answer

I have to tell.. I told everyone right away except for all the people I work with.  Close friends at work I did tell, but not the casual ones.  

The way I see it is even if I did have a m/c, I would tell all my friends about that too, so what was the big deal..  

Congrats to you!!

prevatt77 · Answer

It is a personal choice, because I swore everytime I got pregnant after my first miscarriage that I would wait until the 12 week mark before I told people again.  After having 4 miscarriage it was just hard having to go back and tell people that you weren't pregnant anymore.  But I never did learn and I told people very early each time, it's a very exciting part of your life and to try and keep it in is very very hard.

Maddiesmom0801 · Answer

First of all Congratulations darling. As almost everyone has mentioned, it is a very personal choice.  Due to my fertile yet non-productive pregnancy history, dh and I have made the decision to not tell anyone until we have reached 14-16 weeks.  By that time, I am sure I will be showing because when I was pregnant with my dear angel Madison Brianna I started showing at 11wks. At this time we will not only know our baby's gender but we will know if there are any abnormalities as well.  I am like a vault when it comes to keeping secrets so I have no problem with this, but if you feel like you are going to burst just let it out girlie.  This is just me and dh's decision because after each loss we have had to explain to each person we shared our news with and it hurts like hell. Still does. I pray your pregnancy remains healthy and happy.  Congratulations again!!!

SoCalTricia · Answer

Well, I'm a blabber-mouth...lol. Couldn't keep a secret to save my life. We told immediately family (my kids, our parents) the day the stick turned pink. Which would have been about 12 days after I ovulated. :-) I told everyone at work (we're pretty tight-knit) within a week or two.

As everyone else said, it's a personal decision. A lot depends on your own personality and, of course, your relationship with the people you're telling. So - long story short - this is YOUR call, birdie! :-)

Tricia

adgal · Answer

It is a very personal choice.  In my case, I start telling while in the 2WW.  I always say I'm going to keep it a secret, but it never happens.  And I start calling people from the first positive!!  And I mean I tell everyone!!  lol.  Congrats again on your pregnancy, and gl to you!!!

melimeli · Answer

with my third pg (first with this dh) he told everyone it was his first child! he told everyone the very day we tested +. I told no one.. not even my mom.... within a week I m/c... it was very sad and very hard for him to go back and tell everyone the bad news.. and then when he spoke with someone weeks after that didn't know about the m/c yet and they asked how the baby was doing it reopened everything... when I got pg again with my baby that is now 11months... he told his parents and I told mine but then we waited to tell everyone else until 3 months. heck I even waited to tell my dh about being pg until my I took 3 hcg tests and they were doubling.. I knew for 6 days before him. I always know I am pg right at the beginning... my hcg with my first test on this one was 17 and that was after a + pg test... (suuuupppeeerrr light + line) anyway it is great to share good news but very painful if you have to repeat telling everyone that something horrible happened...

PamelaBee · Answer

Congratulations on your pregnancy!  It is a personal choice...and I know how hard it is not to tell the world!  My 1st pregnancy I waited til after the 1st trimester, this pregnancy I blabbed to everyone the minute I got a BFP.  Some people are very cautious and superstitious about telling too soon, but really, it's totally up to you and your comfort level with revealing your good news!  Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!  Pam

Joyce49788 · Answer

birdie... it is a completely personal choice... some women feel that after they hit the 2nd trimester then they are out of the danger zone and can relax and inform everyone. some women go out and tell everyone as soon as that HPT comes up BFP... and others just go with the flow depending on thier own history. 

my own experiences... have all been differant... i have had 2 losses during the 2nd trimester (around 20-22 weeks) so alot of times i have waited to really get my hopes up until either i have passed that point OR i have started to feel movements... with this current pregnancy (36 weeks tomorrow) i told my other kids when i was about 8-10 weeks... but i didnt tell alot of other people until i was past the 20 week mark. and then again i didnt tell my father until about a month or so ago...lol... and then i had to tell him a few weeks later than my bf had left... so that was a real fun conversation.

anyhow it is whatever you are comfortable with.  if you want to tell the world NOW then go for it, or if you want to wait til you get to 3 months.. then that is ok too. it is your ballgame and you make the rules... 

good luck