how long should i wait before tryimg for a baby

[tippins]

I recently lost my son at 39 weeks , iwent into labour as normal  but found out when i arrived at hospital   there was no heart beat, it had stoped around two hours before labour and the pain was due to a tear in my placenta which had bled out ,  we had been trying to conceive for 17 years and 8 miscarriges laetr and two ectopics  we finally got pregnat through ivf    we were totally devastaed  , its been 4 weeks now since we buried our son  how long should i wait before resuming sex.

[Super_sally888]

Dear Tippins,

I am so sorry about your loss and can only imagine how devastated you must be.

I think it would probably be ok to start trying again once your menstruation comes back.

You should also be guided by your obstetrician.  

Welcome here and hope we can support you well.

[Super_sally888]

Oh, sorry, I think i misread your question.  You can resume sex again once it is comfortable for you to do so.  I think usually it is about 4 weeks.

[sue68]

I am so so sorry for your loss - I told dh about your post and we can't imagine what you're going through.  

I would think that you could start again after waiting a cycle .  Good luck to you , you're in my thoughts.  

[kristine625]

I am truly sorry to hear about that.  I would say it is o.k. to start again when your body and mind are ready.   i.e. at least one menstrual period.   But the best thing to do is talk with your doctor.  He/she may have some thoughts on that - if your body needs more time to heal inside he may say wait a little longer.  It might depend on what your body sustained physically during this ordeal.  

[dot247]

I am sorry for your loss! hopefully your heart and body guide you in the right direction.  I would say to resume sex when you and your doctor feel it is best for you.  best of luck in the future!

[Preciouspg]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I pray you will be blessed with the healing, strength and wisdom you need to move forward.  Know you will be blessed with your hearts desire when the time is right.  GOD BLESS!!!

[SoCalTricia]

I am so, so deeply sorry for your loss. I can relate only too well. I don't think there is a definate time that it is "okay" to resume sex. I think that, medically speaking, it can be as soon as it is comfortable for you and you have stopped bleeding. Emotionally it will have to be when you are ready. My husband and I lost our precious 8-week-old son two months ago. I don't know if it will be the same for you...but the first time we tried to make love after our son died, I became very emotional and started crying. Just wait until you're totally ready.

Good luck...you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Tricia

[boogie21]

I TOO LOST A BABY ON SEPT 12TH 2009 , AND LET ME TELL U , IM STILL GOING THRU HARD TIMES LOSING MY SON... THIS IS MY 3RD M/C AND I WAITD ABOUT 1MONTH TO 2  BEFORE I STARTD TRYING...  I THINK IF ITS GODS WILL IT WILL HAPPEN WHETHER U WAIT OR NOT... GOOD LUCK TO U ON GETTING PREG!