When to try again

[wilcocarla]

I am 42, husband is 50. We had our 2nd IUI in June, positive pregnancy test July 9. Had a missed miscarriage. Went in for ultrasound and there was no heartbeat, baby had stopped growing at 6w3d (I was 7w1d at ultrasound). Had a D & C that afternoon. Was hysterical, am now depressed. Feeling desperate. Anyone know when it's safe to start trying again? Will try to conceive naturally until end of the year, then re-evaluate our options. Doing reproductive acupuncture, just started herbal supplements along with CoQ10 and B6.

[TCGirl]

With my first pregnancy I had a missed miscarriage, about the same timing as yours, and I was devesated.  We had waited to start trying and were so excited.  My doctor said she would recommend waiting for a few cycles, just so that timing would be easier to establilsh, but from a safety perspective it was okay to begin trying again.  We just went with it and didn't take any precautions and I was pregnany within a couple of months, which resulted in our beautiful little girl.  I recently got pregnant again and it was an ectopic that ruptured and left me with my left tube removed.  So from my experience, my most (and only) successful pregnancy was the one immediately after a m/c, so I say go for it.  I didn't read whatever cruel message was written, but I am sorry that you had to see that, dealing with a m/c is painful enough, no one derserves anything but kindness and understanding.

[Janmom2be]

try 3 to 4 months some wait 6

[Janmom2be]

)Hi I had three losses before (mc) and am now 16 weeks!  I took chasteberry herb tincture every day the month before we conceived three times a day in addition to compounded vaginal progesterone suppositories from the moment I ovulated twice a day for the first twelve weeks of pregnancy. I am 35

[ZoellysNicolle]

N im not and expert but i havent heard that a women older than 40 cant have a baby they can ot would be high risk but theres are lots of methods to help u have it so i wish u good luck and keep trying that i know u going to have ur bbu boy or girl or maybe both: -) (btw that was really rude what u said sept2013baby) as a matter a fact women can still jave baby any age they want while the havent lost theyre period yet wish u alot luck n i know U WILL B PREGNANT SOON GOD BLESS U

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[journey2motherhood]

I agree with cher01.  Everyone on the 35+ forum is on your side and more supportive.  There are many women on here who have either conceived naturally, or with the help of IUI,IVF or DE.  Regardless, they have a child to love.  Don't ever give up hope :-)  SSBD.

[manicsam]

I'm 42 and expecting my 3rd, conceived naturally.  I've had no problems and couldn't feel better. Don't give up,  good luck :)

[cher01]

Real 35+ are very supportive and i got so o much positive and amazing support from them. Sept comment is a 17 year old girl and does not represent the spirit of our forum.  Am sorry she hurt you- she is yet to be tempered by the life experiences. A big hug to you.

[wilcocarla]

To those of you who posted kind, positive responses - thank you. Seeing this post from Sep2013baby brought tears to my eyes and made me want to remove my post and forget about possibly receiving support from this forum. I don't understand how people can be so cruel. I thank the rest of you for being so kind.

[journey2motherhood]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Did you doctor not tell you when you can start again?  I ttc for 3 and half years so I know its frustrating.   I finally got pregnant with my twins after using Donor eggs.  I was 45 when I had my boys.  Don't give up - stay strong and I hope you soon get your BFP!

[Janbaby2]

Sorry for yourloss. I misscarried in Feb of this year at 6 wks, was devasting. My dr advised waiting a couple of cycles to make sure ur ovulating & no left over tissue. Best wishes