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doing it alone

Ok so I'm doing it alone the daddy has not been around or came to 1 dr app so I know I will b a single mom which their nutn wrong with that my mom raised 3 alone.  So I know I can handle it but I just wish I had someone on my side.. this is my first n he has 5 I really screwed up there I know but I'm 26 so I consider it a blessing. He hasn't asked when I'm due or anything all's he's about is gossip n he said he tryd to get me preg on purpose just to say I'm his bm but now he's no where in sight... then when I seen him wlkn after 7 mnths he ho say do I got more stuff for the baby I'm like yea of course n he go tell necrosis send pic of the stuff I got.. I'm like yea OK then he wlkd of.. I'm tld myself y wuld I send pictures of stuff I bought. He should b sending me stuff he bought then I see him walking the nxt day n he say I didn't get no pic I'm like show didn't n he called me a ******* n walked away.. Shame I Snyder like to argue so I brush things off anyway long rant but I know I'll b doing it alone only 3 days left
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Ty ladies n Latin that really helps I just went the best n nutn but. N yea I'm independent also n gona stay that way but I relized the baby needs help from both forced or not. My child is a blessing from God. He's here for a purpose so I'm not going to worry about the father. He also stalks me on social media threw friends that y I'm scared to post anything about the baby like when I'm due or when he's here pictures.. people that I thought were friends were spys had to learn the hardest. But I'm blessed n I have my mother here to help me so she's all I need..thanks a bunch
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Oh by the way, why is this post in 35+? Usually 35+ ftm don't deal with this kind of mess.
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I seriously cannot understand anything you said, but I did get the point of you doing it alone. That's sad. Me, I'm a super independent woman, but without my husband and mother in laws, omg, I would go into a deep dark depression. I'm so lucky. I don't think 26 is that old, but you are right, it is a blessing. Best to focus on the positive. I know you can do it and do it without him, especially if you said your mom raised 3, single? She's a strong woman, be like her and do your thang.
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Let me Give you the Best Advice Possible and share my Story! First off this Baby is a blessing from God . God makes no Mistakes. I Am 27 Ftm i am abt to Deliver my precious son any day now. My childs father lost his mother last yr. 3 months later i got pregnant. I have been involved with this Man for over 8 yrs. You would think this dude would be mature and step up he is 31 and not to mention he has other kids. Previous. But neway he put me thru Hell. Facebook all social networks just harrassing me makeup Bs just a Reason to talk to me keep Tabs instead of being Positive. Do Not Let your Babydaddy do this to you. Your baby is way more important and you need to be stress free. I had to block him & my mother even got involve. His friends still Lurk even now i dont let it bother me . This is his first Born Son. Yes im putting him on child support not for revenge but jus bc i am not rich he needs to contribute if he doesnt o well. Hopefully things get better but Im not gonna depend on the system i have a career. But honey stay Blessed keep ya head up god has a plan n trust anyone that denies or abandons their child will be punished. Hope this helps
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Thanks ladles I know that if a person cares they would show it. So I'm going to do what's best n move forward n not look back. I mean he can see the child just not take him as of now. Cuz I know that's what he'll try to do..
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I didn't tell my sons father when I went into labor with him. Figured if he really wanted to be involved then he would have made a bigger effort through the whole pregnancy. He'll be a father when it's convienent for him, by then it will be too late. Stay strong mama! You got this. :)
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Well me and my ex fiance was together for 8whole years... we tried to get pregnant for 8years never happened I found out he was cheating and broke up with him I explained to him that that was unacceptable and told him he should leave. I have custody of his 8year old daughter she stayed with me. He works out of town... he attend may be three appointments but deep down on the inside im still hurt so I rather him not attend thank god he always be at work.. we don't talk but I still have his bank card and he pays all the bills I don't work this is my first biological child im 24years old he 27 HES NOT HERE I PHYSICALLY AND I WISH HE WAS BUT HES NOT SO I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND WHERE U COMMING FROM FINANCIALLY HES HERE WE ARE VERY WELL TOOKEN CARE OF BUT WHEN YOUR PREGNANT YOU NEED UR BD THERE PHYSICALLY
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OK thanks alot... I need the advice since this my first child.  But I'm happy as of now and am going to stay positive...
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No. I'd surround yourself with people who love and support you and get someone to call him and tell him when you have had the baby. Everything on your terms. You're in control and what you say should go! Don't shut him out completely but just give him information only. You deserve the best with no negativity to drain you!!
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And if the guy dosent care would u tell him when u go in labor...
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Yes thank you guys for the advice I'm leaning towards child support now it's only rght for my baby.. He deserve all the help with or without a dad.. I'm sure in the future it'll make him stronger because I will teach him well..2days left n ready for him to come out..
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I agree 100% with lady_panama about the child support. It's for your wee one. If you really don't want to use it then put it into a savings account and give it to your child when they reach 18 or when you choose. I can't do without my child support, little as it is and my 2 boys still realise their dad is not interested in them. They've came to that conclusion themselves. They're 14 and 17. You can do this mama! You're stronger on your own than dragging a deadweight with you :-)
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You don't have to have any contact with him to get the child support. But the child support is for you to give your baby the best that you can directly with diapers, clothes, etc or indirectly by moving to a better neighborhood or school system. Its for the car of the child, who cares what he has to say, you want the best for your baby.
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I'm doing it alone as we'll. the baby daddy left me when I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant. I told him it was his and said he wanted a test to prove it then if it is his he's going to take her from me. I'm 27&4 now, never heard anything since then so I know I'm going to raise this child myself. But I have 2 other kids who going to help mommy out and my family as we'll. don't worry about him just take care of urself and the baby and you will do fine. Good luck
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I wasnt even go bother with him at all.. I hate when guys go around n say there paying child support so there taking care of the child.  Or I'm using the money on this n that.. I'd rather him go his way since he's already doing that.. I'm lost on what's best to do really.
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You just make sure you get child support from him. He wanted to get you pregnant then he disappeared, he at least needs yo be held financially responsible. It takes two, he needs yo pay his part especially since he is not providing anything for the baby.
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I'm not even go tell him when I have the baby he'll find out on his own of threw FB..cuz he got people spying.. shoot I'm n III t even the one that tld him I was pregnant the streets did friends that I thought were my friends...
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I'd rather just b distant than to argue.
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