no heartbeat at 6 weeks and 4 days.

[heemee]

Hi everyone, I am 6weeks and 4 days pregnant and i had a transvaginal ultrasound today they saw the sac and the fetus but could not find a heartbeat. Should I be worried or is it maybe to early to detect the heart beat? I'm a nervous wreck at this point, we have been trying for 2 years to get pregnant and now no heartbeat!!!! I go back on Monday the 19th to get another u/s. Please pray for us that they see a heartbeat.

[BlessedMama0f2]

I am sorry for your loss hun and if you do try again best of luck to you and bless you

[BlessedMama0f2]

Yes you should have seen a heartbeat and the first ultrasounds are around 6 weeks!!

[worththewait78]

I am SO sorry for your loss. SO. SORRY.  We lost our first pregnancy between 6 and 7 weeks along.  It was absolutely the most emotionally traumatizing thing I had experienced.  We had been trying for a year to conceive.  What I have to say next isn't to discourage you.  But I want you to know that it's not necessarily going to be an easy road from here on out.  We started trying to conceive again right away.  But YEARS went by and we just weren't able to get pregnant again.  Four years after the miscarriage, we adopted our beautiful baby boy (who is now 2).  He was the miracle we'd been waiting for!  We still kept trying to get pregnant and finally, decided one last shot - to try IVF.  Our first round of that failed, but we had one little embryo that made it through the freeze/thaw process and we implanted him and now - SIX YEARS after our miscarriage - I am miraculously 35 weeks pregnant!!

I guess I tell you this to let you know that it's up to you to know when to start trying again.  But I'm really grateful that we started trying right after because I had no clue it would take years to be able to get pregnant again.  Almost everyone we told about the miscarriage would say something like, "Well, at least you know you CAN get pregnant."  And/or "You'll for SURE be pregnant again within a year."  For us, those things just weren't true.  

It's important for you to grieve. And to mourn your loss.  There are many miscarriage support groups out there.

For me, talking about it and being an advocate for pregnancy loss was what got me through.  

LOTS of love to you.  LOTS OF LOVE.

[MAMAS330]

I'm so sorry for your loss this happened to me as well. It took me two years to come to terms with it here is a quote that I love to read that comforts me.... God Bless!

"An angel in the book of life wrote down my baby's birth.
Then whispered as she closed the book "too beautiful for earth".
~author unknown

[adgal]

First I want to tell you you are not alone.  I know that doesn't help right now, but you have a lot more support here then you could possibly know.  

There is no right or wrong answer in terms of when you should try again.  Medically, my Dr. always told me after my first full cycle it was safe to try again.  Emotionally, that depends on how you feel.  For me, it was always best to try again right away.  In fact, my 20 month old son was conceived immediately following a loss, with no period in between at all.  So have hope and know that this does not increase your chances of another loss. THe vast majority of us here have had full term healthy pregnancies after at least one loss, for some of us, after several.

The grieving process is also personal.  However, do allow yourself to grieve.  I often think that miscarriage is treated differently by so many in society, and we women are made to feel that we shouldn't grieve or that it shouldn't be so hard to go through.  It is painful, and I always found that allowing myself to feel, to talk about it, to scream, cry and grieve was healthy for me.

TIme helps.  And a supportive partner.  Do you have someone close to you that can be there for you?  Take good care of yourself and I am so very sorry for your loss.  I am here if you need to talk.  I've been there and I do understand.  (((hugs)))

[heemee]

How soon after a loss should I try to conceive again? what can I do to help me through this grief that I'm dealing with?  please if anyone has any suggestions I need help.

[ga_girl70]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost mine at around 7 1/2 weeks they think. I went in for the 12 week-listen to the heartbeat appointment and there wasn't one. Miscarrriages are common and happen to about 25% of all women. Most women just don't talk about it. After mine, I found out that my own mother had a miscarriage before me! Stay strong but let yourself grieve.

[adgal]

I am so very sorry.  I too have been through this, and I know it's a very difficult time.  Please know that often there are no real answers as to what went wrong.  It's just sadly something that happens to far more pregnancies then most of us even realize.  However, the good news is, most of us do go on to have healthy pregnancies even after a loss.  Take the time you need to grieve, and be good to yourself.  Take care.

[stacey10]

I am sorry for your loss and I had this happen to me twice, I thought I was 6wk and was measured at just over 4 wks, then I thought I was 8 wks and bub measured 6 wks, it can be very disheartening when this happens,  but I then went on to have a healthy bub so I'm sure this will happen for you to.

[heemee]

Thank you all for the responses, I did go back and the baby had no blood flow or heartbeat i had to have lamineria placed in cervix to dilate and then the next day they did a d&e so the fetus died at 6wks and 5 days. I have been going thru different emotions and really don't quite understand everything yet. I'm feeling very depressed right now. They sent it away to be tested and hopefully I can get some answers as to what went wrong.

[sebastian1976]

Don't worry it happens I was 7 1/2 weeks when the Dr. was able to hear a heart beat. Good luck on your pregnacy always think positive :)

[adgal]

If it was measuring correctly, that is a good sign.  Most times in a non viable pregnancy, growth will have stopped earlier.  So you have an ultrasound thinking your 6 weeks, and the sac is measuring 4.  

I guess for some Dr's 6 weeks is routine, but more commonly a viability ultrasound is 7 or 8 weeks to avoid exactly what your going through.  I'm glad your going back monday, and I bet all is just fine.  Don't forget to update us!!

[heemee]

Thanks, I just assumed all of this is a normal routine. The baby's size is on point but they couldn't find a hearbeat. Yes I do go back on 9/20 for another ultrasound thanks again your right my last period was 3 days early so maybe it is a little off a few days. I just hope I get a good result when I go back on Monday. I have been praying really hard that is wasn't time for them to hear the heart beat yet, but it will be stronger then ever when I go back.

[adgal]

Your right on that border.  The heartbeat typically will start between 5 1/2 and 6 1/2 weeks.  So all it takes is a late ovulation or late implantation, and it can start later then you might expect to see it.  That fetus is growing so quickly right now, and you would be amazed at the difference a few days can make.  Was there a reason they did an ultrasound so early?  I just feel that doing one before 7 weeks can really cause unnecessary worry.  And I assume they are repeating in a week or so?  I'm sure all is fine.  

[heemee]

thank you so much for the encouragement. I was feeling really down.

[aimwade]

That also happened to me at 6 wks 3 days.  I went back a week later and the heartbeat was very strong.  The ability to see things can also depend on the age of the machinery.  Don't stress too much!