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my husbands brother tattooed my unborn childs name on him

I'm not entirely sure why its bothering me so much.
I feel like throughout my whole pregnancy he has been belittling my husband because my husband was having trouble finding a steady job after work slowed down for him. He's always saying things like "my niece is going to have everything she needs when her Tio is around" in all reality he's not very stable himself. On top of that, him and my husband got into this huge argument about two weeks ago & he said some hurtful things about us and they haven't spoken since. So this whole tattoo thing really caught us by surprise. We're thinking about changing the spelling of her name. Would that be uncalled for? I feel like he should've asked first.. And I think if we just not say anything he'll think he has some type of control over our daughter. Is he stepping on our toes or am I hormonal ?
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I would talk to him about it and tell him that he should have waited anyways because what if you guys did decide to change the name..And ultrasound isn't always right what if you ended up having a boy.. Just a little weird he would do it before the baby is even born.
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Obviously ur Latin or Mexican too so I guess not all families r like mine n the innes I grew up around but I'm used to that stuff
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Since u said Tio it's a Latin family. There's a lot of pride and strong love for family especially wen a baby is coming. I know cuz I grew up in this. I wouldn't take too much offense to it. My friends Anthony treats his niece as if that were HIS daughter he has her name on him. I guess it's more of if ur used to that way of life.but it comes from pride (which can b bad) and love
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It is weird since the baby isn't here.

is it the first niece?

If you like the name, why change it?

My friend had her nieces name tattooed on her.
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Wtf. That is so damn weird. Its not even his kid to get her name. And she's not even born yet so how does he know that will be her name for sure ya know?!  U guys could change it last minute and then what? I say change the name and show him whos boss. He's an idiot for doing that and needs a reality check. Its not his kid and needs to chill with the drama. Who the hell does that?! Lol wow
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A friend of mine has her niece's name tattooed on her arm - I think it's a beautiful tribute made out of love. Just because he has the tattoo doesn't mean you can't set limits and restrict contact if necessary - you're still the parent, that's still well within your rights - but if you had already decided on a name I think it would be unnecessarily spiteful to change it just to stick it to your baby's uncle. Have a talk with him about how some of his comments have made you feel uncomfortable and let him know you're still in charge. He'll figure it out.
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Family especially siblings are the only ppl in the world that really know how to get under our skins. I'm not condoning what was said but I'm quite sure they will speak again like nothing ever happened because that's what siblings do. He's just as excited as you all are not sure if this is his first Neice but it seems like he wants to be there too and be apart of her life. I dnt see anything wrong with him getting that tattoo however he should of made sure he had the spelling correct n that was the name you all planned on sticking with.
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The fact that he's blood does not make him family - in my opinion, family wouldn't do anything like that...not after the snide comments and whatnot. I'm the type that would change her name or at the very least the spelling of her name. He seems to be trying to one up your husband and that isn't a good sign for the future. It could confuse her or it could cause some serious tension (more than it sounds like there already is) between your husband and brother (and eventually, the rest if the family) which could eventually cause a rift in the family. He needs to be talked to and he needs to be shown that his actions aren't appreciated in the slightest.
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I think u should just leave ur name!if thats what u and ur partner first agreed with dont let anyone step between that, just set down ur boundaries!after all u guys are still family no matter what!:-)
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I think it's a little strange. I would be uncomfortable if my bf brother did something like that.
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I know what you mean! Its not like he did something 'wrong' but it does rub the wrong way.  Should def have waited to make sure that's the name you guys go with but that was his gamble! Sounds like he was kind of trying to show up your husband by this 'declaration of commitment' .. Did your husband ever mention getting a tat himself? Its like stealing the thunder sort of. :/  
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Its your baby and your family. They have no say so either.
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Its your baby and your family. They have no say so either.
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He's such a mommas boy and my in-laws are so opinionated.
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^^^^crazy thing is I agree! I have a territorial personality. I would hate someone doing this to me in your situation!
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I wouldn't change it. I would talk to him let him know how i feel and let him know if he wants to be in his nieces life he better start coming and asking before he acts. And quit being disrespectful...
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That's just creepy. I would be very offended if that was me. I'd also change her name.
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If I were in your position I'd change my childs name. I'm not saying you shouldn't name her the name you picked, but if it were me I'd name her something completely different. But thats just how I am :)
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