close to due date baby name help....

[teenmamaof2]

So I like the name Amaya Sophia but idk what to do for the last name my last name is Cruz and her dads last name is Horne my son is named after h so has his last name were not together so idk if I should just give her his last name so its the same as her brothers or my last name or maybe both... any ideas she will be here soon!

[makebaby]

I agree with anniebrooke if he's not going to play an active role in you or baby's life & your not married then why give baby his last name? Doesn't matter if siblings have 2 different surnames there's millions of children in the world with different surnames.
If its for child support purposes then he had to do DNA to determine he's the father even if not on birth certificate.
If you want things mutual then give baby both his & your surname

[AnnieBrooke]

$80 and an ad in the paper does not sound very burdensome.  In your shoes I would certainly give the baby your own last name, though not failing to put the dad's name on the birth certificate for all the legal reasons.  Then I would suggest you also go about changing your son's last name.  This way, the family that is going to go on from here, i.e., the three of you, all have the same name and identity.

[Jennirorick]

Your last name. Makea things much easier. My baby dad was going to change his last name when we were engaged so I would havw his stepdads last name was gonna be like 80$ and ti have an ad in the paper for 30 daya explaining y... that was nd. Go to your courthouse they should be able to tell you the specifics in your area! Good luck!

[AnnieBrooke]

But this is the guy who is in prison for domestic violence, and is not going to be with her even when he is out.  Are you sure about your recommendation?  There is nothing wrong with writing him on the birth certificate for later reasons of support (if he ever gets out and is an earner) but giving the child the mother's name.

[angelab2012]

I've got kids from different dad. And with all the legal bologna i think it's easiest and best to give them His last name instead of changing your sons last name and all kinds of work.   Also if you go for support etc they've got his name. I've been thru alot think that's the best way. Good luck :)

[teenmamaof2]

Ok thank you for the advice

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't know, but if money is really tight, you would not have to do it now.  You could do it in a year or whenever.  Also, go to a legal services clinic, either a poverty-law clinic or a clinic run by a law school.  They don't charge their clients if the client is under a certain income level, and they can also sometimes get the court to waive fees.  Not saying the court would do so for every fee, but it helps.

[teenmamaof2]

He's not paying child support he dont even have a job. And no we were never married but if I change my sons last name how much would that cost roughly?

[AnnieBrooke]

If you weren't ever married to the dad, I'd consider changing your son's last name to Cruz and then naming the baby Cruz as well, to comport with reality.  But you should get legal advice if your ex is paying child support.