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Why would I have 2 miscarriages in a row?

I am 38 years old and just had my 2nd miscarriage. In fact, I haven't even had it yet. I went to the doctor 2 days ago to hear the baby's heartbeat. I was suppose to be 12 weeks pregnant. The doctor could not find a heart beat. The ultrasound showed the baby died at 6 weeks 4 days. I am devastated. I either have to wait for nature to take its course and my body to expel the pregnancy or I have to have a DNC. I had another miscarriage 6 months ago. That one happened right away, at 4 1/2 weeks. I do have one healthy daughter. I got pregnant with her when I was 35 and gave birth at 36. I can't help but wonder are my eggs to old now? I'm not sure. I really would like just one more child so my daughter will have a sibling but I'm afraid I'm never going to be able to have a baby again or that something will be wrong with the baby.
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First allow me to tell you how sorry I am about your miscarriages.  I can relate to what you are going through.   I myself had two miscarriages as well.  One in Feb of 08, and the other in Nov of 08.  I am now pregnant, and can't tell you how scare I am of miscarrying again.  However, I am keeping a good attitude knowing that all things are in God's hand.  I will not allow age to interfer with my hopes and dreams.  I have a saying that I always use, and that is if I am not as old as Sarah then I have a chance.  Because at her old age God blessed her with a child. God don't love Sarah no more then he love us.  Hold on to your faith, and things will work out in its timing.    I will keep you in my prayers.  Sending hugs your way...

Yolanda
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Lisa, I'm sorry for your losses. I have had 3, an early m/c, an ectopic, and most recently lost a son at almost 5 months along. I have also had those feelings and asked myself the same questions. I am 41 and ttc again. I'm trying to stay as positive as I can, but with each af I begin to give up and then I ask myself "how bad do you want this?" I know the answer to that question :) So I don't give up. Stay positive, don't give up and you will have your BFP soon! I wish you the best......Lori
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I am so sorry for your losses. I'm 38 as well, I recently had a m/c I was supposed to be 16 weeks along but when I went to my regular appt, they found no heart beat, our baby lost life at 12w5d. I had a natural m/c which was induced in the hospital. I know what you are feeling though. As I read your post and I've read similar ones, I get scared. Then, I become hopeful again. There are so many women on here in their 40's that are pg with healthy babies, we can't look at statistics. If you want another baby then I would talk to your dr. Maybe you could ask him/her to run a few tests to make sure there is nothing physically preventing you from carrying full term. Sometimes a dr will do blood work or other testing if you express your concerns. Either way, try not to worry about it too much, you're going through enough right now. I will keep you in my prayers, that all will go well and you will find some answers.
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I am very sorry about your miscarriages.  I know this is very hard, devastating and heart breaking, plus a number of many other adjectives!!  It sounds like you weren't expecting this to happen and I know that it probably was a huge shock.  So I am sorry you are going through this!!!!

I'm sure you're aware that fertility declinces in your 30s and after 35 it's a lot harder to get pregnant and stay pregnant.  You just have to keep trying.  Yes you are older and yes your eggs are older and this is going to be a challenge, but you will get a good egg if you keep at it!  I know this is shocking but after you read more about getting pregnant in your 30s and 40s you will see that it's just harder than in your 20s.  Unfortunately there becomes an issue age and that's egg quality which translates to embryo quality.  You didn't miscarry because of anything you did.  And you are by no means at this point at the end of your rope!  Just keep at it!!!  I started trying to get pregnant at 40 and had 5 miscarriages.  I'm sure due to my age.  But you've got a couple of good years left!!
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I'm so, so sorry you're going through this. As the others said...just don't give up. Honestly, fertility and egg quality DO decline as you age...but 38 just isn't all that old. Plenty of women have healthy pregnancies well past your age. Have you talked to your doctor about it? Maybe your MD can do some testing to see if there's some other issue you haven't identified yet. Anyway...I'm sure it's difficult right now...but keep your chin up and try to stay positive. Don't give up! It will happen for you. Keeping you in my thoughts...

Tricia
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I am very sorry to hear about your m/c's...My heart goes out to you.  I also had 3 m/c's within a 3 year span starting at age 36.  My last one was the same as yours....went in for my 12 week checkup and no hb...the baby passed away at 9 weeks.  My heart really goes out to you b/c just thinking about it just brings back so many emotions for me.  I am now 39 and am 26 weeks along.  So please don't give up....our doc told us that it would be a matter of time and we would get a good egg and good spem to connect....and it happened for us.  Just keep the faith.  
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I too m/ced.  3 of them before I was 30 and the other two when I was 34.  I have an amazing 8 year old little girl.  The dr.s could find a "reason" for my losses and told me I was in no danger if I continued to try.  This time, I did acupuncture, drank (and still drinking) pregnancy tea 2 - 3 times a day, gained 8 lbs before I got pregnant, took progesterone for the first 12 weeks, baby aspirin every night and took Clomid to hopefully produce and drop the more mature healthy eggs.  I am now 23 weeks along with what seems to be a very healthy little girl.  I am still nervous every day but now that I have been feeling her jump and move, it sets my mind at ease.  Best of luck...
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I am so sorry to read your story and everyone else who has been through the same thing. I had a miscarrage (miscarriage) and its just heartbreaking.
Please see if they can do any analysis as to why it happened. They can now check if you have a D&C if there are any clues. Its worth a try.
Also I don't think its your eggs and your age - I think you will probably find yourself third time lucky.
Take time to heal and be easy on  yourself and remember you are only 38 and you will have a baby someday.
hugs
Tivey
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Hi Lisa,
I am so sorry you having a difficult time right now. You're not alone, we have the same story. I am 37 and had my 2nd m/c 5 weeks ago. I also have an 8 year old son. My first m/c was very early like yours and the second one was at 10 weeks and the baby stop growing as early as 8 weeks. I didn't lose hope to ttc again, but I am a bit scared that it would happen again. I will try one more time, but still waiting for my period to come back. There are lots of women in this forum who had a successful pregnancy after m/c and deliver a healthy baby. Did your doctor asked to have some test? My doctor didn't asked any test yet, he just said it was a pure bad luck. Don't give up!
Etts
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Good Morning,

I too have had 4 bad pregnancies...after extensive bloodwork, they found out I am homozygous MTHFR, which can cause bloodclots.  I am to use lovenox at ovulation.  Now, unfortunately, I can't seem to get pregnant.  Please ask your doctor to run your bloodwork.  If I had known I would likely have a healthy baby by now :(  I wish you the best.  I know this is so incredibly painful.

xoxo,
Heather
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I'm so sorry Lisa.  I too have experienced multiple miscarriage, and I know how upsetting it is.  Just know there is nothing you did or did not do. Unfortunately, sometimes these things happen, and often there is no explanation for it.  My OB is very encourging, and I am 40!  We can do this, we just need to keep trying. I am so sorry, I know the pain you are in.  Take good care.
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Congratulations on your pregnancy and I pray that you give birth to a healthy baby. It's so funny that you bring up Sarah. As I was reading your comment, my eyes filled with tears. When I came back from the doctor Monday night and I laid in bed crying trying to figure things out, I started talking to God. Part of me was mad at him, which I know I shoudn't have been but I was still in the moment. I was asking him why he would let this happen to me. After I had the miscarriage in September 2008 and I got pregnant this time, I prayed to him Dear God please don't let it happen again. I could not handle to in a row. And what happened, 2 in a row and this time it's worse because the baby hasn't come out yet. Anyway, I laid in bed crying wondering if God did not mean for me to have anymore children, maybe I'm too old, etc. and all of a sudden something said "If I could do it for Sarah, why wouldn't I do it for you?" Then I read your comment and I feel like it's God confirming to me that it doesn't matter your age. Anyway, think you so much for your comment. I see a small bit of hope now.
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Thank you for your prayers. When I talked to my doctor Monday evening after the ultrasound, he said all of my blood tests were fine and that even though I'm 38 he doesn't put me in the "high risk" category because of my health. I have worked out for the past 20 years. I jog 20 miles per week, etc. I don't smoke or drink. He said I'm extremely healthy and that there is probably not an underlying issue. Anyway, I don't know. After the first miscarriage in September 2008, I was worried I caused it somehow so when I got pregnant in December 2008, I cut my exercise way back and was extremely careful about anything I did and it still happened. Thanks so much for your concern. I pray that you become pregnant soon and that you have a healthy pregnancy and baby.
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Lisa - if you have any doubts or concerns at all about continuing to miscarry, you might want to consult a fertility specialist.  I don't know if that's who you're already seeing or if it's a regular ob but re's (reproductive endocrinologists) can diagnose issues that a regular doctor can't.  It's just a thought - so many of us miscarry but w/two in a row, it might not hurt to just check it out.  All the best to you - jen
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Dear Lisa,
My heart goes out to you. As Jen said, an RE can do more extensive tests than a regular doctor can.  I've had 3 losses in a row and only now an RE had diagnosed me with antibodies that may be contributing to these losses.

Take care and have faith.  
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Yes, to say the least, I was not expecting this at all. I went into my 2:45 doctor's appt. on Monday with my tape recorder in hand. It's the same tape I recorded my daughter's heartbeat on when I was pg with her. If I had expected it a little or maybe had the miscarriage at home, it wouldn't have been as shocking but I left the doctor's office in a fog. I hope you're right and I am able to have one more healthy child.
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I just wanted to say a heartfelt "Thank You" to all of you. You are all so sweet and supportive and it helps to hear all of the different stories. Thank you for taking the time to respond to me. For me personally, I don't want to be raising children in my 60's so I am only going to try for the rest of this year. If I don't get a good connection by then, I will have to move on. I am praying that does not happen but I can't even start trying because this baby that's in me now hasn't decided to come out yet. My doctor is going to have my HCG levels tested again next Tuesday. If they are not decreasing fast enough, he will schedule the DNC. I hope the baby passes before then.
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im 38 yo as well. got pregnant after trying 4 months but miscarried at 7 weeks, hard to believe i will get pregnant again, seemed like a miracle
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Lisa9267,  just wondering if you have an update that you would like to share with us?  I wanted to pitch in my two cents and say to definitely keep trying :)  You age may make things a little more of a challenge but not impossible by any means.
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I too am wondering if you have any updates. It seems as though we spend out 20's not trying to get pregnant, wanting our careers to flourish and achieving our dreams and our 30's wondering what in the world is going on?
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Well said.  I completely agree.  Times are so much different than when our parents were young.  Getting married at 20 and first baby by 22 was the norm.  Now it seems almost the opposite.
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i know how you feel, i had a boy the first time we tried to get pregnant without any complications whatsoever, i was 32 , i am now 36 years old and had three miscarriages in a row since january, not sure what's going on , i've had a vaginal infection for the past four months that just won't go away (i've had strond amonia (ammonia) discharges) despite three diferent treatments, not sure if this is the cause, now i'm afraid to try again. anybody has had this amonia (ammonia) smelly discharge ?
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I am going the later part of my 2nd miscarriage. I lost my 1st ever pregnancy April 18th, 2011 .. I had only known for a week.  had been sicker than a dog..between the pregnancy and the miscarriage i lost about 25lbs.. i slipped into a real dark place after my 1st one. i mean I still had to function, but my inner emotions were all over, not to mention the father had walked out when I found out I was pregnant...but he was there thru the miscarriage..and we got back together. then 4 months later I found out I was pregnant and he walked out again a week before I knew to be with his ex.. I chose not to tell him until he clontacted me..cause I didnt want to stress myself out since I had the prev. misscarriage. I found out I was pregnant really early at 3wks 4days...@ 6wks 3days I had my U/S and I got to see a strong heartbeat of 130.. I was so relieved and happy ..tears of joy ... I the made the decision to tell my mom, and the father contacted me that day..to appoligize on how he left..I informed him.. he was speechless.. as the days went by and my belly grew..the symptoms wre there and some had faded.. I felt to good..I did hae a cold which I ran a feer a few times..took only Tylenol and I had been so good no caffiene..I didnt smoke to begin with ..been eating healthy , it. everything.. I went in for my next appointment at 10wks 3 days and my mom went with me to hear the heartbeat...an sadly nothing.....the dr. was like that is not un common for us not to hear it...that other noise is the baby moving. I didnt care about that I wanted to hear a heartbeat..I knew one existed already  so find it... the Dr. was going to wait another week , however I couldnt so I was scheduled for an U/S the next morning 10/20/11 and it showed that the heart and development stopped at 8wk5days :( I was devastated... that meant I had been carring around a dead baby for 2 weeks.. I was so broken ..lost everything..I had been leftby the father 2x both when pregnant and both resulted in me losing our baby..MY BABY..that I have wanted my whole life.. I was scheduled for a D&C on the following Thursday 10-27-11 however never made to it on the night of 10/23/11 I started bleeding ended up losing everything seeing it all and I loss way to much blood ( clotts as big as a live about 9 of them along with liquid..it was bad, I was admitted in the hospital and was close to needing a transfusion..but did not need too..thank you GOD.. It has been a week and I am still bleeding, and out of work. I try and not slip into a complete dark place again..and I try and stay positive.. I understand that God has a plan for me, and that the baby must have had issues..but it is still so painful. and to know that I am 35 and have to start all over with a guy and all...or take a dif route.
My dr. is scheduling a workup for my chromosones to be sure I am ok to carry a baby to term... It just rips your heart out... I am lost attimes, and I have been on bed rest since the incident and living alone ..home all these hrs can really test your Faith in God..cause sometimes all I do is think of the baby..babies I have lost!!!  I just want another chance and I hope and pray and give my self to the lord that he will give me that chance and that all will work out!! my heart goes out to all of you!!! Go bless Our babies!!!!  We will hold them one day!!!
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I am 37. I've lost five pregnancies. Two of them were in my 20s, then I had a healthy perfect son at age 30. He is now 7 years old. I had another miscarriage at age 33, then another at age 35, then another at age 36. I am pregnant right now, almost nine weeks, and I admit that I'm preparing for it to happen again. I should add that I do conceive very easily--each time it happened on the first try. I just can't seem to carry them to term. None of them were explained except for the first one, which turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy. Here I am in the waiting stages. If I make it to twelve weeks it will be a miracle.
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Hi im 26 iv had 4 healthy preg that went full term I recently had a mc at 7 weeks in march 18 then found out I was preg again in october the 14 then started bleedin the 23rd of october mc october the 26. At 5 weeks im not sure y this is happening will it keep happening to me can any1 help plz
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I know what u all have been thru... I too have had two miscarriages within six months. I am petrified something is wrong with me ( although I already have one healthy three yr old girl) the dr will not do tests until after three miscarriages . I will start trying again this month but am scared it will happen again . My first happened June of this year ( missed miscarriage at ten weeks) and second was sept of this yr... Triplet blighted ovums . Just looking for some hope!
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I know what u all have been thru... I too have had two miscarriages within six months. I am petrified something is wrong with me ( although I already have one healthy three yr old girl) the dr will not do tests until after three miscarriages . I will start trying again this month but am scared it will happen again . My first happened June of this year ( missed miscarriage at ten weeks) and second was sept of this yr... Triplet blighted ovums . Just looking for some hope!
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