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[lovemya]

I am 23 weeks pregnant and the father has suddenly disappeared. I have been very sad and scared not that I'm looking at the moment but I am 42 and afraid that I will never find a man that will accept the baby.

[PurpleJ]

I totally agree w monique, once the baby is here u won't have time to think about the man or life from his perspective. Ur main concern will be the well being of your child so just enjoy that . Surround yourself w positive people too

[Monique2032]

I say focus on you & your new bundle of joy . Once your baby gets here, he or his MIA appearances will no longer be relevent to you. You main concern will be the baby.

[kjskibum]

My parents were divorced, and my mom suffered from low self esteem and depression, mostly centered around her belief that if she did not have a man in her life, that she was a failure. As a kid it was miserable to have her corner us and obsessively question myself and sister on every aspect of my father and his new wife when we came home from visiting them. She would vry and say how lonely she was....and I would tell mommy that she was not alone, that she had me and my sister, and then she would cry harder. Mom got pregnant with us to try to "hang onto a man". Dad did not want to be with her and left her, but he was very involved in our lives weekly, and paid support and extras when needed. Mom today admits she should have allowed Dad to have primary custody...She used us to feed her obsession with him. She resented us because she felt we were in her way of finding herself a man to Love Her. I wish mom would have gotten an education, career, self esteem, believed in her ability to make it on her own, and lobed herself BEFORE dating, marriage, and pregnancy. I am 43, never dated men from my infustry, paid my own way through college in my 30's, started dating men who were nice and wanted to be with me who I did not have to chase,trick, or trap into being with me. I am 43, director of a company with $20M in contracts each year, just married my BF of 5 years (Who like me, dated people with kids but has none if own bloodline) and we are pregnant with our first child. Hopeful I carry to term and have a healthy baby! I know in my heart I am prepared to be a better mom then mine was. Love Yourselves Ladies#

[38nprego]

I have five children although 4 are over 18 but my husband found me in march 9 2013 we were engaged june 17th 2013 and married March 30 2014 I know its fast but we were both praying for a God fearing mate neither of us was having sex or seeing anyone at the time trust the Lord and be still pray for your husband but more so be obedient to the father and he will make a fairy tale come true I'm a witness I got a handsome loyal good man.still can't believe it, he's coming yall

[lovemya]

Thank you all for the encouraging words. He has contacted me and wants to come back but I am not to sure if I want to deal with him. He has alot of issues that he isn't willing to get help for. He says he loves us but his actions are the total opposite. My family hates him and I feel caught in the middle of it. Idk I will pray and put it in gods hands.

[MommaHoney7]

There are good men out there and you'll see it right away. Pray about it pray for that person. god will put it in your heart.

[MommaHoney7]

Listen lady's I if anyone understand.. I have 6 kids an I am 24 weeks prego the father to my unborn is not the father to any of. My 6. He is 6 years younger then me a personal trannier 6.5 and a. Wooping 260 lbs. God will bless you with the. RIGHT man like he did me. Go to church get involved before you know it god will send you good things the windows of heaven will open up for you. If ruff, super emotional, but once you decided to to accept that your blessing coming. Its on the way. Don't get stuck in old past emotion. If he left let him go there's someone SO DO SPECIAL already praying for exactly for you and your children.. God bless You!! Be excitied.... God see what your going throw he won't let you down

[Dessi88]

I completely understand how yu feel. Although the father of this baby is still around somewhat, I don't feel connected to him as I once did and can't see myself with him in the future. We were engaged and she was planned but things have gone downhill fast. I have a 5 year old and was with her dad for 4 1/2 years until we split. Now I feel like no one is going to want to deal with me with 2 kids. I have to sometimes think that there is a man out there that will love me so much that accepting my daughters won't be a problem at all. He will accept them as his own and I will finally be happy. But until then I will just focus on my girls and let the man of my dreams find me. And I have confidence that he will at the perfect moment...I wish yu luck and please know that there are men that are willing to accept a child that is not his and if yu find yourself with a man who doesn't he is not the one for yu.

[TMMB]

I'm very sorry for what your going through, and can imagine that you feel very lonely and fearful of what your future holds. Prayers.