still trying

[shish70]

hey i just found this site was trying to figure out why after 3 healthy girls aged 15 3 and 2 i have since the 17 of october had 2 SILENT miscarriages

Thinking to myself that it is possible because i am no 37 an too damn old

As i write i am waiting to go into hospital tomorrow for yet another medically managed miscarriage

Even although i have my girls and my partner i feel although the fates are being really cruel at the moment

[dakjilsim]

I know how you're feeling.  I just had my 2nd D&C in 3 months.  I have 3 wonderful kiddos too and don't understand why this is happening.  It's emotionally and physically draining.  I want to try again but I don't think I don' t know if I can handle another loss.  

I'm hoping to take the next couple of months off and just relax and try to be a regular person again.  I feel like I 've been so tense and worried.  

Try to relax and get some rest.  You've come to the right place for support.  I just found this site and I'm so glad because its nice to know there are other women who know how you're feeling.  

[adgal]

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I too am in the midst of a miscarriage at this moment,  and I know how you must be feeling.  I hope you don't give up.  This was my first pregnancy at 38, and I know I am going to try again as soon as I am able.  My Dr. told me that although our chances of m/c do rise a little after 35, there is still no real reason we can't go on the have healthy pregnancies and babies.  Hang in there, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[shish70]

thanks for kind words

pain is gettin severe so am off to have a couple of painkillers and put up feet hubby in from work now to look after the girls so mite have a shower too see if that helps

[AshleysMom]

So sorry for your losses, but don't give up hope!

I had 10 m/cs after DD and am now finally 20w2d.  All my tests came back normal, so they are still chalking it up to bad luck and aging eggs.  I just turned 40.  

[shish70]

thanks for the comment

i asked them at the epas clinic if they could test but they told me that they will test if i have 3 miscarriages in a row which seems really cruel to me but apparentley its procedure

[dsmommy]

The question of 'WHY?' things happen can sometimes drive us crazy.  You're not too old!  There are many women over 35 on here that can attest to that.  Sometimes it just takes longer for us the older we get.  Have you had any testing done to see if there is any medical reason you are miscarrying?  I think that would be my next step if I were you.  I really hope the best for you and although I haven't walked in your shoes I know it has got to be hard to sort thru all the emotions.  I hope you find some answers soon and also lean on your family for support!  Good Luck to you!

Dottie

[pcarsey]

Hi Shish- I am very sorry for your recent losses. Have you been tested to see why you can get pregnant but not carry them? Some women have a blood clotting disorder, some have other things going on also. I would have them do testing on the baby to see if they can find out anything that way. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss! You have come to the right place looking for support, many of us here have gone through the same thing as you and we know what it's like!
Take care and again.. I'm very sorry!
Patty