I am so, so sorry - I know how miserable you must be. I an 14 weeks pregnant and have something similar but not exactly. I have symphis pubis dysfunction - it started as right groin pain and then spread to the entire pelvic area after a CVS procedure because I was in stirrups too long. Did yours get worse after delivery? That is often the case. You very well may have osteitis pubis, but it is a little unusual that it is only on the right side (or is the pain in the entire pelvic area and just the swelling and redness on the right side). All I can say is that I have found western medicine to be a little lacking in cases like these, and I am a scientist so I am not generally anti-western medicine, believe me. I just got tired of people not knowing and then assuming this was in my head or normal "aches and pains" of pregnancy, when I can barely walk at 14 weeks. I have had to do a ton of research on my own and have ended up with more help from physical therapy, orthobionomy, and accupuncture. Orthobionomy is like a combo between phsyical therapy and chiropracters. The idea is that if pelvic misaliggnment is causing the pain, then very gentle manipulations can realign, combined with exerises to help keep it aligned and the stengthen other supporting muscles. Chiropracters can also help but my people say that they often make realiggnmetns too roughly and too quickly, plus chiropracter in general make me nervous. Where do you live? I can ask my bionomy person if she knows anyone in your area. The only catch is that it is not covered under insuranc - but I was so desperate.
My best guess is that you might have something going on in addition to the osteitis pubis, but if it is not a systemic infection (your bloodwork would have shown that), then your best bet is first focusing on treating the pain and getting your pelvis back in shape - then you can see if the redness and swelling go away.
If ice packs help, try filling condoms with water and freezing, then they are the perfect shape to put against your vagina inside your underwear. Try epsom salts baths as well.
I wish you the best of luck.
yuck...i hope they figure it out...
I'm sorry that I can't be of help but I do wish you lots of luck. It sounds terrible.